Stapley, Writer and Mother
My six-year old son seemed to be going through a difficult stage and I was finding myself angry, frustrated, and upset whenever I spent time with him. Far from being the loving, supportive parent I had always hoped and expected to be, I was miserable, ashamed, and depressed because I hated the tense and angry person I turned into when I was with my son. I was able to identify and eliminate several of the beliefs that had been preventing me from being the kind of mother that I wanted to be. The results have been dramatic. Now, behavior from my son that would have triggered my anger in the past no longer does so. The tension is gone from my relationship with my son. I know I’m a better mother than I was. I’m so grateful that I found The Lefkoe Method before my son grew any older. We easily might have drifted apart and become one of the millions of dysfunctional families we all know.
Elizabeth, 13-Year-Old Student
When I was in third grade I came home one day and started doing my math homework. Out of frustration, I threw down my pencil and said, ‘I’m stupid in math.’ Shelly Lefkoe, who was there visiting my mom, turned to me and asked me what happened that led me to the conclusion I was stupid in math. I told her about how my teacher had put up all the names on the board of people who scored low on a pop quiz. I got very upset about this and concluded I was stupid in math. Shelly did the LM Process with me and I eliminated that belief. Now I am in advanced placement math with A’s and B’s.
Amy, College Student
I used to be bulimic. I felt inadequate, totally not comfortable or okay with myself. I didn’t feel loveable. I couldn’t relate to people at all. I felt alienated. Today I’m centered and focused. My perception of myself and people is totally changed. I’m not overwhelmed by a need to be thin. When I read a beauty magazine I don’t feel inadequate or not okay with who I am. I’m able to be real with people. Now I can love people and allow others to love me.
Jim, Owner of Architectural Firm
I used to always worry about upsetting the apple cart. I was unsure of myself, afraid of rejection. I took everything personally, which got in the way of getting more business. I was frequently afraid to act. Now, when I think about doing things, I usually just do them. Either I’m not uncomfortable or, when I am, the feeling no longer stops me. I have enough confidence in what I’m doing that I no longer fear rejection. I had talked about opening a new office for years but hadn’t. Now I have and it’s led to a lot more business for us.
Ruth, Television Producer
A few years ago I was stuck in a bad marriage. I was seriously depressed and thought I couldn’t make it on my own. Knowing what I should do didn’t seem to make any difference. Now, I’m out of that marriage and in charge of my life. I own my own home. The depression has lifted totally. I’m emancipated and empowered. I’m no longer stuck.
While the phrase “a new paradigm” is over used and misused, there are no more appropriate words to describe the changes in the way that I view reality since we began unraveling the tangled mass of belief systems that I had developed since childhood. I no longer struggle with the desire to take control of my life and the feeling that I can’t. Today I am exercising control of my life because I am the creator of my belief systems. The correlation between what I believe and where I am is very clear. Where I am today is the direct consequence of my decisions and actions of the past; my behavior. My behavior is directly dependent on what my perception of reality is. And my perceptions are merely my belief systems. As I began to change my belief systems, I began to act and feel differently. This has had the immediate consequence of causing me to make different decisions which has lead to different results in where I am today compared to three months ago. My biggest struggle today is choosing which course will best accomplish my immediate and long term goals.
Of course a real change in a person’s life is measured by more than our feelings. I recently ran a P&L on my business for the last 12 weeks and compared it to the same time period for last year. My sales are up 29% but more importantly my net profit is up 200%. By eliminating the belief systems that were developed by an abused and neglected child and developing the belief systems of a healthy and mature adult, I have been able to make choices in my life that are getting me the results that I want in my life.
I have begun working on my first book and plan on having it finished by the end of the year. I have also begun to make long term plans for my business and my life which makes each day an exciting experience as I watch for opportunities to make things happen. But some of the most surprising changes have occurred in my personal life. Since this is the second marriage for my wife and I, we have both worked at making a strong and happy relationship. However, as my life has been changing these last few months I have been sharing with her not only the results but using the techniques to help her work through her own belief systems. Together we have been experiencing the same paradigm shift, individually and as a couple. The result has been that I have found myself experiencing a pleasure being married that has made every aspect of our life more enjoyable and rewarding. And I do mean ‘every’ aspect.
