How is TLM different from psychotherapy?
The Lefkoe Method (TLM) is very different both from most personal growth techniques and most forms of psychotherapy. To begin with, TLM is not merely about personal growth—although it does deliver that. It goes well beyond that in promising that specific behavioral and emotional problems—such as depression, eating disorders, a wide variety of negative emotions like fear and anger, and many dysfunctional behaviors—can be totally eliminated. Although personal growth products are all different in their claims, for the most part they offer emotional and behavioral improvements, not the total elimination of existing problems. In that respect TLM (which consists of [...]
Why what people do and say sometimes seems insane
Have you ever listened to something a friend or loved one said to you and thought: “They have to be insane! That makes no sense at all!” And what about things they do? Aren’t you flabbergasted when a friend or loved one doesn’t do something they promised to do or not returned a call for days? So much of what people do and say make little or no sense to us. Why? Things people say and do don’t make sense to us because we assume that they are giving events the same meaning we do. If we realized that [...]
Are you trying to get better?
Have you been trying to “get better”—to make a significant improvement in your life—without real success? If so, then you are one of the tens of millions of people who either are in psychotherapy or part of the personal growth movement—reading books, attending workshops, and using digital products—in an attempt to reduce your anxiety and suffering and increase your happiness. Unfortunately the success rate for these people is not very high. Although there is often some improvement, the negative self-talk, some noticeable anxiety, and an obsessive concern with the opinions of others usually continue after years of therapy and many [...]
Stop beating yourself up
There’s “good news” and “bad news” about the many personal growth improvement courses. The good news is that many of them actually provide information, which, if used, will improve your life. The bad news is that many of us have beliefs that prevent us from implementing the good advice. And there’s even worse news: Far too many people who find themselves unable to implement the advice in the course blame themselves. I’m weak. I can’t stick with anything. I’m not good enough. I’ll never amount to anything. There’s something wrong with me. Etc. If this sounds familiar, I’m talking to [...]
It's not your fault
If you’re reading this, you are probably interested in personal growth. And if you are interested in personal growth you’ve probably read a lot of books, taken a lot of workshops, and purchased a lot of programs. And if you are a typical buyer, you’ve probably been disappointed many times by the results. Right? And what is your response when you don’t get the desired result? It’s got to be someone’s fault: Either what I purchased is not effective or it’s my fault. Sad to say, some of the programs for sale in the personal growth market are not very [...]
You are weird
All of you who read my blog posts and who signed up on my website to eliminate a limiting belief are "weird," according to best-selling author and popular blogger Seth Godin. Why would he apply that term to you? Seth uses the term “weird” to describe anyone who is not “normal,” in other words, people who express their uniqueness and who don’t try to fit in with what “most people” are doing. What makes YOU weird? Most “normal” people are not interested in personal growth. You—who are on my mailing list and reading this blog post—are a distinct minority. Because [...]
Do you know the difference in the many personal growth materials?
I’d like to slightly modify a story we’ve all heard before in order to enable you to get greater value from the many personal growth products and services. If you give a man a fish, he will eat fish today but not have any fish for future meals. If you teach a man to fish, he will be able to eat fish forever as long as he is willing to catch the fish. There is a third possibility that is not often talked about: If you transform the man’s diet (for instance, have him become a vegetarian) so that he [...]
What is the relationship between financial success and personal growth?
The tens of millions of people who are interested in self-improvement have two different but related focuses: financial success and personal growth. People who primarily are interested in financial success seek out products that promise to help them make more money and end up with more wealth. Such people are usually willing to pay more for their courses and webinars than for courses that only improve their emotional well-being. People who primarily are interested in personal growth usually want to change their behavior, such as stop procrastinating, and their emotions, such as stop their anxiety and anger. People for whom [...]
How can I help you?
People like you and I can make profound and lasting changes in our lives, if we have the right knowledge and support. To insure that you have ready access to that knowledge and support I’ve created a Facebook Page that is dedicated to providing them. It has been created for people committed to improving the quality of their lives ... who know that the “good life” requires constant growth ... who aren't satisfied with a life of “here’s how it happened to turn out”... who are always asking “what if ...?” and “why not ...?”... who want to free themselves [...]
