Why Focusing On Everyday Contributions Gives You A Juicy Life
Sometimes, I get out of bed and just miss my husband. Or I wake up thinking, “Will I ever have a relationship again?” At other times, it’s “Oh no, I still have the 10 pandemic pounds to lose.” But then I sit down for my first session. My client's face shows up on screen and I’m filled with a joy and aliveness that fills every cell in my body. After eliminating beliefs that have caused them pain their whole lives, I see my client's face light up. She feels excited about the possibilities she now sees. This has filled [...]
How to have universal love with the wave metaphor
They were trapped by dolphins. Several dolphins swam circles around a group of four swimmers. When one swimmer, Rob Howe, tried to break away from the group, two of the bigger dolphins pushed him back. Soon he saw the reason -- a 30-foot-long great shark. "I just recoiled," Rob said. "It was only about two meters [12-feet] away from me, the water was crystal clear and it was as clear as the nose on my face. They had corralled us up to protect us." This incident is one of many in which dolphins go out of their way to [...]
What is Unconditional Love Really?
It was three o’clock in the morning and Morty awoke with an insight that rocked him to his core. We were in Costa Rica and I had just done a parenting talk. He looked at me and said, “You can’t love unconditionally if you judge someone.” I said, “That’s not true, I love unconditionally and I sometimes judge.” He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, “You may love unconditionally, but when you are judging someone the person you love won’t feel unconditionally loved. So therefore in order to really express unconditional love, there has to [...]
Why Focusing On Everyday Contributions Gives You A Juicy Life
Sometimes I get out of bed and just miss my husband. Or I wake up thinking “Will I ever have a relationship again?” At other times it’s “Oh no, I still have the 10 pandemic pounds to lose.” But then I sit down for my first session. My client's face shows up on screen and I’m filled with a joy and aliveness that fills every cell in my body. After eliminating beliefs that have caused them pain their whole lives, I see my client's face light up. She feels excited about the possibilities she now sees. This has filled me [...]
What is Unconditional Love Really?
It was three o’clock in the morning and Morty awoke with an insight that rocked him to his core. We were in Costa Rica and I had just done a parenting talk. He looked at me and said, “You can’t love unconditionally if you judge someone.” I said, “That’s not true, I love unconditionally and I sometimes judge.” He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said, “You may love unconditionally, but when you are judging someone the person you love won’t feel unconditionally loved. So therefore in order to really express unconditional love, there has to [...]
How to have universal love with the wave metaphor
The dolphins wouldn't let them go. Several dolphins swam circles around a group of four swimmers. When one swimmer, Rob Howe, tried to break away from the group, two of the bigger dolphins pushed him back. Soon he saw the reason -- a 30-foot-long great shark. "I just recoiled," Rob said. "It was only about two meters [12-feet] away from me, the water was crystal clear and it was as clear as the nose on my face. They had corralled us up to protect us." This incident is one of many in which dolphins go out of their way to [...]
How to have more mini-moments of love (even if you are stuck at home)
In the 1960's women in the Swedish countryside would sing a wordless song that could be heard for miles away. This wordless singing is called kulning and had been practiced in Sweden as far back as the medieval period. Then women had to herd cattle alone and without horses. They discovered they could literally call the cows home with these beautiful, lyricless melodies. These women created a way to lure wayward cattle home at the end of the day even though they lacked a resource such as horses. Similarly, we can create an approach to bring more moments of love [...]
How to find treasured moments of connection (even if you’re on lock down)
A kea trying to break into a car Several New Zealand teenagers scattered traffic cones around the entrance to a tunnel, far from where they had originally been placed. These teenagers were not human beings. They were a group of rare parrots called kea who tend to create mischief wherever they go. Kea have been found to strip the rubber from car windshield wipers. They even strip the coating from electrical wires. However, their latest antics with the traffic cones are a bit of public danger, so members of the New Zealand Transport Agency (NZTA) felt they needed to [...]
How to become more loving
This week, I'd like to talk about a topic that was near and dear to my husband Morty's heart. The power of unconditional love. When Morty and I got married over thirty years ago, I asked him why he loved me. I didn't like his answer. "Just because I do," he said. I wanted to know why he loved me. I wanted to know what qualities he most liked about me. But instead of telling me he kept saying that he just loved me, and for no particular reason. I like how Morty describes the rest of this conversation when [...]