All of this has caused me to look in amazement at where I am now compared to the first of the year when I was seriously considering changing careers and feeling very depressed about ever accomplishing the goals that I have so earnestly sought for so many years. Like others you have helped I have wished that I could have learned this years earlier. But I can choose to believe that I have lost ‘something’ because I did not have this knowledge before, or I can choose to believe that the timing is perfect and the future will be everything I want it to be. Since I’m going to believe something, I might as well choose what I believe and I choose to believe today is the best timing for where I am.
I sincerely appreciate your passion and commitment to help me and others make our lives better for ourselves and those around us. I don’t think you could ever know how many people you will have touched over the years by your efforts.
Thank you so much for all your time and personal attention over the past several months! It’s hard to believe that we’ve only known each other such a short time, considering all the areas of my life that you’ve made such a positive impact on. I had no idea that when I initially contacted you for help with the confusion and anxiety I was having in a new relationship, it would also result in such clarity in my roles as a mother, daughter and friend. My improved self-perception and esteem has made it so much easier to be the person I want to be, or to work more effectively at the changes I’ve identified as necessary, in these ever-important relationships. Instead of avoiding conflicts, or automatically assuming that I wasn’t worthy, as I had always done historically, it’s now much more natural for me to focus on resolving the issues and knowing that it’s okay for me to have what I need and want!
I will always appreciate the benefits that your insight and support have brought to my relationships, as will my circle of family and friends!
After one conversation I had on the first day of the workshop a long-standing belief was eliminated. Three more beliefs were dealt with during the workshop. Now I experience possibility. It is as though there was a huge object in front of me that prevented me from moving forward. That object is gone!
Dermot, Dell Executive – Ireland
From the very first session I started to feel more positive about myself. As the negative beliefs were eliminated the change became more dramatic and I can’t believe the results’ Thank you Shelly, for your help and support.
Kevin Rafferty, CEO Business Frontiers Inc., Vistage International Group Chairman
I found Morty Lefkoe’s process of facing my limiting beliefs to be nothing less than transformational to my life. His way of helping me see where I created certain beliefs about myself, that resulted in various ways of limiting my effectiveness as a loving human being, and of how to shed them is so powerful words aren’t adequate to describe here. Suffice it to say that since working with Morty for a month and a half I have left my old negative behavioral patterns behind, which has freed me to live and work the way I truly envision for my life, and I feel a constant sense of joy, freedom, peace and abundance…. Thanks so much Morty for helping me create the life I truly want for myself!
Over the last several years I have struggled daily with a persistent and debilitating sense of fear around people. I have seen counselors and I have taken anti-depressants. After a few years of fighting a losing battle over my social nervousness I gave up and became social anxiety’s victim. My social anxiety directed my life. I felt empty inside. I hungered for more. I wanted to be free of fear yet I felt it was hopeless. My best friend spoke of the Lefkoe process. Skeptical, but interested, I listened. He told me about the work Morty and Shelly were doing. And that they could change my life! With nothing to lose and my whole life to gain I called to schedule an appointment. Immediately Shelly helped me realize that my environment and more specifically my interpretation of my environment caused a litany of beliefs that directly contributed to my social fears. I learned that my social anxiety was not genetic and even more importantly something I could overcome! Over the last several sessions I have started to see the possibilities and everything is changing. The real me is coming out. She had helped me permanently remove the beliefs that I was ugly, stupid, and nervous. I love who I am now. When I started with Shelly my goal was to not be nervous. While I have seen substantial improvement in that area I have learned something of more systemic value: Tony is great the way he is. Shelly has dedicated herself to making my life amazing. She pours her soul into our sessions and as a result I am dreaming again and I love it.
