Robert Ammerman left his wife and daughter in the car at a rest stop so he could go to the bathroom. But when he got out he found his vehicle surrounded by a biker gang.
Why were they there? Would they harass him and his family? Robert approached his car not knowing what to expect. When he walked up to the bikers, they complimented him on his car (it was new) and chatted for a bit. They noticed his child was sleeping in the back seat and didn’t want to wake her. So when it was time to go, they walked their motorcycles away. They were quite considerate.
When this story began, I’m sure you were expecting something quite different from these burly bikers. Our judgments of others can often be far off the mark. Similarly, our expectations of what it takes to develop our skills and abilities can also be misplaced. What we think will take a gargantuan effort, often requires an inch at a time done consistently. When we apply this inch-at-a-time process to developing skills, we call it the daily learning model.
It involves working on a skill on a consistent, daily schedule. And consistency is key. You aren’t using the daily learning model if you only do something once or twice a week. (Incidentally, we use this model in our courses and we practice five days a week so we can have weekends off. So we could call it the weekday learning model but we coined the term daily learning model and we’re sticking to it.)
It grows skill which increases your confidence that you can deploy the skill when needed.
It builds neural connections. The more you practice a skill, the more you build the brain architecture needed to support that skill.
It increases fluency, the ease with which you do the skill. As it gets easier, you naturally become more fluid and flexible in what you do.
You follow three steps:
First, you first break a skill down into small increments.
Second, you then practice one small increment for several days
Third, you reflect daily on your progress so you can notice your skills improve with time.
The time it took for us to run the program went up quite a bit and we had various challenges to overcome to make the program work as well as possible. But by 2020, just one year later, we were already better at running the course and our students were light years ahead of any previous class.
When we asked them if learning in tiny, daily increments helped them, here’s what they told us.
It made the course manageable along the other thousand things I was trying to manage at the same time. Even if some days I fell a little behind I was able to catch up and never felt like I had completely lost track of the program.
The tiny increments were very helpful. It kept me from getting overwhelmed and procrastinating. It allowed me to learn and take action, get feedback and then make improvements.
Good bite-size information that wasn’t too much to digest even when posting everyday.
That [daily exercises] is extremely important, it makes learning easier and the understanding better. Otherwise I would probably deter at the enormous task of learning this process.
Converting the program to daily learning made the students better. They started by learning little skills like how to notice when a belief is present or not, how to ask leading questions to find the source of a belief and four ways to create alternative interpretations.
They got good at each skill before moving onto the next skill. But we also became better teachers as well. We got to notice if what we taught worked or not — every single day. And if something didn’t work, it was quite evident when we reviewed the first assignments early that morning. Within an hour, we’d already improved the instructions so others would not make the same mistakes. They improved from daily practice, and we improved our teaching as well. It became a virtuous cycle.
We converted that to a daily program as well. My partner Rodney runs most of our courses but this is one we run together. I had never done so much work for a course before. I easily spent five to six hours a week. Before we began, I wasn’t sure all that effort would be worth it. But by the end, we got 19 pages of testimonials from the students. They wrote more and more deeply about their results than any previous class.
Their words showed me that we had made a much bigger difference than if we had only run the course in the usual format.
But who has the time for the daily learning model?
Daily learning might sound very time-consuming and it can be. However, it’s also possible to start small. Many skills can be developed by practicing them for several minutes a day. I know a writer that has developed her writing skills by writing a minimum of 15 minutes per day. After several months, the quality of her writing has drastically improved. She also now gets articles done much faster than before. It once took her several months to complete a short article. She can now complete them in a few weeks. This is a big transformation in her results.
So I urge you to build your own skills by practicing for short periods daily. And at least weekly, look back at your progress so you’ll see how much you are learning. You may surprise yourself with how much you progress over time.
How to eliminate 19 beliefs that limit confidence
Why are people afraid to do new things, even if they are shown small steps? Why do they sometimes feel like impostors, even when they know they have what it takes? Why do they feel so overwhelmed even when they’ve solved difficult problems in the past?
The answer is limiting beliefs. Specifically, self-beliefs.
When you have a limiting belief about yourself, it’s hard to escape. You are with your “self” all day long. But when you change a self-belief what happens? The invisible barrier in your way seems to vanish.
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