What is Unconditional Love Really?
It was three o’clock in the morning and Morty awoke with an insight that rocked him to his core. We were in Costa Rica and I had just done a parenting talk. He looked at me and said, “You can’t love unconditionally if you judge someone.” I said, “That’s not true, I love unconditionally and I sometimes judge.” He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, “You may love unconditionally, but when you are judging someone the person you love won’t feel unconditionally loved. So therefore in order to really express unconditional love, there has to [...]
What is Unconditional Love Really?
It was three o’clock in the morning and Morty awoke with an insight that rocked him to his core. We were in Costa Rica and I had just done a parenting talk. He looked at me and said, “You can’t love unconditionally if you judge someone.” I said, “That’s not true, I love unconditionally and I sometimes judge.” He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, “You may love unconditionally, but when you are judging someone the person you love won’t feel unconditionally loved. So therefore in order to really express unconditional love, there has to [...]
What is Unconditional Love Really?
Why I'm Re-Posting This Article I [Shelly Lefkoe] wrote the following post before my beloved husband passed on Nov. 11, 2015. It was three o’clock in the morning and Morty awoke with an insight that rocked him to his core. We were in Costa Rica and I had just done a parenting talk. He looked at me and said, “You can’t love unconditionally if you judge someone.” I said, “That’s not true, I love unconditionally and I sometimes judge.” He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, “You may love unconditionally, but when you are judging someone the [...]
What’s possible for a human being?
This week I’m about to undertake one of the most exciting experiments I’ve ever conducted. I’ve accepted six participants into my new program, a Year With Morty, which starts this week. The purpose of this program is for me to see how far I can help each one of them stretch the limits of what’s possible for a human being during 50 weekly one-on-one sessions and two three-day retreats. It starts this week. (I had planned to only accept five applicants; the sixth person was someone I was so excited about working with that I could not say, no.) A [...]
One path to self-actualization
This past weekend I attended a workshop that led to me look back at my growth and some of the pivotal points in my life. I want to share them with you because you might be on a similar path and understanding the path I’ve taken might make your own journey much clearer. The first stage As regular readers of this blog know all too well, for the first 38 years of my life I was miserable. Between my depression, my neediness, my two divorces, my dissatisfaction with work, and being scared and upset much of the times, I was [...]
What do you really want out of life?
Every time we send our mailing list a survey asking what you want from the Lefkoe Institute, what you want out of life, or what you would like to change in your life, the most frequent answer we get is overcoming fear in order to take action. Other answers include: Eliminating other negative feelings and wanting to be more successful. On a recent questionnaire many of you mentioned wanting to make some type of contribution to others. Is that all there is to life? These are certainly worthwhile goals. I suspect that they are representative of what most people in [...]
Use your mind to affect your physical state
Two weeks ago I wrote the following in a post entitled, “Another major breakthrough is on the horizon”: I now think there is something very important that will come from integrating the ability to stop giving meaning, the almost total absence of stress (which has been implicated in almost every minor and major health problem), experiencing unconditional love for people, the fact that our language and the words we use to objectively describe reality already contain meaning that produces significant changes in the body, being able to access the WAIR? altered state of consciousness at will, and the placebo effect [...]
How Can I Help You?
I’ve spent the last few days experiencing extreme gratitude for my healing (see note below for details on my health condition). That gratitude led me to wonder what I could do to support you, my readers. What could I write about, what could I offer you, what could I do for you to express my love and appreciation for your support of me? And not just those of you who took the time to write me: What could I do to express the deep love I feel for each one of you? Each week I try to provide some useful [...]
Wouldn’t It Be Nice To Love More?
When I read about how people who had meditated for many years were able to experience increased love and compassion for virtually anyone, I thought: I’d like to have that experience. So I decided to see if I could create a process that would enable others and me to achieve that very exciting goal without requiring the many years of meditation. I developed a process that I tried with the 20 people in my last Advanced Lefkoe Freedom Course. It was effective for most of them. Here is a description of exactly what we did. Try this exercise yourself and [...]
