How is TLM different from psychotherapy?
The Lefkoe Method (TLM) is very different both from most personal growth techniques and most forms of psychotherapy. To begin with, TLM is not merely about personal growth—although it does deliver that. It goes well beyond that in promising that specific behavioral and emotional problems—such as depression, eating disorders, a wide variety of negative emotions like fear and anger, and many dysfunctional behaviors—can be totally eliminated. Although personal growth products are all different in their claims, for the most part they offer emotional and behavioral improvements, not the total elimination of existing problems. In that respect TLM (which consists of [...]
Is it really all going to turn out?
I have a test for you. All you have to do to pass it is to answer one question honestly. For many of us that might be difficult because we might not want to know the answer. Here is the question: Do you really feel that it’s all going to turn out for you? No, I didn’t ask if you wanted it to turn out. Of course you do. I asked do you really feel, deep down, that it’s all going to turn out for you. Do you really feel you will have a long-lasting nurturing, loving relationship? That you [...]
Are they really disasters?
How many times have you had a experience that seemed to be a disappointment at the time and that, months or years later, turned out to be a blessing in disguise? I think all of us could think of many such instances. Looking back at such experiences we often realize they weren’t nearly as bad as they seemed. In fact, sometimes they even turned out to have a lot of benefits. Yet at the time they seemed like disasters. What if we didn’t have to wait for months or years to see the value in such experiences? What if it [...]
"Useful" versus "transformational"
Many of you have taken several excellent courses and have read many brilliant books, and you now know exactly what you need to do to have your life be the way you want it to be. The problem is you have beliefs and conditionings in the way of effectively using what you’ve learned. Once you add transformation to the information, the barriers to success and happiness will be gone. Let me explain. Most good workshops and courses provide interesting realizations: You might discover ways in which you sabotage yourself that you had not previously been aware of. Or you realize [...]
Get rid of the pain in your painful memories
Do you have memories that recur from time to time that are painful? Are there events from the past that upset you every time you recall them? Events such as breaking up after a long-term love affair, or getting fired from a job, or not getting something you had expected to get. If so, I have some good news for you. I am going to show you how you can quickly and easily dissolve the meaning you gave those “painful” events so that you will be able to recall them without the emotional discomfort that usually accompanies them. Dissolve [...]
Why what people do and say sometimes seems insane
Have you ever listened to something a friend or loved one said to you and thought: “They have to be insane! That makes no sense at all!” And what about things they do? Aren’t you flabbergasted when a friend or loved one doesn’t do something they promised to do or not returned a call for days? So much of what people do and say make little or no sense to us. Why? Things people say and do don’t make sense to us because we assume that they are giving events the same meaning we do. If we realized that [...]
A realization while on vacation in NYC
I am writing this in New York City, almost 3,000 miles from my home in the San Francisco Bay area. My wife Shelly took me here for a week to celebrate my 75th birthday. I had planned to skip my blog post this week (I think I’ve only missed one post in three years), but I decided to share some insights I’ve had as I’ve walked miles every day, seeing sights I haven’t seen for over 10 years. Over a year ago I wrote a post about moods, asking you what you thought a mood was. The response of over [...]
Do you need positive self-esteem beliefs?
Many of you have contacted us after eliminating a negative belief using the Lefkoe Belief Process, asking how you can create a positive belief in its place. I explained why that isn’t necessary (or even possible) in a prior blog post: https://www.mortylefkoe.com/010510/# I’ve recently had some new insights about how to have a positive sense of yourself that expands on that earlier explanation. A positive sense of yourself can be experienced in two different ways: as the “creator” or the “creation.” A positive sense of yourself is both the natural experience of the “creator” and the result of specific beliefs [...]
Do You Want To Create New Possibilities In Your Life?
Recently I wrote about how our beliefs become reality for us, determining our behavior and feelings. Because how we view reality determines the possibilities for action that are open for us, by eliminating limiting beliefs you are able to literally create new possibilities in your life. Let me give you an example. Assume you had the beliefs: I’m not loveable. Relationships don’t work. Men/women can’t be trusted. With these beliefs, what are the possibilities that you could have a really good, nurturing, long-term romantic relationship? … Slim to nil, right? Now let’s assume you completely eliminate those beliefs. Can you [...]
