How to improve the quality of your life
I’ve said on many occasions that all of us at the Lefkoe Institute are committed to helping you improve the quality of your life. But I don’t think I’ve ever defined what I mean by “improving the quality of your life.” It is possible to have a life where you are surviving very well, in other words, you have plenty of money to meet your needs and plenty of friends. In such a situation I would say you are surviving very well, but that doesn’t mean you are necessarily thriving. You might not be depressed or be run by anxiety, [...]
How to create the space for others to grow around you
A guest post by Shelly Lefkoe As most of you know my beloved husband Morty has been through quite a journey. He was diagnosed with lymphoma some time ago and a few months ago became very, very ill. At that time our daughter Blake flew in from Hawaii for an indefinite stay to help care for him (she stayed three weeks); my other daughter Brittany came in from San Francisco where she now lives to spend a few days with us; my best friend of 50 years came from Nashville to stay with us for a week. During the week [...]
More is possible than we realize
When people know they don’t know something and they want to know about that something, they learn about it. So if you know that your relationships could be better, that it is possible stop worrying about the opinions of others, and that it is possible to eliminate the beliefs that keep you from being more successful in life—and you want to make improvements in these areas—you have several choices. You can search on Google to find out where to get help. You can ask friends what they did. You can read books and take courses. Etc. But what if you [...]
Aphorisms are fun to read but are they useful?
The aphorisms that cover the screens on Facebook and Google+ are what the people posting them consider to be important “information” they want to remind you of. Essentially they are saying, “Live this way and improve the quality of your life.” But if you take a look at the aphorisms you like and respond to, the ones that you nod to and say: “Yeah, that makes perfect sense”—notice that the ones you like are the ones you either already agree with or that made immediate sense to you. So the aphorism is not necessarily telling you something new, something that [...]
Beliefs are as important as biochemistry in addictions
For 30 years I have been contending that unlearning beliefs will change behavior, including addictive behavior. Despite the fact that many thousands of people have made radical behavioral changes as a result of eliminating beliefs, I continue to get emails from people who state: “There is clear scientific evidence that addictions are biophysical. They are the result of chemical responses and conditionings. Getting rid of a few beliefs can’t possibly cure addictions.” Well, a recent scientific study concluded, "… cognitive beliefs could be as potent as pharmacological interventions in terms of modifying biophysical processes in the brain and changing behavior [...]
You can’t deal effectively with reality if you don’t know what it is
If you’ve been reading my recent blogs you learned that one benefit of dissolving your occurrings (the meanings you assign to the countless events that you encounter daily) is getting rid of virtually all your negative feelings and emotional stress. I then wrote about another benefit: creating possibilities that didn’t exist for you before. Today I want to explain a third benefit of dissolving occurrings, one that is at least as important as the first two: Dissolving your occurrings enables you to deal with “what is,” instead of an imagined “what is” that has meaning (usually negative) attached. That enables [...]
Reach your audacious goals as
easily as your “normal” goals
As I’ve been teaching people how to engage in Possibilities Thinking™ (the Steve Jobs mindset that sees possibilities where others see limitations), I had an insight I’d like to share with you. Most of our goals can be reached by doing what we've already been doing … plus a little bit more, a little bit better and a little bit faster. Some goals, however, seem impossible; nothing we’ve ever done in the past is likely to be sufficient to reach them. What if we could become as effective in reaching these “impossible” goals as we already are in reaching our [...]
Much More is Possible than You Think
There are things you don’t know that you don’t know. And that fact, perhaps more than any other single thing, is keeping you from having the best life you could possibly have. If that sounds a bit confusing, please let me explain. When we don’t know and want to know When people know they don’t know something and they want to know about that something, they learn about it. So if you know that your relationships could be better, that it is possible stop worrying about the opinions of others, and that it is possible to eliminate the beliefs that [...]
How to be more successful than you ever have been
A few weeks ago I wrote: “I’m excited to be able to report that I am now convinced that you can drastically increase your ability to be significantly more successful in all areas of life, including your ability to make more money and accumulate more wealth.” When I wrote that I wasn't sure how to do it; I was only confident that it could be done. As I’ve written in the past, one of my favorite things is to promise to do something I don’t know how to do and then figure out how to do it. Well, I finally [...]