One day I came across the Lefkoe Method. I decided to give it a try for a couple of reasons. First, the Lefkoe Method made sense to me in that a person’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors come from their beliefs. Lots of self-help materials had already told me that my beliefs were a big contributor to how my life unfolds. Second, none of those materials I already came across had or offered a quick, permanent, consistently reproducible way of altering a person’s beliefs.
Going through the Lefkoe Method quickly found the exact causes of my problem and fixed them in a few hours. That annoying problem of needing the approval of others was gone for good. It was gone as soon as the last belief was eliminated. I’m always reminded of my experience with the Lefkoe Method when I see other people living with the same issue I had because I no longer get upset when I notice someone feeling like they need the approval of others. When I notice this issue in other people I remember what it was like for me to experience that compulsion which helps me to relate to them. More importantly, I feel good that I did something to make it disappear.
Karen – Calgary, AB
Shelly, just a quick note to say THANK YOU! After you helped me remove some self limiting beliefs about money, I just made the same income in the last 30 days that I made in the 1st quarter of this year. It’s hard to imagine that I actually believed that ‘I had to work hard to make money’. I used to feel guilty if money came too easily for me, but not anymore! I also understand now the difference between whether I ‘believe what I’m saying or whether I’m trying to convince myself of that belief’; there’s a big difference between the two for sure.
I’ve also let go of the belief that ‘no matter what I do, it’s never good enough’. I was always going from one project to another or one business seminar or course to another, and not implementing any of them into my life. I’m a lot more calm about where I’m going with my life and know that the next decision I make will be based on what I want for myself, not what I think is ‘expected’ of me. What a great relief that is!
You’re a true blessing in my life Shelly, thank you again.
For years I have been plagued with the blessing of procrastination. After one Lefkoe session addressing that procrastination I find myself no longer putting things off, and missing opportunities as a result. Nothing dramatic happened, the sky didn’t open up, nor did God speak to me, I just stopped putting things off.
Shelly was fantastic. She helped me powerfully tackle my longstanding issues with procrastination and lateness with her simple, sensible, and brilliant system. I never thought it would be so easy! Without even thinking about it now, I am rarely late. I now feel in control and fully capable in this part of my life, leaving all the drama and frustration behind me. Shelly has given me an amazing personal opening and the tools to move ahead toward a much richer and fulfilling life.
Pedro Sanchez – Hollywood, Florida
I’m outstanding, I wish I had been like this since childhood, there are so many facets that have improved in my life that it will probably bore you to death, things for sure,
I’m more energetic, do things at once, no hesitation, very decisive, happier, ready to speak up and defend myself if I have to (with kindness, without attacking nor criticizing), participating and speaking more in front of people, better relationship and closer to my mother, have a lot more patience with her and with my wife, brother, kids and grandkids and I think with everybody in general, now I understand people better and probably where they are coming from.
I took a second job, long hours but my income has improved, this is not what I want but a temporary solution while I figure out what to do as you well suggested.
To tell you a secret I studied Engineering but never finished because I thought that if I built a house, a bridge or whatever, it would fall down… very low confidence I had, but as I feel now, I would have finished and with honors probably.
I can’t thank you enough for sharing this with others. I was feeling, incapable and definitely not good enough. The feelings, compounded by my age limiting belief (73) that I was too old to try anything new and the way a lot of younger people just dismiss senior citizens as dumbkoffs or disrespect us have completely reversed, thanks to your videos. I have a new zest for living and actually feel happy, most of the time. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Yes, I would buy a used car from Morty Lefkoe. His ideas have changed my life profoundly. I was initially suspicious of his claims of being able to eliminate my fear of public speaking, but his ideas work. What’s amazing is the principles apply to all aspects of how I perceive and react to life, not just public speaking. What Morty has figured out could be compared to the guy who discovered that ulcers are caused by h. pylori bacteria–nobody believed him because it all seemed too easy and no one could believe such a simple solution could have gone unnoticed for so long. My only regret is I didn’t find Morty sooner. It’s the best money I’ve ever spent and what I learned is worth more to me than my 4 year university degree. At some point in the future no child will leave high school without understanding his ideas.