There are things you don’t know that you don’t know. And that fact, perhaps more than any other single thing, is keeping you from having the best life you could possibly have. If that sounds a bit confusing, please let me explain.

When we don’t know and want to know

Man Pushing A Big StoneWhen people know they don’t know something and they want to know about that something, they learn about it. So if you know that your relationships could be better, that it is possible stop worrying about the opinions of others, and that it is possible to eliminate the beliefs that keep you from being more successful in life … and you want to make improvements in these areas, you have several choices. You can search on Google to find out where to get help. You can ask friends what they did. You can read books and take courses. Etc.

But what if you think that relationships can’t get any better than what you already have … even if yours is not very good? What if you think that everyone is worried about what others think of them and that it’s human nature to need to be liked and accepted by others? And what if you think that beliefs can’t be eliminated permanently or that you will never be successful, not matter how hard you try?

Such people are not looking for a solution because they don’t think one exists. Actually it’s worse than that: far too many people don’t even realize that there is anything wrong.

In other words, if you don’t know that there is something better in life and that you can achieve it, then you will not even search for it.

That so many people don’t know that their lives can be better has created a “problem” for the Lefkoe Institute. We offer people something profoundly valuable that most of them aren’t even looking for: the ability to permanently eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that cause most of the difficulties in their lives, thereby permanently improving their lives.

People don’t look for what they don’t know exists

Hardly anyone searches for someone to help her permanently eliminate beliefs because most people think that is impossible. No one searches for someone to help them de-condition stimuli that cause negative feelings (such as anxiety and anger) because hardly anyone knows that such feelings can be the result of conditioning and that de-conditioning will get rid of the negative emotions.

Interestingly enough, although a lot of people do search for a way to relieve stress, they don’t realize that if they dissolved the meaning they unconsciously and automatically gave to events all day long, their negative feelings and stress would cease. As a result no one searches for a way to dissolve his moment-to-moment meanings

Do you ever search for how to experience
“nothing is missing”?

The best example of people not searching for what they don’t know is possible is the experience people have when they do the Who Am I Really? (WAIR?)Process. That Process enables people to make a distinction between themselves as the “creator” and as a “creation.” They get that they are not their beliefs, nor are they the behavior and feelings that come from those beliefs. People who use WAIR? experience that who they really are is the creator of those beliefs, or, putting it more accurately, who they (actually, who all of us) really are is non-dual consciousness or pure energy.

As a result they have the profound sense that they are not their lives, they are the creator of their lives, and, as such, there is nothing missing, anything is possible, and they have no limitations. Very few people ever search Google for how to get that experience.

Unfortunately, people don’t search for the most profound experiences in life because they don’t know they exist. Moreover, even for many of those who do realize that such experiences can possibly exist, there is a sense that they will never find a way to have them

Change you never thought possible, is possible

So here is my message to you this week: Profound, fundamental change is possible. It is possible to live a joyous, exciting, fulfilling life. It is possible to dissolve negative feelings in an instant by dissolving the meaning you have given the events in your life. It is possible to permanently eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that cause most of the problems in your life. It is possible to experience yourself as the creator of your life, with nothing missing and anything being possible.

There may be beliefs and conditionings in the way; you may feel unhappy due to the meaning you give to daily events (your occurrings); eating may be your conditioned response to a number of triggers; you may not have what you want in certain aspects of your life; you may experience anxiety much of the time; and you may have any one of a number of common, everyday problems (such as procrastination, lack of confidence, and constant stress) … and it is possible to overcome all of these and live a really great life.

I know, because my life was a total mess for over 50 years and now it is bliss almost all of the time. And I am not the only one who has achieved this state. Please don’t ever give up the possibility that your life can be all you’ve ever dreamed it could be—and, even more importantly, much more than those dreams. It can be.


