I frequently get emails and phone calls from people who have been struggling for many years, people who are unhappy with their lives much of the time. They ask: Is there anything that could possibly improve my life and allow me to be truly happy? 

The best way to answer that question is to relate a personal story.

Man writing in a journal.For most of my life I woke up every morning afraid to face the day.  I was depressed and unhappy almost all the time.  I had screwed up two marriages and was arguing a lot in my third.  I was obsessively concerned with being accepted by others.  I considered suicide several times as the only way I knew to stop the pain.

At some point I started keeping a journal in which I wrote how I was feeling, what I thought was the source of my miserable state of affairs, and how to escape the horrific life I was living.

An entry from my journal 25 years ago

Here is an excerpt from that journal on May 11, 1988, almost 25 years ago.  I had created the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) three years earlier, but I still didn’t fully understand how it worked and how to apply it effectively.  At that point I was focusing on using the LBP in business rather than with individual clients, as I had been a management consultant for many years before I created the LBP.  When I wrote this entry I had eliminated a few beliefs, but my life was still a real mess.

I feel afraid; nothing I do seems to work; I’m never going to get work [I had filed for bankruptcy a few years earlier and making money was still very difficult]; there is something wrong with me that is responsible for people not wanting me; maybe I’ll never figure out what the belief is that’s in the way; maybe there are so many that I’ll never find them all; I just want to quit; I want to run away and hide; I can’t face [my wife] Shelly ‑‑ she is being so brave, trying to deal with her own fears while getting ready to have a baby [Brittany, our second child, was born four weeks later]; it’s so hard on her; I feel guilty for not being able to provide a few simple things because I don’t have the money and so she is concerned.

What is going on?  Several companies that have expressed an interest in what we offer either have not yet hired me or have told me that they will not be able to use me.

What do I believe or have I believed that may have led to this reality?

I’m going unconscious.  I can’t focus.  When I look I get nothing and start to go to sleep.

I’m efforting and struggling.  I’m making it hard on Shelly—the overall stress and pressure, and specifically, money for fixing up Brittany’s room, basic clothing, etc.

I’m unable to buy a lot of things we’d like for Brittany; people who say they want to hire me are not doing it; people who say they will call back are not calling back; I’m frustrated a lot.

I’m not getting to manifest my vision, at least according to my pictures; I’m not getting a chance to make the contribution to people that I want to make; I feel I have so much to offer to people, I can make such a difference in so many ways, and I’m doing nothing.

I’m feeling very inefficacious; I haven’t been able to produce the results I’ve committed to producing.  I’m feeling: There’s something wrong with me; I’ve got a hidden flaw, something basically wrong with me, that’s messing up my life, and I can’t do anything about it.

What I would write today

Fast forward to May 7, 2013.  If I were still writing in a journal, here is what I would write today.

I am living in bliss.  I am more than merely happy; I am totally content.  I feel like I live in the “creator” state almost all the time: in other words, I feel as if anything is possible, I have no limitations, and there is nothing at all missing from my life.

After identifying and eliminating all the relevant beliefs and conditionings that caused my depression, my neediness, and my compulsive concern with what others thought of me, those problems disappeared.  That cleared away most of the “negatives” from my daily life.  At that point my relationship with Shelly and my kids was very good.  I started getting The Lefkoe Method out into the world.

The next major breakthrough came after I developed the Lefkoe Occurring Process about three years ago.  I stopped giving meaning  almost all the time and dissolving the unconscious and automatic meaning we give events is now automatic.  As a result my negative feelings have pretty much stopped. I no longer feel anxious, angry, upset, sad, etc.  My relationship with Shelly and my two girls has become amazing.  I haven’t had even a small argument with Shelly for many, many months.  Nothing my kids do upsets me.  My life has gone from very good to incredibly good.

There are no words to describe how good I feel today.  If I had one wish for everyone in the world, it would be to feel as good as I feel now.

It would be a lot faster today

I took me 25 years to get from how badly I felt daily in 1988 to how incredible I feel now.  But that’s only because I didn’t fully understand how the Lefkoe Belief Process worked during the first few years.  I also didn’t have the conditioning processes, the Who Am I Really? Process to get into an altered state of consciousness, and, most importantly, the Lefkoe Occurring Process, which got rid of virtually all my negative feelings.

