Your questions get answered
Last week’s post sparked a lot of comments and questions. I wrote on the dangers of trying to be positive when you are feeling negative and I suggested that instead of pretending to be positive you just dissolve your negative occurrings and feelings. Because there has been so much interest in this topic, I decided to devote this week’s post to responding to some of the questions from last week. My comments below go much deeper into the topic than my original post. Marie wrote: “Thank you for the post. Separating the meaning from the event is a [...]
Trying to be "positive" doesn’t work
I recently was having a conversation with a very close friend. She had just broken up with her boyfriend after a long relationship; she was feeling lonely; she was having difficulties getting work; and she was feeling sad, frustrated and disappointed. At the same time she was trying very hard to be positive during our talk. “I know that everything will work out in the long run. I know that everything is just a learning experience. I know I should be giving positive meanings to everything that’s happening to me.” She went on and on trying to be positive, when [...]
