Four Tips To Determine The Best Self-Improvement Program
If you are one of the tens of millions of people interested in self-improvement—and if you’re reading this blog you probably are—taking responsibility for improving your life is something you just take for granted. Wouldn’t everyone want to change for the better? Wouldn’t everyone do whatever they could to free themselves from their suffering? Actually, the surprising answer to these questions is, no. Only a relatively small percent of the total population is interested in self-improvement. We have to be ready to grow before we get interested in improving. Abraham Maslow, a psychologist who is known for postulating a “Hierarchy [...]
Maybe You’ve Been Unable To Change So Far …
Last week Almog left a comment on my blog post that I think is the best explanation I received on why many people don’t take advantage of what they learn that will improve their lives—even when there is little or no cost involved: I can think of a reason why most [people] don’t turn to receive help. That reason is, that they BELIEVE that things cannot change. Some beliefs that cause this could be: “Change is difficult/impossible”, “I’m powerless”, “Nothing I do changes anything”, “It’s not worth trying to change my life”, etc. These beliefs are obviously caused by [...]
You can have much more happiness than you realize
Most people are more interested in avoiding or relieving pain than in achieving and experiencing happiness. Thus most people go into psychotherapy or pursue “self-help” programs to overcome "problems"—such as changing some negative, undesirable behavior (e.g., procrastination or not taking action to further one's goals) or stopping some negative undesirable emotions (e.g., fear or depression). Far fewer people ask for help when they aren’t experiencing some obvious problem. In other words, relatively few people strive to improve their lives when it already seems to be “working.” Much more is possible There’s nothing wrong with that approach. I'd like to suggest, [...]
Why don’t you want to improve your life?
According to numerous surveys, every day literally millions of people suffer … from negative feelings (like anxiety, anger, and guilt). from a fear of taking action (procrastination). from the inability to have a truly nurturing relationship (you either can’t find a good one, can’t leave a bad one, or don’t know how to improve an merely okay one). from an unsatisfying work life (either not doing what you really enjoy or doing what you want and not making enough money doing it). from self-sabotaging behavior. from worrying about what others think about us and doing things just to have others [...]
Five ways to avoid mental pain and suffering
Do you experience mental pain and suffering from time to time? Most of us have those unpleasant experiences far more often than we’d like, so we search for a way to get rid of them. Here are several possible approaches. First, we can try to suppress them. If we aren’t aware of them, they can’t hurt us. We aren’t necessarily consciously aware of shutting down and numbing ourselves to our internal state, but doing this is a common approach to stopping our experience of unpleasant feelings. Unfortunately, no matter how hard we try, it is very difficult to suppress pain [...]
How is TLM different from psychotherapy?
The Lefkoe Method (TLM) is very different both from most personal growth techniques and most forms of psychotherapy. To begin with, TLM is not merely about personal growth—although it does deliver that. It goes well beyond that in promising that specific behavioral and emotional problems—such as depression, eating disorders, a wide variety of negative emotions like fear and anger, and many dysfunctional behaviors—can be totally eliminated. Although personal growth products are all different in their claims, for the most part they offer emotional and behavioral improvements, not the total elimination of existing problems. In that respect TLM (which consists of [...]
Are you trying to get better?
Have you been trying to “get better”—to make a significant improvement in your life—without real success? If so, then you are one of the tens of millions of people who either are in psychotherapy or part of the personal growth movement—reading books, attending workshops, and using digital products—in an attempt to reduce your anxiety and suffering and increase your happiness. Unfortunately the success rate for these people is not very high. Although there is often some improvement, the negative self-talk, some noticeable anxiety, and an obsessive concern with the opinions of others usually continue after years of therapy and many [...]
Do You Need Training To Use The Lefkoe Method?
Are you one of the people who figured out how to use the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) after eliminating a few beliefs on htp://www.recreateyourlife.com/free where we offer three beliefs for free? Many people are able to eliminate beliefs by themselves after going through the LBP a few times, whereas others are unable to do it themselves if they’ve never received training even after eliminating 20-30 beliefs. Once you’ve figured out what belief you want to eliminate, going through the steps of the LBP can be relatively easy for some people. The steps are the same in most cases, although the [...]
You Create Your Experience of Reality
When you realize that you never saw your beliefs in the world, that you only saw events that had no inherent meaning, it becomes clear that you create your beliefs—and, ultimately, reality as you experience it. Thus, everything we say is “out there”—other than what we sense (in other words, what we touch, see, hear, smell, or taste)—is a distinction we create that exists only in our mind. Creation is the act of making distinctions For example, you walk down the street and think you actually see “men” and “women,” when you actually only perceive what we have defined as [...]
