Do you brag?
For most of my life I didn’t see bragging as a problem. I did it and most of the people I knew did it also. It was just something that people did. It wasn’t until I developed The Lefkoe Method 30 years ago that I realized that bragging is actually a way to compensate for a low level of self-esteem. Why we brag As I’ve written in the past, very few people escape childhood without forming a bunch of negative self-esteem beliefs, because most parents aren’t aware that their behavior is the major source of the beliefs their children are [...]
How To Overcome Approach Anxiety
Feeling uncomfortable around others is one of the most common problems people have to contend with. The National Institute of Mental Health estimate that approximately 15 million American adults age 18 and over, or about 6.8 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have social anxiety. (http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-numbers-count-mental-disorders-in-america/index.shtml#Social) There is a subcategory of social anxiety sufferers who specifically have great difficulty communicating with members of the opposite sex. The greatest fear for such people is approaching members of the opposite sex, which is why this problem is often referred to as approach anxiety. Although women suffer from [...]
What should I do to get what I want?
Thank you very much for the overwhelming response to my request last week for blog topics. The questions that seem to have universal appeal I will answer in my weekly blog. Comments and questions that deal with specific personal issues I will respond to directly as soon as possible. This week I will answer a question I hear frequently in various forms: What should I do to get what I want? To begin with, there is no single “right” way to accomplish anything. What works for some people, won’t necessarily work for others. And what is effective today, won’t necessarily [...]
Answers to questions about beliefs, Part 2
Here are my answers to a bunch of new questions I’ve been asked repeatedly about beliefs. 1. Once you understand that you can’t see beliefs in the world and that events have no inherent meaning, why do you have to go though the process time after time to eliminate additional beliefs? Remember, a belief is a statement about reality you think is true. And most people, because they are visual, think it is true because they think they saw it in the world. Even though you know in principle that all meaning is in your mind and you can’t really [...]
