You won’t look for something that you don’t think exists
If you know what you are looking for, Google and the Internet have made it possible to find information about it—whatever it is—in a matter of seconds. If you want to improve your life you can search for help in dealing with any problem you could possibly have and find thousands of sites offering help in less than a second. Because that is possible, people who offer solutions to common problems put the words and phrases that people are likely to search for (such as “improve self-esteem,” “end procrastination,” “overcome fear of public speaking,” and “how to improve relationships”) in [...]
What's Really Behind The Fear Of Taking Action… And What You Can Do About It
“I’m not afraid of failing, why would you think that?” This is a common response when I suggest to people who are afraid of taking action that what is really stopping them is a fear of failure. They explain that they aren’t thinking about failure; they are only aware of a vague sense of fear just before they are about to take some action. Nonetheless, let me explain why a fear of taking action is always a fear of failure and what you can do about it. How I know fear of taking action is a fear of failure I’ve [...]
How To Overcome Approach Anxiety
Feeling uncomfortable around others is one of the most common problems people have to contend with. The National Institute of Mental Health estimate that approximately 15 million American adults age 18 and over, or about 6.8 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have social anxiety. (http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-numbers-count-mental-disorders-in-america/index.shtml#Social) There is a subcategory of social anxiety sufferers who specifically have great difficulty communicating with members of the opposite sex. The greatest fear for such people is approaching members of the opposite sex, which is why this problem is often referred to as approach anxiety. Although women suffer from [...]
Is It Working For You?
In last week’s post I asked why most people don’t learn how to dissolve meaning when it makes such a profound improvement in their life and when they can learn the basic steps for doing without having to pay anything. That question resulted in over 50 responses so far. Thanks for taking the time to answer. I was fascinated reading all the different reasons people suggested. And that made me think: How many things in your life that don’t really work have you accepted because, “That’s just the way things are”? Is your life—the way it is right now—working for [...]
Fear of public speaking? Get rid of it for good!
If you fear public speaking more than going to the dentist—or even death—you are not alone. Not only is this type of fear often extremely intense, surveys indicate that over 50% of the adult population of the United States experiences fear when speaking in public. As Jerry Seinfield put it quite accurately on one of his shows: Most people at a funeral would rather be in the casket than delivering the eulogy. People in all areas of life fear speaking in public We have had a number of clients whose fear of public speaking was so great that they turned [...]
Are Your Beliefs Permanently Gone? Four Tests To Know For Sure
The Lefkoe Institute has had a big marketing problem since its inception 24 years ago. People don’t believe we can do what we promise to do. Our unique distinction is that we can help people quickly and permanently eliminate all the relevant beliefs that cause virtually any behavioral or emotional problem in their lives. But most people have the belief: Change is difficult, takes a long time, and requires a lot of reinforcement. So telling people what we offer usually results in people expressing skepticism about our claim. Interestingly enough, when we started helping people eliminate beliefs 24 years ago, [...]
