Beliefs are as important as biochemistry in addictions
For 30 years I have been contending that unlearning beliefs will change behavior, including addictive behavior. Despite the fact that many thousands of people have made radical behavioral changes as a result of eliminating beliefs, I continue to get emails from people who state: “There is clear scientific evidence that addictions are biophysical. They are the result of chemical responses and conditionings. Getting rid of a few beliefs can’t possibly cure addictions.” Well, a recent scientific study concluded, "… cognitive beliefs could be as potent as pharmacological interventions in terms of modifying biophysical processes in the brain and changing behavior [...]
You can’t deal effectively with reality if you don’t know what it is
If you’ve been reading my recent blogs you learned that one benefit of dissolving your occurrings (the meanings you assign to the countless events that you encounter daily) is getting rid of virtually all your negative feelings and emotional stress. I then wrote about another benefit: creating possibilities that didn’t exist for you before. Today I want to explain a third benefit of dissolving occurrings, one that is at least as important as the first two: Dissolving your occurrings enables you to deal with “what is,” instead of an imagined “what is” that has meaning (usually negative) attached. That enables [...]
Reach your audacious goals as
easily as your “normal” goals
As I’ve been teaching people how to engage in Possibilities Thinking™ (the Steve Jobs mindset that sees possibilities where others see limitations), I had an insight I’d like to share with you. Most of our goals can be reached by doing what we've already been doing … plus a little bit more, a little bit better and a little bit faster. Some goals, however, seem impossible; nothing we’ve ever done in the past is likely to be sufficient to reach them. What if we could become as effective in reaching these “impossible” goals as we already are in reaching our [...]
Much More is Possible than You Think
There are things you don’t know that you don’t know. And that fact, perhaps more than any other single thing, is keeping you from having the best life you could possibly have. If that sounds a bit confusing, please let me explain. When we don’t know and want to know When people know they don’t know something and they want to know about that something, they learn about it. So if you know that your relationships could be better, that it is possible stop worrying about the opinions of others, and that it is possible to eliminate the beliefs that [...]
The future is not a function of the past
A client in my “Year With Morty” course recently reminded me of a principle I usually live out of, but had not thought about consciously for some time. I immediately realized that it was a great topic for a blog post. Here’s the way my client put it: Last year I tripled the revenue from my business. I started to figure out how much more we could increase revenues in 2015 and I suddenly realized that what we did last year really has nothing to do with our revenues this year. This year’s revenues will be a function of what [...]
How to have more possibilities and opportunities than most people
Last week I reminded you that dissolving the meaning we give events all day long will virtually stop your negative feelings and stress. Then I gave you a link to a web App that would allow you to do just that whenever you noticed a negative feeling. If you have a hard time believing that merely dissolving meaning will totally eliminate stress, read what Rob Shapiro, an emergency room doctor, wrote me just a couple of weeks ago about his experience of dissolving meaning: … all stress experienced by my body and mind at my job had been completely eliminated. [...]
Get rid of your upsets in three minutes
It’s finally ready and it’s yours at no charge. For the past few years I’ve been telling you how to dissolve the automatic and unconscious meaning you give events all day long. I’ve explained how doing that will enable you to virtually get rid of your negative emotions, which will stop your stress and emotional suffering. It will take less than three minutes Although I have taught hundreds of people in our Lefkoe Freedom Course how to reduce the frequency of the meaning they attribute to moment-to-moment events from 50+ a day to just several a week, I didn’t have [...]
If only…
Most of us live in a world of, “If only … things would all work out, I’d be successful, and I’d be happy” If only I had more money, all my problems would disappear. If only I loved someone who really loved me, my life would be complete. If only I weighed less and looked better, I’d be happy. If only …. If only …. Stop for a minute and reflect: How often do you live in a world of, “If only ….”? The underlying premise of, “If only something were different,” is that most, if not all, of your [...]
Is Buddhism correct to say suffering is inevitable?
Statue of Buddha The Buddha said that suffering is inevitable. Our experience seems to confirm that. In the course of an average week, most of us experience some emotional suffering as the result of feeling at least some unhappiness, upset, fear, or anger. To what do we almost always attribute the source of these unpleasant and painful emotions? Almost always we say the cause is something or someone outside ourselves: Losing a job or a loved one, being betrayed by a friend, lack of money, etc. We think: If only the people responsible for my upset would act [...]
