If you really want to understand why you haven’t achieved what you want—why you haven’t been able to manifest your dreams—answer the following five questions.

  • Are you usually afraid of starting something new?
  • Do you have a lot of ideas but you never seem to put them into action?
  • Do you procrastinate a lot?
  • Do you tend to do things the same way all the time?
  • Do you wonder why you aren’t more creative and innovative?

If you answered, “yes,” to any of these questions you probably have a fear of failure.

Let me explain why.

  • Why would anyone be afraid of trying something new if they weren’t afraid of failing?
  • Fear of taking action is always a fear of failure. If you weren’t afraid of failing, there would be no reason to avoid taking action.
  • Procrastination consists of putting off taking action. The unconscious premise underneath procrastination is: If I don’t complete something I can’t fail at it.
  • Doing the same thing all the time–doing what worked the last time you tried it—prevents you from making a mistake, in other words, prevents you from failing.
  • Creativity and innovation consist of doing things that have never been done before, which entails the real possibility of failing.

A man jumps over the word fear on an arrow, illustrating the braIn other words, the fear of failure is one of the biggest barriers we have to making our dreams real

The fear of failure is not human nature

Because so many people fear failure it is often considered to be human nature. I disagree. Yes, it is common, but this fear is not inherent in being a human being. How do I know this? Because I’ve seen so many people totally extinguish this fear once its source has been eliminated.

What causes fear of failure?

In order to understand why a fear of failure is so common you first need to understand the cause of the fear. The primary cause is three beliefs and one conditioning. The beliefs are: Mistakes and failure are bad, if I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected, and what makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me. (Other beliefs that also can be involved are I’m not good enough, I’m not capable, I’m not competent, and I’m powerless.)

Let me explain how these three beliefs—which most children form in childhood—necessarily lead to a fear of failure. First, if you think it is bad or wrong to fail, you will fear it. Second, merely thinking you will be rejected if you fail is not sufficient to cause fear. If, however, you base your sense of self-worth on what others think of you, then expecting others to reject you when you make a mistake will lead to you feeling something is wrong with you as a person—and that will cause fear.

The conditioning is: fear associated with failure, in other words, you are conditioned to automatically feel fear when you fail or even think you might fail. (One other conditioning that is sometimes involved is fear of rejection.)

If every time you didn’t live up to mom and dad’s expectations as a child they indicated you had failed at doing what you were supposed to have done—and then they got upset with you—you would condition any type of failure to produce fear.   For details on how stimulus conditionings are formed please see https://mortylefkoe-com-files.s3.amazonaws.com/LStimulusP-For-Training-102510-230pm.pdf.

How to get rid of fear of failure

Once you recognize the source of the fear, the solution is simple. Eliminate the three beliefs and decondition the conditioning. You can eliminate Mistakes and failure are bad on our free belief-elimination program at http://recreateyourlife.com. You might be able to eliminate the other two beliefs on your own using a modified version of the Lefkoe Belief Process, which you can find at https://www.mortylefkoe.com/eliminate-fear-stops/. And you can de-condition failure as a stimulus for fear using the steps of the Lefkoe Stimulus Process: http://www.decisionmaker.com/docs/LStimulusP_Steps.pdf.

Some people are able to eliminate beliefs and conditionings on their own. If you cannot and want some assistance, you can purchase our Natural Confidence program, an interactive program (DVD or streaming video) that helps you eliminate 19 of the most common limiting beliefs and four of the most destructive conditionings, including the ones that usually cause a fear of failure. http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php

Regardless of whether you do it alone or with assistance, getting rid of the fear of failure is probably the single best thing you can do to get what you want in life.


I wrote last week that I expected my next CEA blood report (a measure of the amount of cancer in my body) to be under 5, which is normal. Actually, my intuitive voice told me it would be 3.7. The actual number last Thursday afternoon was 3.4. A PET scan probably would show no cancer cells in my body.

My oncologist said that it is still possible for there to be cancer cells that are too small to be seen (or measured) and she recommends surgery to cut out a piece of my colon and liver, where the cancer used to be, just to make sure. I declined.

Something or some combination of things (as I wrote about last week) reduced my CEA level to normal in only seven weeks.

If I have any additional insights about what I did or how I did it, you can be sure I will share them with you.

I cannot thank you enough for your messages of love and support. And I know that many of you who do not write are sending me love and support also.

Thanks for loving me. I love you too.

Thanks for reading my blog. Please post your questions or comments on why the fear of failure is the biggest single barrier you have to having your life be the way you want it to be. Disagreement is as welcome as agreement. Your comments add value for thousands of readers. I love to read them all and I will respond to as many as I can.

