The “Judgment Into Beliefs” Technique: How To Finally Discover What’s Keeping You Stuck
Sarah had been talking about making a career change for three years. She'd researched new industries. Updated her resume twice. Even bookmarked job postings she never applied to. Every Sunday night, she'd tell herself: "This week, I'm going to reach out to that contact" or "This week, I'm going to apply." But Monday would come, and somehow the week would slip by without her taking action. She started wondering if maybe she just didn't want it badly enough. Or maybe she was lazy. Or maybe some people were just meant to stay where they were. Sound familiar? Here's what [...]
How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs: A Step-by-Step Guide to Permanent Change
Limiting beliefs are the invisible barriers that keep capable, intelligent people stuck—even when they logically know better. If you've ever wondered why you can't seem to break through certain patterns despite your best efforts, this article reveals the surprising reason traditional approaches fail and introduces a process that actually works to eliminate limiting beliefs permanently. Sarah was crushing it at work. By age 32, she'd built a thriving consulting business, landed high-profile clients, and had a reputation for delivering exceptional results. From the outside, she looked like someone who had it all figured out. But inside? That was a [...]
The Belief Saboteurs: Why Your Negative Emotions Come Back Even After You ‘Work On Yourself’
I'll never forget the day I became truly free. I was working on myself—again. I'd been doing personal development work for years at that point. I'd read the books, done the workshops, worked with therapists and coaches. I knew all the things. I could recite the mantras. I understood that other people's opinions shouldn't matter. But they still did. And then one day, I eliminated the belief: "What makes me good enough is having other people think well of me." I call it my Martin Luther King Jr. moment because I was free at last. I was free to [...]
Why You Keep Hitting the Same Wall (And What’s Really Hiding Beneath It)
You've tried everything. You've read the books. Done the affirmations. Made the plans. Maybe even hired a coach or therapist. And yet somehow, you're still stuck in the same patterns. You still avoid the opportunities that scare you. You still procrastinate on the things that matter most. You still feel that familiar tightness in your chest when certain situations come up. Here's what most people don't realize: you're not failing. You're just working on the wrong part of the problem. The Iceberg You Can't See Think of an iceberg floating in the ocean. What you see above the water—the tip—is [...]
Events Are Neutral—But Your Mind Isn’t: Understanding the Difference Between What Happens and What It Means
Imagine this: At work someone you know walks past you in the hallway and doesn't say hello to you. What automatically runs through your mind? "They don't like me." "I must have done something wrong." "They're mad at me." "I'm not important enough for them to acknowledge." If you're like most people, a thought like one of those may have flashed through your awareness. Here's the truth: all of those meanings came from YOUR mind, not from the event itself. A Powerful Distinction After 35 years of helping people eliminate beliefs and transform their lives, I can tell you [...]
How If-then Beliefs Lead To Fear Of Failure (And How To Find Them)
In the 1850s, Napoleon III served meals to his most honored guests on aluminum plates. The lesser guests were served on plates made of gold. At the time, aluminum was incredibly rare and so very costly to obtain. Worldwide production was a few ounces a year. Today, massive amounts of aluminum are produced, and it's so cheap that it's used to make soda cans and to wrap food in our refrigerators. Value seems to follow a simple rule. The more scarce a material, the greater its value. Fear of failure also follows a simple rule. The greater the consequence [...]
Why We’re Sometimes Over-motivated (The Danger Of Survival Strategies)
On average in the US every year ... Fifty people are struck by lightning. Sixty people are injured by hurricanes. But how many have been hit by a falling meteor? In all of history, just one. Her name is Moody Jacobs and on a clear afternoon in 1954, a softball-sized chunk of black rock punched a hole in her ceiling, ricocheted off a radio, and hit her in the thigh. She survived the strike with only a large bruise. A meteor's trajectory is influenced by our planet's gravity which grabs the rock from space and pulls it down to [...]
Three Unusual Ways to Get in Touch with Limiting Beliefs
Have you ever tried to change something about yourself but kept falling back into the same old pattern? I know I have. Years ago, I found myself avoiding tasks that didn't come easily to me. If I wasn't immediately good at something, I'd find someone else to do it or just avoid it entirely. But what was strange is that in other areas of my life, I was confident and capable. I toured the world and managed a wholesale travel company in my twenties. I wasn't afraid of challenges—at least, not all of them. So why could I fearlessly [...]
Living on Purpose: Why Self-Care Needs to Be Intentional
Have you ever noticed how most of us end up living our lives on autopilot? I certainly have. We wake up, rush through our morning routine, hurry to work, handle our responsibilities, and before we know it, we're exhausted at the end of the day—with nothing left for ourselves. I was thinking about this recently while discussing self-care with my friend and colleague Letha. What struck me was how rarely we approach self-care with true intention. Most of us live life based on what simply shows up. Think about how relationships often unfold—you meet someone, enjoy their company, go [...]
