Sometimes when a client has a difficult time acknowledging that she has a negative self-esteem belief that I am certain she has, such as I’m not good enough, I ask them a question: “What makes you good enough?”

overcoming feelings of inadequacyBefore continuing, ask and then answer this question for yourself. You’ll see the value of doing so in just a moment …

This is actually a trick question, because if they say anything other than “nothing,” they are acknowledging that they need something to be good enough, which logically means they think they aren’t good enough to begin with.

Once they have told me what makes them good enough, I usually am able to help them get touch with the belief, I’m not good enough.

It can be difficult to acknowledge beliefs

It can be especially difficult for “successful” people to acknowledge that they hold “negative” self-esteem beliefs. Often they feel acknowledging such beliefs is a sign of weakness, so they suppress knowledge of any such beliefs.

The trick question I ask is a way to get people who are not in touch with certain self-esteem beliefs to get in touch with them.

I tell this story because beliefs will run your life whether you are in touch with them or not. Suppressing beliefs will not make them go away nor will it free you from their influence.

What should you do?

What should you do about your limiting beliefs?

First, get in touch with any beliefs you have that could sabotage you, hinder you, hold you back, keep you from having what you want, severely restrict your opportunities, and lead to such debilitating problems as procrastination or an over-concern with what others think of you.

Then, use the Lefkoe Belief Process to unlearn those beliefs.

How beliefs affect the quality of your life

You should notice a significant change in your thinking, your feelings, and your behavior with each belief you unlearn. You also will notice increased opportunities in your life as you eliminate beliefs, because beliefs, by their very nature, limit your possibilities.

If you hold beliefs like, Life is difficult or Relationships don’t work, those beliefs will limit the scope of your life as you live inside those narrow boxes. Unlearning those beliefs literally will open up opportunities that hadn’t existed for you before.

There are few things that will improve the quality of your life as much unlearning the beliefs that sabotage your life. If you haven’t yet eliminated the three most common beliefs people have (I’m not good enough, I’m not important, and Mistakes and failure are bad) on our free belief-elimination site, I urge you to do so right now.

Go to and see the difference in your life when these beliefs are gone. And after these three are gone, use the Lefkoe Belief Process to identify and eliminate any other beliefs that are undercutting the quality of your life.


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