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  1. Tomas November 16, 2014 at 9:45 am - Reply

    To overcome the fear of failure is easy, try to overcome the fear of success.
    I think that most of us have no recognition of it and conciously we think we want to succeed but deep down we geopadise most of our actions on deconditioning.

  2. Lishui Springford June 21, 2014 at 9:32 am - Reply

    such a wonderful post – as always, incredibly helpful, Morty! I have been recovering from an enormous fear of failure (with the help of your program) for about 3 years. but still there was that lingering feeling of fear of being rejected or other people not liking me, which I realize is just the conditioning. I know that other people’s opinions mean NOTHING. but the anxiety was still being triggered and I was avoiding anything that would lead to real progress (because I know that there will be “failures” as part of that new experience). so I really appreciate the worksheet for eliminating that conditioning!

    P.S. about those CEA results, you may find this interesting. Colon and liver cancer are caused by active unconscious mental conflicts. in the case of colon cancer, it is an “indigestible anger” conflict. in the case of liver cancer it is a “starvation” conflict – concern about not being able to get enough nutrition – a very common unconscious mental conflict for people who have a diagnosis of colon cancer (you unconsciously worry that your diseased colon will not provide you with the nourishment you need).

    (here’s a video I made that explains it a little more http://mindtreehealth.net/why-you-get-sick/ )

    When you RESOLVE these unconscious conflicts (which is best done by dissolving the beliefs and conditionings that led to them), your blood CEA levels will shoot up as part of the healing process. And when you complete the healing – rapidly accelerated by fully resolving the unconscious beliefs that led to the cancer-causing conflicts AND by resolving the occurrences that came with the medical process – then those CEA levels will come back down and you will remain symptom-free.

    In my opinion, the only reason that cancer diagnoses have gone from 1 in 8,000 a century ago to 1 in 3 nowadays is that we now have a lot of conditioning and beliefs associated with medical testing, cancer screening, mistrust of our bodies, etc. For this reason, the Lefkoe Belief and Occurrence courses are probably saving countless lives. I am so happy and relieved that your illness is resolved and that you will go on to help so many more people!

  3. Mark Schillinger June 4, 2014 at 9:05 am - Reply

    Morty – Thank you for leading us by practicing what you preach – you are a great inspiration!

  4. Linda June 4, 2014 at 8:53 am - Reply

    What wonderful news, Morty! Sending you waves of love and happiness — Linda

  5. Lisa June 4, 2014 at 8:04 am - Reply

    Morty, another great article and resources for change.
    I’m happy to hear of your continued improvement in regard to the cancer.
    There’s still more for you to accomplish here, I’m sure!

  6. Debbie June 4, 2014 at 7:53 am - Reply

    That is wonderful news to hear that the cancer in your body has diminished so much! Your story is miraculous! Hope there will be a book about your story. It is truly remarkable!

  7. Jill June 4, 2014 at 7:08 am - Reply

    Thank you for your positive energy Morty! I look forward to your messages. I am so happy to hear this good news. I support your decision to decline the surgery.

    All the best to you!!

  8. tom June 4, 2014 at 5:59 am - Reply

    Great news Morty .Thanks for sharing it with us.Ive been putting some of your suggestions into practice and the results are amazing to say the least.im very greatfull for this turnaround in my life I didn’t expect this at all .thank you

  9. Heather June 4, 2014 at 3:56 am - Reply

    That’s great news Morty! I appreciate your work so very much. Love and a hug Heather

  10. Farraj June 4, 2014 at 2:27 am - Reply

    Well done Morty. I hope to read that you defeat all the cancer cells soon.

  11. James June 4, 2014 at 1:40 am - Reply

    Hi Morty

    Thanks for the blog highlighting the need to eliminate a fear of failure. Congratulations on the wonderful news that you have eliminated the cancer from your body.



  12. Chith June 4, 2014 at 1:29 am - Reply

    Dear Morty, thank you for your posts as always. You have been the single most important person in my self development journey.

    Here is to wishing you for your great health and happiness. You are the creator and we are sure you will create perfect health for yourself soon.


    • Laura Velazquez June 4, 2014 at 11:35 am - Reply

      Dear Morty, Thank you very much for the valuable information, I will complete de questionnaire and I’ll send it to you.
      It´s good to hear from your health again and how are you improving about it. God bless you.
      I think that my biggest problem is the fear, the fear is the biggest thing that I have to eliminate in my life.

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