I’ve said on many occasions that all of us at the Lefkoe Institute are committed to helping you improve the quality of your life.

But I don’t think I’ve ever defined what I mean by “improving the quality of your life.”

Live Your Best Life sign with beach background

It is possible to have a life where you are surviving very well, in other words, you have plenty of money to meet your needs and plenty of friends. In such a situation I would say you are surviving very well, but that doesn’t mean you are necessarily thriving.

You might not be depressed or be run by anxiety, and still not experience the bliss that is possible in life.

Your job might be okay, in other words, you do good work that is valued by your employer and you get paid a reasonable salary. And yet you might not be fulfilled or challenged by your work.

In these situations you might be hard-pressed to name what’s missing from your life, but the quality of your life would be far from what it could be. And what’s even worse, you might not even realize how poor the quality of your life is.

You might not even realize what’s missing

As I pointed out in an earlier post, you won’t look for something you don’t know exists. If you don’t know that life can be exciting and challenging, without negative feelings and stress, without concern with the opinions of others, and where you feel confident to take on whatever challenges you choose to take on—you won’t miss it or look for it. Your quality of life might be low but you won’t even know it.

I have seen the quality of people’s lives increase substantially after they unlearned a bunch of beliefs, de-conditioned the relevant conditionings, and dissolved most of their occurrings (the meaning we give to moment-to-moment events), so it is clear to me that the quality of most people’s lives can be significantly improved. That’s what we at the Lefkoe Institute are focused on.

Much more is probably possible

It is possible to survive without thriving.  We are committed to your thriving.

It is possible to make a relationship work and not experience all the joy and partnership that is possible in a relationship.  We are committed to you finding and sustaining relationships that nourish you and that make you feel good about yourself.

It is possible to not have serious issues (such as anxiety and depression) and still never experience the bliss that is possible in life.  We are committed to you experiencing happiness and full self-expression most of the time.

It is possible to like your job and still not be challenged by it or have it truly fulfill you. We are committed to you having work that resonates with your soul, that gives you an opportunity to contribute to others, where you are supported in making that contribution, and where you are rewarded appropriately for your contribution.

Don’t settle for anything less than what is possible

Our commitment is not for you to have an acceptable life, but a spectacular life—because it is possible to live a spectacular life. Our commitment is to offer you courses and programs that help you continually improve the quality of your life.

Take a look at your own life, right now. Are you merely surviving? Or are you truly thriving? Did your life turn out the way you dreamed it would (on your most optimistic days)? Or are you constantly focusing on what’s missing and how you would like your life to be different?

If your life is anything less than the way you would describe your “perfect” life, get rid of the barriers to having your life be exactly the way you want it to be. Be committed to constantly improving the quality of your life. Don’t accept anything else than bliss.

If you are committed to improving the quality of your life and you take the appropriate action, you might be surprised at how incredible life can be. As Jimmy Durante, a famous entertainer of an earlier generation, used to say: “You ain’t seen nuthin’ yet!”


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  1. Brent September 26, 2015 at 10:34 am - Reply

    Hi, Morty. Best wishes for your full and speedy recovery. I admire how you’re handling everything.

    I’m confused about your system, though. You distinguish between consequences and meaning, but that still doesn’t make sense to me. The likely consequences of an event ARE the event’s subjective meaning and are what cause people anxiety. Just realizing there are other possible outcomes or interpretations doesn’t really seem to change anything for me. One will remain convinced of the likely consequences that are expected to flow from an event. Sometimes one is pleasantly surprised and things don’t turn out to be as bad as one feared. But very often, our assessment of what an event will mean (e.g., long and painful treatment, lost planned vacation and long nights at the office to imposition by a boss, the need to totally re-do laborious work accidentally deleted, loss of respect and standing in a peer group due to an embarrassing gaffe, etc.) is very accurate and exactly what one then has to endure. One can manage that, but that doesn’t remove the upset that occurs when one sees what an event almost certainly will entail.

  2. Anas September 24, 2015 at 4:25 pm - Reply

    Thank you Morty, really.
    I was searching, buying, collecting and going through a bunch of theories and practices, in chronological order:
    “how to” books (including PUA industry), NLP practices, hypnosis, subliminals, paraliminals, EFT.. until I brushed against madness, literally. I can’t describe the pain, the headaches, the confusion and the insomnia I underwent for months trying to find a solution to my social, relationship problems and eventually my last tremendous negative shift in study. I ended up resenting the “gurus” and their “Sh*t”.
    I respect their effort, but deluding people which mislead them then aggravate the problems and waste their money and time, can hardly be respected.