Today it is possible to get from the miserable state I wrote about in 1988 to the incredible high I feel almost everyday now in a relatively short period of time.

If I did it, so can you.  There is no need to suffer any longer.  Anything is possible.  You have no real limitations.  You now have available to you all the tools you need to create a life where it feels as if “there’s nothing missing.”

Stop suffering.  Enjoy your life.  Take action … today.

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18 Comments

  1. David Haines January 11, 2014 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    Thank you for such an inspiring post Morty. I’m definitely going to use your suggestions. I’m loving your blog by the way!

  2. Mitch O July 11, 2013 at 11:30 am - Reply

    Hi Morty,
    I am working with Shelly on eliminating my large quantity of negative beliefs. It seems your life 25 years ago is similar to mine today. I have sought out many other forms of therapy with little success over the past 5 years. After watching the “I’m not good enough” I felt very good and have gained hope that I can regain my life. Besides working with Shelly, what else should I be doing? I really want to be here for my family.

    • Morty Lefkoe July 12, 2013 at 7:41 am - Reply

      Hi Mitch,

      Thanks for your interest in our work. I’m happy to hear it is helping you.

      Other than working with Shelly the only other thing I would recommend is the Lefkoe Freedom Course. It will make a profound difference in your life overall, and especially in your relationship with each member of your family.

      Check it out at http://lefkoefreedomcourse.com/discover. One will be start in about a month.

      Love, Morty

  3. Sarah H May 22, 2013 at 9:41 am - Reply

    I love this, I too am struggling with negative voices. A lot of the time I step through my fears, daily sometimes, and I always feel better, it’s the anticipation of speaking and being seen in my business. It s very scary. Because I still have depression and anxiety I feel like a fraud sometimes! But I am fascinated by our beliefs. I have been working on conscious language, manifesting, gratitude, mediating when I remember. But I am looking into your site here! Great material and perception shifts. Thank you. Seem times it feels like we r so down in a hole there is no way out, but thank you to people like you who do the work and share it with others :)

  4. Jesse A. May 13, 2013 at 11:50 am - Reply

    Hi Morty,
    Your work is a gift to the world. Thank you for “sticking with it” during the hard times. Your life and feelings now as you describe them sound almost too good to be true, but I know they are!

  5. Mt May 12, 2013 at 12:53 pm - Reply

    Thanks for sharing your personal thoughts with us!

    It is my greatest pleasure to see people who want to help, want to change people for good and direct them toward their personal goals. You’ve made a fantastic job. It is quite amazing how your techniques can do wonders and really change a person to fully become responsible for their own lives!

    Looking forward to see more great posts,
    Best regards.

  6. Lauren May 9, 2013 at 3:25 pm - Reply

    What a journey it’s been, Morty! Back in the late 70s I was sitting at the bottom of a whole. I thought briefly of suicide, then rejected it, then thought, “There must be something better than this.” Today, I rarely experience an occurring and am gaining control of eliminating how minor physical sensations occur for me. Eliminating the beliefs on Nat. Confidence was an eye opener and today, and the possibilities are endless. To everyone reading this: this process works; it is amazing how I became more of myself.
    Love and Light to All on the Journey,
    Lauren

  7. Caitlin May 8, 2013 at 7:50 pm - Reply

    Hi Morty,
    Thank you for writing this. I am so grateful that you stuck with it and have created this program that you are teaching us so we can help make the world a better place. My life has changed as a result of the course I took with you and I am forever grateful to you and Shelly, and your daughters.
    Bless you, Caitlin Russell MS RD

  8. Sally May 8, 2013 at 10:09 am - Reply

    Hi Morty,

    Several months have gone by now since I took the Occurring Course. What is clear to me is that each person has a unique experience of their world from moment to moment and that when I get negative feelings, I am needlessly ascribing meaning to some event.

    Though I don’t feel depressed and I am not hard on myself, I am still stuck, in a way. The problem, as I have identified it, is like I have a brain injury and I am incapable of processing a specific piece of information.

    Though it has been a year and a half since my husband left our family, I wake up astonished anew each day that he has done so. That is my first thought. My second is that I am astonished at myself that his leaving astonishes me — still!