Thanks for reading my blog. What do you think of the idea that there are things we don’t know that we don’t know? That we don’t try to improve things we think are normal. And that we don’t look for solutions when we think none exist? Please share your thoughts with other readers below. Disagreement is as welcome as agreement. Your comments add value for thousands of readers. I love to read them all and I will respond to as many as I can.

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  1. Education Help July 29, 2015 at 11:46 pm - Reply

    Great! I am going to check out the article its very informative thanks to share this.

  2. Esperanza April 5, 2015 at 9:06 am - Reply

    Yes. Letting go of unlimited beliefs to dive into the Unknown…is the world of Possibilities and Abundance = our true Reality! Thanks Morty for your Vision.

    Esperanza Montalvo

  3. Attila Beres April 4, 2015 at 11:08 am - Reply

    Most of the things we don`t know about don`t really matter anyway. The most important thing is to realize who we really are spiritually and re-identify ourselves with it firmly. Then to get to know about things that can bring about happiness and fulfillment in our lives we need to be seeking the greatest masters of these fields and with a commitment to constant growth we`ll be shown what we need to know in order to stay aligned with our decision. This will keep us on the cutting edge. There is a natural tendency in the soul for growth anyway which we can slow down with our resistance through our limiting beliefs, but these beliefs will eventually be let go one-by-one anyway at a slower pace, enabling us to discover things we could never have imagined, or by more sudden means of catastrophic losses, crises or spontaneous instances of enlightenment and peak experiences.

  4. rajeev April 1, 2015 at 10:48 pm - Reply

    Dear Morty,

    In the month of october 2014 I was laid off. I was confident that I will land a job immediately but it took me more than 4 months to land a job.

    In the month of feb 2015 I got a new job. Right from the day one I didn’t like the job, the management was abusive, non-cooperative and so on.

    I tried to dissolve the meaning I was giving to the event.

    Everyday I was motivating myself to work and do better in this job, atleast stick to this job till I get better offer.

    After almost 15 days I quit, even though my financial situation being bad.

    Now it has been almost a month I feel that I have lost my drive and I have not applied to any job.

    I feel not like working or doing anything.

    When I was working in the new job, I was thinking that I will get another job immediately, there are many jobs in the market, this job sucks, I am worthy of better job and so on.

    The reality is different then what we think. The reality is market is tough.

    What would you suggest.

  5. Rhonda April 1, 2015 at 5:33 pm - Reply

    This was very powerful – “As a result they have the profound sense that they are not their lives, they are the creator of their lives, and, as such, there is nothing missing, anything is possible, and they have no limitations.”

    Moving! Powerful! Thank you!

  6. Deb April 1, 2015 at 1:23 pm - Reply

    I discovered “You don’t know what you don’t know” some years ago and it’s been a God send. Applying it to aspects of shame, guilt, remorse for situations in my past have allowed me to let go, let God, many times since. Thanks for sharing and for all your wonderful efforts.

  7. Shankar April 1, 2015 at 9:05 am - Reply

    “There are things you don’t know that you don’t know.” This thought is humbling. More so, when we equate physical age with wisdom and routinely interchange these words..

  8. Brent April 1, 2015 at 6:04 am - Reply

    I love your work, but I’ve grown a little skeptical it can work in my case, for whatever reason, because I went through the public speaking DVDs and did the WAIR process online, and unfortunately not much really changed for me. Maybe very slight improvement, but nothing dramatic. I must be blocking things somehow.

    • Morty Lefkoe April 1, 2015 at 8:33 am - Reply

      Hi Brent,

      It sounds like you are kinesthetic and the DVDs you purchased were made before we created a belief-elimination process that was totally effective for kinesthetic people.

      Please call our office and see if we can figure out a way to help you. (415) 506-4472.


  9. Nicholas Godwin April 1, 2015 at 4:18 am - Reply

    The words here felt like energy emanating from the page. The fact that I CAN chose and therefore BECOME what I choose feels so empowering. Thanks for this Morty.

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