If you are like most people, you often hear a “little voice” in your head judging and criticizing you: “What makes you think you can do that?”  “You screwed up again.”  “It must have been my fault.”  And on and on.

Where does this voice come from and how can we turn it off?

What is the little voice?

The voice is nothing more than the meaning you are giving something you did or didn’t do.  For example, you say something at a party and on the way home you give your comment the meaning: I said something stupid and people were probably laughing behind my back.  Or you decide to do something you’ve never done before and you give that decision the meaning: I can’t possible succeed at that.

bigstock-small-man-on-the-shoulder-scre-100113In other words, you judge and evaluate yourself and the little voice in your head is just you “hearing” that judgment and evaluation.

The judgment and evaluation itself is you giving meaning to an event that has no inherent meaning.  I’ve written on many occasions how we automatically and unconsciously give meaning to all types of events all day long.  (See, for instance, http://www.mortylefkoe.com/important-improve-life/.)  The little voice in our head is the result of that meaning-making process.

How to stop the little voice

Because it is possible to stop giving meaning to events, it is possible to stop judging and evaluating ourselves, thereby stopping the little voice in our head.

Here’s all you have to do.  Whenever you catch yourself judging yourself, notice that there was some type of external event or internal thought that you judged.  Notice that the judgment is something you added to the event or the thought.

Once you make a clear distinction between the event/thought and the meaning you added, the meaning will dissolve.  Well over a thousand people already have successfully dissolved meaning this way.

There is no reason to continue to live plagued by a little voice that is constantly undercutting you and making you feel bad.  Don’t wait any longer.  Start right now dissolving meaning and notice how the little voice suddenly gets quiet.

If you haven’t already seen my TEDx talk on meaning, I urge you to view it as it will provide some very useful additional information on how to dissolve meaning: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sMdVM-t5kFs

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