“If only I had more self-discipline”
When asked what qualities they would most like to have that they don’t already have, one of the most common answers given by people responding to one of our surveys was “self-discipline.” Is this true for you too? Why do so many people want to be able to discipline themselves? Before answering this question, let’s make sure we know precisely what self-discipline is. What is self-discipline? According to Wikipedia, “Self-discipline can be defined as the ability to motivate oneself in spite of a negative emotional state.” And the Merriam-Webster online dictionary defines the term as “the ability to make yourself [...]
It’s finally here after 17 years
It took 17 years but it’s finally here. My last book, Recreate Your Life, was published in 1997. My newest book, Live An Unlimited Life (LAUL), was officially published this week. Yea!!! I cannot be more excited. Not only am I presenting in one place information about almost all of the processes that comprise The Lefkoe Method, how they are used, and the results they produce—I have found a revolutionary book format in which to present the book. Actually, it isn’t really a “book.” It is more an interactive media experience that can be accessed either through an iPad App [...]
Emotional eating can be stopped
For many years, therapists, coaches, and self-help authors have tried to help emotional eaters stop overeating in response to emotions. And unfortunately all of them have failed overeating sufferers. Why? Because they didn’t fully understand the true cause of most emotional eating. After 25 years and about 13,000 clients, I finally figured out what causes emotional eating. Although beliefs are, in fact, responsible for most of the problems that plague us—such as anxiety, the fear of rejection, worrying what others think of us, anger, lack of confidence, and most relationship issues—they are not the primary cause of emotional eating. Over [...]
How to Eliminate Triggers to Emotional Eating
If you have an emotional eating problem or know someone who does, this is the most important article you will read all year. I’ve written several blog posts explaining the cause and cure for emotional eating. And my Kindle book describes in detail the Lefkoe Behavioral Deconditioning Process (LBDP), which deconditions the triggers that are the primary cause of emotional eating. Nonetheless, I’ve received several emails complaining that I don’t actually provide the steps of the LBDP so that people can use it on their own. In line with our mission to help create a world in which people are empowered to [...]
Emotional Eating: My Kindle Book Describes The Cause And Cure
I’ve had many breakthroughs over the years, from creating the Lefkoe Belief Process that quickly and permanently eliminates the beliefs that run our lives, to the various de-conditioning processes, to a process that dissolves the meaning we automatically and unconsciously add to events all day long. Two of the most exciting breakthroughs occurred just a few years ago when I figured out that the primary cause of emotional eating is behavioral conditioning, not beliefs, and then created a process that de-conditioned the triggers for emotional eating. I wrote a book describing my emotional eating breakthroughs After those breakthroughs I wrote [...]
How To Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions
Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions last year? … What about the year before? … If you are like most people, you worked on them through the middle of January and by early February you had forgotten you ever made them. Or, perhaps after several years of failure, you stopped making New Year’s resolutions at all. Why don’t we do the things that we say we are going to do? Things we really want to do? Things that truly would benefit our lives? The answer is simple. Our behavior is not the result of our desires or even our [...]
Do you know about the two types of conditioning that have caused the emotional eating epidemic?
During the past two years I’ve written several blog posts about emotional eating and its causes. As I learned more about emotional eating from my clients and about learning theory, I’ve changed my mind on several occasions. I now think I understand the essential causes of one of the biggest problems we face: One-third of America’s adult population is obese and another one-third is overweight. The health consequences are devastating; the financial costs are staggering; the misery experienced by those afflicted is overwhelming. Nothing proposed thus far has come close to being able to stem the epidemic. I think I [...]
Emotional eating: the cause and the cure
Joanne was 52 when she called me to help her with her weight problem. She said she needed to lose 80-90 pounds, but her real complaint was, “I need to eat all the time. I know I’m full and I keep eating anyway.” As I questioned her she revealed that it was easier for her to eat and be fat than to have to explain to herself why men didn’t love her. “Men are not interested in fat women, so if I’m fat a lack of interest from men won’t mean anything about ME.” She said she used food to [...]
How can we serve you?
I am committed to making the Lefkoe Institute as helpful to you as possible. To that end I’ve created a number of products and services designed to help you make lasting changes in your life. In addition, I’ve created this blog to provide you with useful information. In order to continue to provide you with what you want and need, I would like to know exactly what you would find useful. So I have two questions: 1. What courses or solutions would you like us to offer that would help you permanently eliminate the barriers in your life and live [...]
