Trying to be "positive" doesn’t work
I recently was having a conversation with a very close friend. She had just broken up with her boyfriend after a long relationship; she was feeling lonely; she was having difficulties getting work; and she was feeling sad, frustrated and disappointed. At the same time she was trying very hard to be positive during our talk. “I know that everything will work out in the long run. I know that everything is just a learning experience. I know I should be giving positive meanings to everything that’s happening to me.” She went on and on trying to be positive, when [...]
The Best of MortyLefkoe.com
Every month hundreds of new people sign up to receive this weekly blog. Most of them do not realize that there are now 132 posts describing the different processes that comprise The Lefkoe Method and explaining how to free yourself from your self-imposed limitations and create the life you want to live. Even people who have been on this mailing list for over a year might not be aware of the useful material that was written before they found my blog. So today I am going to provide you with a short description and a link to some of my [...]
Are you a victim?
We all know people who are “victims”—people who view their lives through the filter: “It’s not my fault. They (or it) did it to me.” When you understand what the feeling of victimization really is, where it comes from, and how it affects people, you will discover it is even more widespread and debilitating than you might think. The primary source of feeling like a victim is the feeling of powerlessness and, because we don’t like feeling that we are powerless, we tend to blame someone or something for causing that feeling. So we feel that we are a victim [...]