    He has not been able to identify anything intolerable or unforgivable that I have done to cause him to leave. Intellectually, my opinion is that there is insufficient reason to break up a family. However, it is as plain as can be that he is gone and he says he wishes to go to mediation to create a separation agreement. I am having such a difficult time (in fact, I have been unsuccessful) writing the relationship off, as he has done. I feel it violates my core values. I know you have explained before that values are arbitrary and we each choose them, but this feels like these values have chosen me. They are innately a part of who I am. I just can’t seem to shake them!

    Consciously, I think I would be better off just following through with the processes of separation and divorce without any further delay.

    Morty, do you have any advice to help me “snap to it,” see, feel, and really believe that I may let go of this? Does anything here jump out at you? I continue to be amazed at how slow I am to process and accept that my marriage is over. How do I get unstuck?

    Thanks,

    Sally

    • Morty Lefkoe May 14, 2013 at 5:31 pm - Reply

      Hi Sally,

      I have no suggestions off the top of my head from your post.

      I would be willing to have a session with you if you’d like and try to figure out what believe that has you so stuck. There has to be something there that’s keeping you from letting go.

      If you are interested, call Karen at (415) 506-4472 to set up an appointment with me.

      Love, Morty

  9. Teresa May 8, 2013 at 7:51 am - Reply

    I completely identify with what you wrote 25 years ago, and I noticed that some of those feelings/beliefs are gone b/c I have participated in part of your program (not the whole program). Thank you for your work!

  10. stephen May 8, 2013 at 7:45 am - Reply

    Wow, the first part of your post really reflects how I feel at this moment. Recently I came to the conclusion that I just “suck at life” – Still haven’t figured out what to do about it but perhaps in some small way the realization is goof enough already (like a an alcoholic who finally admits that he/she is an alcoholic I guess)

    • Morty Lefkoe May 8, 2013 at 7:53 am - Reply

      Hi Stephen,

      For an answer to your question, what should I do, see Matt J’s comment above.

      Merely being aware is not enough. You need to get rid of the beliefs and conditionings that are causing your problem.

      Love, Morty

  11. James May 8, 2013 at 7:11 am - Reply

    Morty,
    With all my heart I read you words and reflected on my own life and saw myself in the mirror.
    As I have been working with you and Shelly I am so grateful for the falling away of the Beliefs and occurring s that have for so long held me captive.
    Thank you for being so persistent and prevailing through the trials and hardships it must have taken to develop the processes that we can all use to gain our freedom.
    Love,
    James

  12. Matt J. May 8, 2013 at 7:05 am - Reply

    First off, Morty, thanks for sharing this intimate account of where you were 25 years ago. It is so empowering to see how far you have come and all the amazing processes you have developed. Knowing you, it’s almost hard to imagine you were ever in that negative state.

    And to reply to David, I would recommend the first action for you to take is to buy Morty’s Natural Confidence program at: http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php Through this program, you’ll be able to eliminate the 19 most common beliefs and 4 conditionings that contribute to lack of self-esteem, confidence, procrastination, social anxiety, etc. Go through this program! There is hope!

    I have had a similar change in my life like Morty’s, but because I’ve been using Morty’s techniques and processes, it has only taken me about a year or so. Suffering is NOT the human condition. You can live a life of peace, happiness, and bliss. It is possible. I’m closer than I ever have been, and it’s all thanks to Morty!

  13. Guus May 8, 2013 at 3:32 am - Reply

    I still feel very much like the description, but this was just what I needed to hear as I’m very much as the first description, but was told some very important things the last few days I’m working on. So indeed, no coincidences here it seems: this came just at the right time for me. Thank you Morty.

  14. David May 8, 2013 at 2:35 am - Reply

    Hi Morty, your journal entry from 25 years ago almost perfectly describes how I feel right now. You’ve ended your article…’Stop suffering. Enjoy your life. Take action … today.’ But what action? What do I need to do to create a change? Is it even possible? At this point nothing seems to work. I feel like a hidden part of me is making me fail despite incredible opportunities I have been given. Please help me to understand what I need to do. David

  15. Khizar May 8, 2013 at 1:30 am - Reply

    That was really inspiring Morty, thanks for sharing.

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