    I am grateful to find, a year earlier, a honest a unique man in the self help PUA industry who recommended your belief process.
    Since then and until now, I’ve been interested in your method. I’ve eliminated 6 beliefs and I feel happier and “maturing” among my friends and pairs.
    Since then I always wondered how genius you are every time I go through the process. I’ve needed to revisit every belief three times separately and I still sense missing something I’ll discover in my next visit.
    You’re really a genius. It is hard to unearth such a secret of mental process to deal with situation. It seems very obvious! But I think people can’t notice it because it must be overly underestimated.

    What I found a month ago and choqued me is that the principle is the same as NLP, but the latter missed the right application and in many cases lead to “how to” books.


  3. mats fallman September 23, 2015 at 5:35 pm - Reply

    Dear Marty Lifkoe,
    I have never wtitten to you or even tried to be in contact, though, I read your mails – often.I was sent your contact through a friend who thought that I might benefit from reading and assessing your mails. I have lived a wonderful life, nearly achieving all I wanted and sometimes more. Now, I live in such constant excrutiate chronic pains that I find my life to be completely destroyed. The thing that bothers me is that I am still very positive, but I don’t understand why. My pains are driving me up all walls and further every day and minute. I was diagnosed with cancer 7 years ago and have miraculously survived after multiple operations, It takes it toll, but I am very resiliant and hard, but also emotional.Not only that, right now my cancer, malign melanome in metastasis, might be dying out, which is a miracle in itself. Hardly anyone can believe it, but I seem to be blessed. I should be happty, but I am not. Pain is a complete destruction of body and mind. It drives me insane – we are talking brutal pain – my nerve system has broken down and with all muscles, tendons and one whole limb – my leg. From top to toe. Every single nerve end is on fire constantly. To cut the leg doesn’t help because I would get phantom pains just as bad. No nerve bit can be cut out or burned – it will get worse. I am a very sane person and understand what life is all about. I have gone through this before when I went through hell, called reflexes sympathetic dystrophy when a knee broke down long ago- but I got over it through sheer will power. Now I can’t take it the way my pains are affecting me. I have been urged to write and I think I am good at it – have been writing novels since more than 40 years and, frankly, need to finish what I am supposed to do on my writing – be good or bad. I need to finish that mission, Pain is killing me. I have been to pain clinics, had all medication possible, but it is finishing me off – I cry and tears are coming down my eyes – only from pain, which is diminishing all my strength and debilitating all my resources. Soon all will to live is gone. No one around is ready to accept my situation, but I need help, both mentally and physically. Years ago I also lost a son at the age of 16 – fell from balcony and broke his neck. Maybe, I never got over that.
    Are you a person who can instil hope or strength? I read your blogs and wonder what is your capacity to help and encourage people to go on living? Like me or anyone else. What can I bring to your table and find common grounds in understanding of life. I wonder. Please, consider what I have written.
    With thanks
    and kindest regards
    Mats (Fallman)

  4. Phoenix September 22, 2015 at 7:17 pm - Reply

    Hi, Morty. I love the way you write about how so much more is possible than we believe to be. Your blog posts are music to my eyes. Looking forward to the Lefkoe Method Training 3 so I can get fully competent and accredited to help guide people through these transformations. Also eagerly hoping for a kinesthetic Natural Confidence. Because I am currently unable to direct friends who may be emotionally kinesthetic learners (as I am) to an effective free online resource, I’m wondering how much I am allowed to do. Can I make a public YouTube video that guides a person through the revised process for one of the basic beliefs? Can I post a video of me facilitating for a friend? I would say, “I’m not certified or affiliated with Lefkoe Institute, but this technique is from them and here are the links to what they have to offer.” I wish to popularize the Lefkoe Method on YouTube and create my own content inspired by your work. I just don’t know what exact limitations I should follow.

    • morty lefkoe September 23, 2015 at 12:54 pm - Reply

      Hi Phoenix,

      I am going to conduct a demo session with someone who is K and make a video recording of it. We’ll add it to the LMT-1 training and make it available on You Tube for others to watch. If we are going to have a demo out there, I want to make sure it is done correctly.

      If that is all you wanted, I’ll handle it.

      If there are other things you want to do to popularize TLM, let me know and I’ll see how we can support you. What content do you want to promote?

      Anything you can do to tell people about our work is welcomed. Thanks for your support. We really appreciate it.

      Love, Morty

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