More is possible than we realize
When people know they don’t know something and they want to know about that something, they learn about it. So if you know that your relationships could be better, that it is possible stop worrying about the opinions of others, and that it is possible to eliminate the beliefs that keep you from being more successful in life—and you want to make improvements in these areas—you have several choices. You can search on Google to find out where to get help. You can ask friends what they did. You can read books and take courses. Etc. But what if you [...]
Reach your audacious goals as
easily as your “normal” goals
As I’ve been teaching people how to engage in Possibilities Thinking™ (the Steve Jobs mindset that sees possibilities where others see limitations), I had an insight I’d like to share with you. Most of our goals can be reached by doing what we've already been doing … plus a little bit more, a little bit better and a little bit faster. Some goals, however, seem impossible; nothing we’ve ever done in the past is likely to be sufficient to reach them. What if we could become as effective in reaching these “impossible” goals as we already are in reaching our [...]
Much More is Possible than You Think
There are things you don’t know that you don’t know. And that fact, perhaps more than any other single thing, is keeping you from having the best life you could possibly have. If that sounds a bit confusing, please let me explain. When we don’t know and want to know When people know they don’t know something and they want to know about that something, they learn about it. So if you know that your relationships could be better, that it is possible stop worrying about the opinions of others, and that it is possible to eliminate the beliefs that [...]
Wouldn’t It Be Nice To Love More?
When I read about how people who had meditated for many years were able to experience increased love and compassion for virtually anyone, I thought: I’d like to have that experience. So I decided to see if I could create a process that would enable others and me to achieve that very exciting goal without requiring the many years of meditation. I developed a process that I tried with the 20 people in my last Advanced Lefkoe Freedom Course. It was effective for most of them. Here is a description of exactly what we did. Try this exercise yourself and [...]
If I Can Do It, Anyone Can
I frequently get emails and phone calls from people who have been struggling for many years, people who are unhappy with their lives much of the time. They ask: Is there anything that could possibly improve my life and allow me to be truly happy? The best way to answer that question is to relate a personal story. For most of my life I woke up every morning afraid to face the day. I was depressed and unhappy almost all the time. I had screwed up two marriages and was arguing a lot in my third. I was obsessively concerned [...]
You can have much more happiness than you realize
Most people are more interested in avoiding or relieving pain than in achieving and experiencing happiness. Thus most people go into psychotherapy or pursue “self-help” programs to overcome "problems"—such as changing some negative, undesirable behavior (e.g., procrastination or not taking action to further one's goals) or stopping some negative undesirable emotions (e.g., fear or depression). Far fewer people ask for help when they aren’t experiencing some obvious problem. In other words, relatively few people strive to improve their lives when it already seems to be “working.” Much more is possible There’s nothing wrong with that approach. I'd like to suggest, [...]
Would you like to feel unconditional love?
Would you like to experience more love and compassion for people and less judgment and criticism? Most people would and lots of people have described how to do this: adopt a serious meditation program and after years and years of consistent practice, you probably will achieve your goal. I’ve written in the past about my ability to not only feel unconditional love for my wife Shelly and two daughters, but also for friends and associates. And I have pretty much stopped judging and criticizing people. Because I’ve never been a serious meditator, I was clear that meditation wasn’t the only [...]
Why you resist letting go of your negative feelings
Have you ever noticed that sometimes you have a hard time letting go of a negative emotion that feels really painful, an emotion you wish you could make disappear? In today’s post I’ll explain why that happens and also give you a few techniques to lessen the intensity of those unpleasant feelings. (I provided one such technique in an earlier post, https://www.mortylefkoe.com/upset-today-upset/#.) Why we resist letting go of painful feelings When a man says: “I am a man, or a woman says: “I am a woman”, they are describing who they experience themselves to be. They are describing part of [...]
I was upset today … really upset
As I started to get dressed this morning it hit me. “It” was this overwhelming feeling of unhappiness, heaviness, and upset. I felt miserable. I did not want to go to work. I hadn’t felt this badly in many months. I hadn’t felt this way when I had awakened a couple of hours earlier. I had jumped out of bed when the alarm went off after getting plenty of sleep. I had put on my robe and gone down to my desk as I always do to spend about 45 minutes answering emails and preparing my schedule for the day. [...]
