The purpose of today’s blog post is to help you significantly improve the quality of your life.
Unfortunately, there’s a “but.” You are going to have to do something during the coming week. This post is not meant to be read and forgotten. It is meant to be a recipe for action that will make a profound difference in your life … but you have to follow the recipe. If you aren’t willing to take the necessary action, then reading my article is not really worth your time. Like any food recipe, the knowledge you gain from reading it is worthless unless you plan to use it. If you are open to using my recipe (assuming, of course, that it appeals to you), please read on.
Here’s the recipe
I invite you to create a game for yourself called, “My life works,” which I promise will fundamentally transform your experience of life. And it will take only one week to start seeing the benefits.
Here’s how to play:
Create a context for your life: “My life works.” In other words, view everything that you think, feel, and do as proof that your life is working.
In this game the things that happen to you are not evidence for the truth or falsity of your context. There is no evidence that can make a context true or false. Contexts are outside the realm of true and false. So to ask is it true that your life works or doesn’t work when you create “My life works” as a context is similar to asking: is the color blue heavy or light, or is the taste sweet big or small? The modifiers just don’t apply to those distinctions.
Contexts are fundamentally different
Contexts—that which you distinguish just because you distinguish them, for no reason, without needing any justification—are the space in which content happens. Contexts just are, because you said so. They are not judged by the same standards as content.
So create the context, “My life works,” just because you create it: not because it’s true, or even because you want it to be true. Create it as a space to operate from, as a place to stand, as a context to live your life from. (I got the idea for this game from some things I heard Werner Erhard, the founder of est, say about context 40 years ago.)
When you operate out of a context, everything that happens is a manifestation of that context. So in the context “My life works,” everything that happens in your life is a manifestation of that context, whether it appears to be at the moment or not.
This doesn’t mean you can’t act to change or improve things if the result is something you don’t want. If that happens, tell yourself: I was fortunate to experience something that I didn’t want to experience, because that something became the impetus for changing or improving things. Boy, does my life work!
There can be no evidence for a context
Some events might be obvious manifestations of the context I’m suggesting. In other words, they appear to be proof that your life works, for example, achieving an important goal, finding the romantic partner of your dreams, or making a lot of money.
Some events, however, might appear to be a manifestation of the opposite context, “My life doesn’t work,” but appearances can be deceptive. Haven’t you frequently had things happen to you that appeared to be “bad” and then later you realized they actually had been good things for you; you just hadn’t realized it at the time? Isn’t it clear that things aren’t always what they look like when they happen?
One example of this phenomenon is a relationship that ended that seemed to be a terrible thing at that time, until you found someone else who was a better fit, at which time you realized that breaking up with the first person was what you had to do to find the better second person. So the break up, which seemed “bad” at the time, turned out really to be “good.”
Another example is a business failure or even a bankruptcy that seemed like a total disaster at the time. Then years later you are a business success and realize that you owe your success to the lessons learned in the earlier failure.
But again I want to emphasize that the point of this game is not to judge each thing that happens to you as evidence that your life works or not. The point is to act as if all events are proof that your life works, and then find a meaning for the event that is consistent with that context.
The game sounds simple and it is. But the results can be profound.
Just imagine what your life would be life if you experienced everything that happened to you as evidence that your life was working. You would never again experience yourself as a victim and nothing would ever be upsetting.
After playing this game for a week, write down below your experience of playing. Please tell me on this page: What is your experience of your life when you have everything that happens to you be an example of—a manifestation of—your life working.
I promise that this mindset will transform the quality of your life and you will never be the same again.
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