Don’t Confuse “Creating Your Own Reality” With The Law of Attraction
A VERY IMPORTANT NOTE FOR YOU: My TEDx talk on “How to Stop Suffering” has just been posted on line. You can find it at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sMdVM-t5kFs. This is the most useful and most important talk I have even given. I urge you to watch it. You will get significant personal value from it. And if you think it is an idea worth spreading, please send the link to people on your email list and tell your Facebook and Twitter friends about it also. It would be great if millions of people learned how to stop suffering. I’d appreciate your help. [...]
What is the most important thing you can do to improve your life?
I can’t think of a single thing that can make as profound a difference in your life as being able to dissolve your “occurrings”—the meaning you unconsciously and automatically give events, which you think are The Truth. Our “occurrings” are the source of most of our negative emotions, which means they are the source of most of our suffering; they are the vehicle through which our beliefs determine our behavior and feelings; they are the source of most disagreements and arguments between people; and they are one of the biggest barriers to being able to successfully resolve problems in [...]
Does "reality" really exist?
If you asked someone, “Do things exist?” the response would probably be, “Of course things exist! The world is full of things. Everyone knows that there is physical stuff out there—that reality is tangible and real!” But what allows any thing—a hand, a chair, or any other object—to exist? One way to discover the answer is to imagine a specific thing—say, your hand—expanding and expanding until there is nothing in the universe except the hand. What would happen to it? … Really, just take a moment and try this. You’ll be amazed at your experience … You wouldn’t see the [...]
Why you should be concerned about your beliefs
If you have read any of the writings of the top self-help experts during the past 10 years—such as Deepak Chopra, Jack Canfield, or Joe Vitale—you’ve learned that permanent change is impossible without eliminating the beliefs that are keeping you stuck. I agree; beliefs do have that power. But why? What gives our beliefs the power they have to determine our behavior and feelings? There are two reasons why beliefs have the power they have—one is obvious, the other more subtle. Our beliefs about reality ARE our reality First, a belief is a statement about people, reality, or ourselves that [...]
Are they really stupid?
Rare is the day when we don’t think that someone’s behavior or emotional reaction makes absolutely no sense at all. One day it might be a government official, another day it could be a loved one. In these situations there is always the unstated assumption that they are seeing the same reality I am seeing. And their response to the reality I am seeing is either crazy or stupid. In fact, I contend that almost always there are at least two very different “realities” involved here: one for you and a totally different one for the other person. There also [...]
What Do YOU Want To Know About Occurring?
I have a question to ask you but before I ask, I’d like to give you some background. First, you, along with tens of thousands of others who have used The Lefkoe Method, have sent me many hundreds of testimonials about the incredible results you’ve gotten from eliminating one of the common beliefs on the free program, from one of our DVD or streaming video programs, or from one-on-one sessions. Thanks for taking the time to do that. We at Lefkoe Institute are inspired each day by your messages. But some of the most profound testimonials we’ve received have [...]
How Our Language Determines Our Reality
Last week I explained how we live in a dualistic universe in which for any “thing” or concept to exist, we must distinguish between it and a not-that-thing or concept. Our most important tool for making distinctions and creating our reality is language. As Edward Sapir, a noted anthropologist, has said: Human beings do not live in the objective world alone, nor alone in the world of social activity as ordinarily understood, but are very much at the mercy of a particular language which has become the medium of expression for their society. The fact of the matter is that [...]
It worked. Brilliantly.
Remember last December I wrote that I was about to have a breakthrough? Well, I did. On February 16, 2010 nineteen people and I began the Lefkoe Freedom Experiment (LFE). Before we started I promised the participants: “You will learn how to transform the way you experience your life. No matter what the circumstances. Twenty-four hours a day, 365 days a year.” Actually, I had never taught anyone to do that before, but I like to promise things I’ve never done before. That’s the exciting part: Figuring out how to do things after I’ve promised to do them. The LFE [...]
