Things aren’t always what they seem
A little over three years ago we received a notice from our landlord (we had been renting a house ever since we arrived in California eight years earlier). He notified us that the house we were living in had gone into foreclosure and we were going to have to move in a couple of months. At the time it seemed as if nothing could have been more upsetting. We now had to find another house that met all our needs, spend weeks packing our household possessions, move our office (that was in our home), change all the utilities, unpack at [...]
Things aren’t always what they seem
A little over three years ago we received a notice from our landlord (we had been renting a house ever since we arrived in California eight years earlier). He notified us that the house we were living in had gone into foreclosure and we were going to have to move in a couple of months. At the time it seemed as if nothing could have been more upsetting. We now had to find another house that met all our needs, spend weeks packing our household possessions, move our office (that was in our home), change all the utilities, unpack [...]
Do you have a hard time making decisions?
Do you have a hard time making decisions? One of the most common problems that clients complain about is their inability to make a decision. This isn’t the same as procrastinating, where you put off doing most things. I’m taking about needing to decide yes or no, or to choose between different alternatives, e.g., should I do this or that? And an awful lot of people just don’t want to choose. Why would so many people (including possibly you) put off making decisions when the failure to act often results in negative consequences in their lives? Should I ask [...]
Why we have negative emotions … and what to do about them
For many years I had asked myself the questions: What is the real source of our negative emotions? Why do so many things cause fear in our lives that aren’t inherently scary? And why do some people experience negative emotions while other people don’t in similar situations? About eight years ago I wrote a paper for myself on the source of negative emotions. Today’s post is a summary of that paper. I think you’ll find some fascinating material here and I’m excited to get your responses and start a conversation. ***** What is an emotion? An emotion is the experiential, [...]
