This week I am going to tell you about an easy-to-play game that will enable you to banish negativity and victimhood from your life.  If you actually play the game, I promise you will fundamentally transform your experience of life.

No meaning

This game requires you to really get that events have no inherent meaning—all events, all the time, without exception.  If that’s real for you, fine.  If it’s not, eliminate at least one limiting belief free using the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) at http://recreateyourlife.com.

It is useful to have used the LBP to eliminate at least one belief because during that Process you get a very clear experience that events have no inherent meaning.  Not because I prove it to you or because it makes logical sense, but because you have a profound personal experience that events have no inherent meaning. Events might have consequences, but they have no meaning—in other words, you can’t draw any conclusions for sure from any event or series of events.

Here are the details of the game

The game consists of noticing all day long for the next seven days every time you experience a negative feeling, such as anxiety or anger.  Then ask yourself what meaning you must have given some recent event to produce the negative feeling.  Once you identify the meaning you gave to a meaningless event, make a clear distinction between the event in reality and the meaning you have given the event, which exists only in your mind.

When you make that clear distinction, you will dissolve the meaning that you unconsciously and automatically assigned to the event—in other words, how the event occurs for you.

Because meaningless events can’t produce feelings, most feelings are the result of the meaning we have given events.  (Some feelings are caused by conditioning and moods.)  Therefore, dissolving the meaning you have given an event will, at the same time, dissolve any negative feelings that are the result of that meaning.

Now, here is the final step: Imagine that several years later you are looking back at today’s event thinking how the event that originally had seemed so bad turned out to be one of the best things that ever happened to you.  Describe in detail the many wonderful consequences of the event.

If you play the game for seven days you will notice that any sense of victimization and any negative feelings are significantly reduced.  You will experience being a lot happier.

How’s that for giving yourself a Christmas gift that won’t cost you a cent?

A summary of the game

  1. Notice all negative feelings, all day long, for seven days.
  2. Ask yourself what meaning you gave something that just happened that produced the feeling you are having.
  3. Make a clear distinction between the event in the world and the meaning you gave the event, which exists only in your mind.
  4. When you make a clear distinction, the meaning dissolves, along with any feelings that had been caused by the meaning.
  5. Imagine yourself a few years in the future looking back at the event and describe in detail how that event led to so many wonderful things.

To view a short video that describes how to play this game, go to http://occurringcourse.com.

Here is an example of how to play the game

Imagine a friend of yours walks into a room you are in, notices you, and doesn’t say hello.  Many people would experience that their friend is angry with them and get upset.  In fact, all that happened in reality is the friend didn’t say hello.  That he is angry is the meaning you have given to the event, which has no inherent meaning.  Your anger is the result of the meaning you made up.

Next, you make a clear distinction between the event (your friend walking into the room and not saying hello) and how the event occurs to you (he is angry at me).

Making that distinction clearly will dissolve the meaning, leaving you only with the fact your friend didn’t say hello. And when the meaning disappears, the upset will also.

Looking back at that event from the future you might describe what happened subsequently:  He called me the next day and explained that a great opportunity had just presented itself to him that he wanted to include me in, but he hadn’t worked out all the details yet and didn’t want to talk to me until he did.

More examples

Most of us have had events happen to us that appeared to be “bad” at the time and then later we realized they actually had been a good thing for us, we just hadn’t realized it at the time.  I’ve had that happen many times to me.

For example, we had been renting a house since we arrived in California about nine years ago.  We originally found a place near the high school we wanted our daughter Brittany to attend.  Because we didn’t know where we wanted to settle after Brittany graduated, we decided to rent for a few years.

Eventually Brittany left for college, but our home was okay, in a good location, and it seemed too much work to pack up and move.

A little over a year ago our landlord let us know that he had refinanced the house we were living in and, when the market collapsed, he ended up owing much more on it than the current value.  So he intended to walk away from the house and let the bank foreclose.

The letter from the bank asked us to get out and gave us a deadline only a few weeks away. We didn’t want to move at all, much less in a hurry.  We had a house filled with furniture and other possessions, and a garage filled with boxes of “stuff.”  It would take us weeks to get rid of what we didn’t want and pack the rest, find a new place to live, move in and unpack. Moving was clearly going to take a lot of time and effort.  Most people would have agreed that our having to move was clearly a “bad” thing.

In fact, however, we after we moved we ended up in a nicer neighborhood with a bigger and more comfortable house.  In the process of packing we got rid of a lot of junk we didn’t really need.  And we are much happier in our new home than we were in the old one.

Here’s another situation that’s happened to almost all of us.  Haven’t you ever had a relationship end and have that breakup seem to be a terrible thing at that time?  Then, later on, you found someone else who was a better fit, at which time you realized that breaking up with the first person was a wonderful thing because it enabled you to find the new person.  So the break up, which seemed “bad” at the time, turned out really to be “good.”

Play the game

Play the game.  Just for one week.  I promise it will transform the quality of your life and you will never be the same again.  At which point you will realize that you can experience joy for the rest of your life, playing the most empowering game you’ve ever played.

Please leave your comments and questions here about today’s post. Also, after playing this game for a week, tell me your experience of playing.  I read all posts and answer as many as I can.

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