More is possible than we realize
When people know they don’t know something and they want to know about that something, they learn about it. So if you know that your relationships could be better, that it is possible stop worrying about the opinions of others, and that it is possible to eliminate the beliefs that keep you from being more successful in life—and you want to make improvements in these areas—you have several choices. You can search on Google to find out where to get help. You can ask friends what they did. You can read books and take courses. Etc. But what if you [...]
What do you really want out of life?
Every time we send our mailing list a survey asking what you want from the Lefkoe Institute, what you want out of life, or what you would like to change in your life, the most frequent answer we get is overcoming fear in order to take action. Other answers include: Eliminating other negative feelings and wanting to be more successful. On a recent questionnaire many of you mentioned wanting to make some type of contribution to others. Is that all there is to life? These are certainly worthwhile goals. I suspect that they are representative of what most people in [...]
What is the single biggest barrier to achieving your dreams?
If you really want to understand why you haven’t achieved what you want—why you haven’t been able to manifest your dreams—answer the following five questions. Are you usually afraid of starting something new? Do you have a lot of ideas but you never seem to put them into action? Do you procrastinate a lot? Do you tend to do things the same way all the time? Do you wonder why you aren’t more creative and innovative? If you answered, “yes,” to any of these questions you probably have a fear of failure. Let me explain why. Why would anyone be [...]
Is It Working For You?
In last week’s post I asked why most people don’t learn how to dissolve meaning when it makes such a profound improvement in their life and when they can learn the basic steps for doing without having to pay anything. That question resulted in over 50 responses so far. Thanks for taking the time to answer. I was fascinated reading all the different reasons people suggested. And that made me think: How many things in your life that don’t really work have you accepted because, “That’s just the way things are”? Is your life—the way it is right now—working for [...]
Emotional Eating: My Kindle Book Describes The Cause And Cure
I’ve had many breakthroughs over the years, from creating the Lefkoe Belief Process that quickly and permanently eliminates the beliefs that run our lives, to the various de-conditioning processes, to a process that dissolves the meaning we automatically and unconsciously add to events all day long. Two of the most exciting breakthroughs occurred just a few years ago when I figured out that the primary cause of emotional eating is behavioral conditioning, not beliefs, and then created a process that de-conditioned the triggers for emotional eating. I wrote a book describing my emotional eating breakthroughs After those breakthroughs I wrote [...]
How to control anger
The first time I really allowed myself to experience my anger I fainted. I was about 36 and had successfully suppressed my anger since childhood. And there I was in a group therapy session, hitting a mat with a stick with foam wrapped around it, screaming: “Mom, I’m really angry at you.” When I started the exercise I was only mouthing empty words, but then at some point the words became real and the anger surfaced. It terrified me so much that I literally passed out on the mat. I fainted the next couple of times I tried that exercise, [...]
Getting Rid of Beliefs is Not Enough
Because many emotions are caused by beliefs, getting rid of the relevant beliefs can frequently eradicate negative emotions. For example, the belief that “Dogs are dangerous” will result in an emotion of fear when confronting a dog. The belief “People can't be trusted” will result in a feeling of suspicion around people. When the beliefs are eliminated, the emotions usually will be also. There are, however, emotions in adults that appear to be caused by something in addition to beliefs. Getting rid of beliefs is not enough. Let me explain the source of these negative emotions, such as [...]
The Lefkoe Method Is Not Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
Often when I start to explain to someone how the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) works, they quickly respond, “Oh, you’re just doing Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)!” Although the LBP is similar in some ways to CBT (of which there are several variations), there are more things that are different than the same. (Because I am not trained in CBT, I have no first hand knowledge of it. But several people who are certified in CBT and who also are familiar with the LBP have helped me make the following distinctions between the two.) First, some versions of CBT attempt to change [...]
How To Find The Beliefs That Cause Various Problems
Getting rid of a limiting belief with the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) is not particularly difficult. We can train people to do that in a weekend. And we can create an on-line process or a DVD that will eliminate a specific belief. The trickiest aspect of the LBP is identifying all the relevant beliefs that cause a given problem. Getting rid of the beliefs is actually easier than finding them. That’s why we can put together programs that eliminate specific problems when we already know what beliefs (and conditionings) cause those problems for most people. So far we have created [...]
