You said that fear was your biggest problem
Whenever we do a survey of people on our mailing list, asking them to list the biggest problems they face, the most common answer is always a fear of failure. One common way that fear manifests is through procrastination, which is the third most common problem listed. In other words, people don’t take action because they are afraid to fail. But what’s wrong with failing? Why does it cause fear? And why would a fear of failing stop us from taking action? What is fear and what causes it? Fear is an emotion that results from a perceived threat to [...]
Are You Really Successful If You Aren’t Happy?
Although a lot of people have succeeded very well based on society’s standard for success: how much money and power they have, many—if not most—of those people are not really happy or nurtured by their “success.” Arianna Huffington’s call for a redefinition of “success” In a recent issue of the Huffington Post, Arianna Huffington, posted the following: “I'm happy to announce that next week, on June 6th, Mika Brzezinski and I will be co-hosting the Huffington Post's first-ever women's conference, "The Third Metric: Redefining Success Beyond Money & Power." As the title makes clear, the purpose is to discuss ways [...]
Why you can’t motivate yourself to take action
Have you ever tried to motivate yourself to take action? … What happened? If you are typical, the motivation might have worked for a short time, but probably didn’t last and didn’t work in the long run. Did you then ask yourself: What’s wrong with me? Why am I unable to motivate myself to do the things I really want to do? I’d like to present a heretical notion about motivation: It’s not your fault if you are unable to motivate yourself. Motivation is a spurious concept, because it actually cannot work in the long run. What is motivation? [...]
Why don’t you want to improve your life?
According to numerous surveys, every day literally millions of people suffer … from negative feelings (like anxiety, anger, and guilt). from a fear of taking action (procrastination). from the inability to have a truly nurturing relationship (you either can’t find a good one, can’t leave a bad one, or don’t know how to improve an merely okay one). from an unsatisfying work life (either not doing what you really enjoy or doing what you want and not making enough money doing it). from self-sabotaging behavior. from worrying about what others think about us and doing things just to have others [...]
It Is Barbaric And Must Be Stopped
Time magazine this week reported that 19 states still allow teachers to paddle students in schools. What is even more alarming is that adult acceptance of spanking, while lower than it was 50 years ago, was still approved of by 71% in 2004. The article made me realize that a blog post I wrote a couple of years ago is as relevant as ever. So I’m reprinting it this week with some editing to bring it up to date. If you didn’t read it, please read it now. If you did read it when it was originally published, please read [...]
Do you need positive self-esteem beliefs?
Many of you have contacted us after eliminating a negative belief using the Lefkoe Belief Process, asking how you can create a positive belief in its place. I explained why that isn’t necessary (or even possible) in a prior blog post: https://www.mortylefkoe.com/010510/# I’ve recently had some new insights about how to have a positive sense of yourself that expands on that earlier explanation. A positive sense of yourself can be experienced in two different ways: as the “creator” or the “creation.” A positive sense of yourself is both the natural experience of the “creator” and the result of specific beliefs [...]
Do You Want To Create New Possibilities In Your Life?
Recently I wrote about how our beliefs become reality for us, determining our behavior and feelings. Because how we view reality determines the possibilities for action that are open for us, by eliminating limiting beliefs you are able to literally create new possibilities in your life. Let me give you an example. Assume you had the beliefs: I’m not loveable. Relationships don’t work. Men/women can’t be trusted. With these beliefs, what are the possibilities that you could have a really good, nurturing, long-term romantic relationship? … Slim to nil, right? Now let’s assume you completely eliminate those beliefs. Can you [...]
Are you trying to get better?
Have you been trying to “get better”—to make a significant improvement in your life—without real success? If so, then you are one of the tens of millions of people who either are in psychotherapy or part of the personal growth movement—reading books, attending workshops, and using digital products—in an attempt to reduce your anxiety and suffering and increase your happiness. Unfortunately the success rate for these people is not very high. Although there is often some improvement, the negative self-talk, some noticeable anxiety, and an obsessive concern with the opinions of others usually continue after years of therapy and many [...]
Is There An Effective Anxiety Treatment?
Have you ever experienced anxiety? If you haven’t yet, the odds are good that you will at some point in your life. According to MedicineNet, anxiety is definitely a pretty common thing! In the United States, more than 60 million people will suffer from anxiety at a certain point in their lives and more than three million will have a panic disorder in the course of their lifetime. Over four million people experience general anxiety each year. Panic attacks typically begin during teenage years, from 15 to 19. Millions of men suffer from approach anxiety. (Emphasis in original.) (http://anxietybuzz.com/how-many-people-have-anxiety/) If [...]
