There aren’t any Universal Truths—including The Lefkoe Method
Every week I write a blog post on how to use the various processes of The Lefkoe Method (TLM) to change something in your life, for example, how to stop undesirable behavior and feelings, how to stop stress and emotional suffering, and how to start taking actions you keep putting off. I think what I say is true, but … and here comes a big “but.” Because all knowledge is contextual and what we “know” to be true often turns out years later to be only a partial truth, there is nothing I’ve said about TLM that is true for [...]
What is the single biggest barrier to achieving your dreams?
If you really want to understand why you haven’t achieved what you want—why you haven’t been able to manifest your dreams—answer the following five questions. Are you usually afraid of starting something new? Do you have a lot of ideas but you never seem to put them into action? Do you procrastinate a lot? Do you tend to do things the same way all the time? Do you wonder why you aren’t more creative and innovative? If you answered, “yes,” to any of these questions you probably have a fear of failure. Let me explain why. Why would anyone be [...]
Can Childhood Trauma Shorten Your Life?
I recently read an article that could save your life. Over the past 18 years, Dr. Vincent Felitti and his professional partner, Dr. Robert Anda, have been researching the effects of adverse childhood experience (ACE) on long-term physical health. Childhood trauma leads to serious illnesses as adults Here are some of their conclusions: “People with ACE scores of four or higher [meaning, there were four or more adverse childhood experiences] were twice as likely to be diagnosed with cancer, twice as likely to have heart disease, four times as likely to suffer from emphysema or chronic bronchitis, and twelve times [...]
End Procrastination Now
In recent survey of all the people on our mailing lists, we asked what were the two biggest problems you would like some help with. Procrastination was the number one response. Almost 500 people responded, for which I thank the responders very much. We intend to use your responses to provide you with what you requested. I will devote today’s post to explaining precisely why most attempts to stop procrastination fail, what really causes the problem, and how to stop it for good in just a few hours … if you don’t procrastinate doing what’s necessary! Why procrastination is a [...]
Are we robots?
The behaviorist school of thought maintains that behaviors as such can be described scientifically without recourse either to internal physiological events or to hypothetical constructs such as thoughts and beliefs. In other words, consciousness is not relevant to understanding human behavior. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Behaviorism) As regular readers of this blog know very well, I do agree that some of our behavior (especially emotional eating) and some of our feelings (such as anxiety and anger) can be the result of conditioning. This agreement would seem to validate the claim of the behavioral school of psychology that our behavior is the result of environmental [...]
How is TLM different from psychotherapy?
The Lefkoe Method (TLM) is very different both from most personal growth techniques and most forms of psychotherapy. To begin with, TLM is not merely about personal growth—although it does deliver that. It goes well beyond that in promising that specific behavioral and emotional problems—such as depression, eating disorders, a wide variety of negative emotions like fear and anger, and many dysfunctional behaviors—can be totally eliminated. Although personal growth products are all different in their claims, for the most part they offer emotional and behavioral improvements, not the total elimination of existing problems. In that respect TLM (which consists of [...]
Beliefs determine behavior, right? Wrong.
For many years I thought that virtually all of our behavior and feelings were caused by beliefs. When thousands of clients found and eliminated the relevant beliefs, they saw spectacular behavioral and emotional changes. After about 12 years, however, I had a client who eliminated scores of beliefs and made many significant changes in his life, but who couldn’t get rid of the anger he felt toward his mother, who was a partner in his construction business, when she gave him advice on how to run his company. At that point I realized that beliefs weren’t the only cause [...]
How Making Distinctions Can Change Your Life
My post today is about “distinctions.” And why should you care about distinctions? Because most of the problems in your life today exist because of distinctions you failed to make earlier in your life. Moreover, the way to permanently eliminate those problems from your life is to make those distinctions now. I’ve known for a long time that the act of creating something is dependent on making distinctions. But I now also see in a way that I never did before that the effectiveness of The Lefkoe Method results from its ability to help you make distinctions you haven’t made. [...]
You Can Get Rid Of Your Depression
It is possible to permanently eliminate your depression. The purpose of this post is to assure those of you who are feeling depressed (or who know anyone who is depressed) that it is possible to get rid of it totally. I was depressed for about 30 years, so much so that I thought of suicide frequently. I haven’t felt anywhere near depressed for over 15 years. If I can do it, you can too. Depression is ultimately the result of feeling hopeless and helpless. It is experienced as an overwhelming sense of despair. Unfortunately, this mental disorder is very prevalent, [...]
