Why Some Events Get Us Down (The Influence Of Survival Strategies)
What tiny cat is three times deadlier than a lion? It's called the African black-footed cat. The average house cat is about 8 pounds. These little felines are just over two pounds. They are small but highly effective hunters. They catch 60% of their prey which is quite remarkable compared to a lion's 20% success rate. And it's a good thing too since this tiny animal needs to catch 10-14 birds or rodents each night to stave off hunger. Why does this little cat need to eat so much? The African black-footed cat's appetite is driven by an extremely [...]
Why We Struggle To Make Decisions: The Elusive Role Of Survival Strategy Beliefs
A rooster's crow is loud enough to permanently damage hearing. Yet rooster's never go deaf from all the noise they make. The rooster is immune to its own crow because as it opens its beak, tissues inside its skull cover the ear canal and dampen the noise. This is like putting earplugs so deep inside your ears that you can't hear a thing. As a result, the rooster is protected from the sound of its own booming voice. When we struggle to make decisions our inner voice is often confused. Should we do this? Should we do that? Decisions [...]
Why Some Events Get Us Down (The Influence Of Survival Strategies)
What tiny cat is three times deadlier than a lion? It's called the African black-footed cat. The average house cat is about 8 pounds. These little felines are just over two pounds. They are small but highly effective hunters. They catch 60% of their prey which is quite remarkable compared to a lion's 20% success rate. And it's a good thing too since this tiny animal needs to catch 10-14 birds or rodents each night to stave off hunger. Why does this little cat need to eat so much? The African black-footed cat's appetite is driven by an extremely fast [...]
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What tiny cat is three times deadlier than a lion? It's called the African black-footed cat. It weighs only two pounds, the same as an 8-week old kitten. They are small but highly effective hunters. They catch 60% of their prey which is quite remarkable compared to a lion's 20% success rate. And it's a good thing too since this tiny animal needs to catch 10-14 birds or rodents each night to stave off hunger. Why does this diminutive feline need to eat so much? The African black-footed cat's appetite is driven by its extremely fast metabolism. So it has [...]
Why We Struggle To Make Decisions: The Elusive Role Of Survival Strategy Beliefs
A rooster's crow is loud enough to permanently damage hearing. Yet rooster's never go deaf from all the noise they make. The rooster is immune to its own crow because as it opens its beak, tissues inside its skull cover the ear canal and dampen the noise. This is like putting earplugs so deep inside your ears that you can't hear a thing. As a result, the rooster is protected from the sound of its own booming voice. When we struggle to make decisions our inner voice is often confused. Should we do this? Should we do that? Decisions get [...]
Why Some Events Get Us Down (The Influence Of Survival Strategies)
What tiny cat is three times deadlier than a lion? It's called the African black-footed cat. The average house cat is about 8 pounds. These little felines are just over two pounds. They are small but highly effective hunters. They catch 60% of their prey which is quite remarkable compared to a lion's 20% success rate. And it's a good thing too since this tiny animal needs to catch 10-14 birds or rodents each night to stave off hunger. Why does this little cat need to eat so much? The African black-footed cat's appetite is driven by an extremely fast [...]
Do you brag?
For most of my life I didn’t see bragging as a problem. I did it and most of the people I knew did it also. It was just something that people did. It wasn’t until I developed The Lefkoe Method 30 years ago that I realized that bragging is actually a way to compensate for a low level of self-esteem. Why we brag As I’ve written in the past, very few people escape childhood without forming a bunch of negative self-esteem beliefs, because most parents aren’t aware that their behavior is the major source of the beliefs their children are [...]
You said that fear was your biggest problem
Whenever we do a survey of people on our mailing list, asking them to list the biggest problems they face, the most common answer is always a fear of failure. One common way that fear manifests is through procrastination, which is the third most common problem listed. In other words, people don’t take action because they are afraid to fail. But what’s wrong with failing? Why does it cause fear? And why would a fear of failing stop us from taking action? What is fear and what causes it? Fear is an emotion that results from a perceived threat to [...]
Why some get angry and others fear it.
The first time I really allowed myself to experience my anger I fainted. I was about 36 and had successfully suppressed my anger since childhood. And there I was in a group therapy session, hitting a mat with a stick with foam wrapped around it, screaming: “Mom, I’m really angry at you.” When I started the exercise I was only mouthing empty words, but then at some point the words became real and the anger surfaced. It terrified me so much that I literally passed out on the mat. I fainted the next couple of times I tried that [...]
