What is the single biggest barrier to achieving your dreams?
If you really want to understand why you haven’t achieved what you want—why you haven’t been able to manifest your dreams—answer the following five questions. Are you usually afraid of starting something new? Do you have a lot of ideas but you never seem to put them into action? Do you procrastinate a lot? Do you tend to do things the same way all the time? Do you wonder why you aren’t more creative and innovative? If you answered, “yes,” to any of these questions you probably have a fear of failure. Let me explain why. Why would anyone be [...]
You won’t look for something that you don’t think exists
If you know what you are looking for, Google and the Internet have made it possible to find information about it—whatever it is—in a matter of seconds. If you want to improve your life you can search for help in dealing with any problem you could possibly have and find thousands of sites offering help in less than a second. Because that is possible, people who offer solutions to common problems put the words and phrases that people are likely to search for (such as “improve self-esteem,” “end procrastination,” “overcome fear of public speaking,” and “how to improve relationships”) in [...]
How To Overcome Approach Anxiety
Feeling uncomfortable around others is one of the most common problems people have to contend with. The National Institute of Mental Health estimate that approximately 15 million American adults age 18 and over, or about 6.8 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have social anxiety. (http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-numbers-count-mental-disorders-in-america/index.shtml#Social) There is a subcategory of social anxiety sufferers who specifically have great difficulty communicating with members of the opposite sex. The greatest fear for such people is approaching members of the opposite sex, which is why this problem is often referred to as approach anxiety. Although women suffer from [...]
Is It Working For You?
In last week’s post I asked why most people don’t learn how to dissolve meaning when it makes such a profound improvement in their life and when they can learn the basic steps for doing without having to pay anything. That question resulted in over 50 responses so far. Thanks for taking the time to answer. I was fascinated reading all the different reasons people suggested. And that made me think: How many things in your life that don’t really work have you accepted because, “That’s just the way things are”? Is your life—the way it is right now—working for [...]
Fear of rejection
If there was ever a psychological trait that was considered to be a part of human nature, it’s the fear of rejection. In the thousands of comments people have posted on my various blogs, in conversations with friends over a lifetime, and in hearing people speak in more seminars than I can count, the fear of rejection is probably the most frequent complaint I’ve heard. And, obviously, if virtually everyone has this fear, it must be human nature. Right? Not necessarily. There are at least two possible explanations for most people having this specific psychological trait: it could be human [...]
How To Find The Beliefs That Cause Various Problems
Getting rid of a limiting belief with the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) is not particularly difficult. We can train people to do that in a weekend. And we can create an on-line process or a DVD that will eliminate a specific belief. The trickiest aspect of the LBP is identifying all the relevant beliefs that cause a given problem. Getting rid of the beliefs is actually easier than finding them. That’s why we can put together programs that eliminate specific problems when we already know what beliefs (and conditionings) cause those problems for most people. So far we have created [...]
