Last week Almog left a comment on my blog post that I think is the best explanation I received on why many people don’t take advantage of what they learn that will improve their lives—even when there is little or no cost involved:
I can think of a reason why most [people] don’t turn to receive help.
That reason is, that they BELIEVE that things cannot change. Some beliefs that cause this could be: “Change is difficult/impossible”, “I’m powerless”, “Nothing I do changes anything”, “It’s not worth trying to change my life”, etc.
These beliefs are obviously caused by multiple events, which include many unsuccessful efforts to make an impact over one’s own life. These events, I think, range from mild efforts to change one’s behaviour [sic.] to “big” efforts such as taking sessions with a psychologist or a coach, receiving medicine destined to alleviate stress, and more, but all without seeing effective results.
Much of what people use to produce change doesn’t work
We hear from many people every single week who tell us they’ve tried years of psychotherapy, NLP, energy work, the Forum, books, tele-conferences, weekend workshops, courses of every type, etc.—and none of them have produced the permanent change they’ve been looking for. Either nothing changes at all, or there is a change that doesn’t last, or there is a superficial improvement but not a real elimination of the problem.
(My wife Shelly, a Certified Lefkoe Method Facilitator, has suggested, as a result of all these calls, that we use as a “tag line”: The Lefkoe Method: when nothing else works.)
It would make perfect sense for most of these people to form the belief, Change is difficult (if not impossible). And once you’ve formed a belief like that, you don’t think anything will help you. You are afraid of getting burned again. You don’t want to waste any more money.
As Al suggested as reasons why people don’t try some of the free things we offer:
1) nothing’s really gonna work
2) all these self-help guys are frauds
3) all these techniques are just to make me PAY
Moreover, not only don’t you want to waste your money, you also don’t want to waste your time.
Here’s a solution
If I’ve been describing you—if you are one of the millions of people who have lost hope that anything will enable you to get rid of the barriers to fulfilling your dreams, including the fear of failing—I have a simple solution. It will only take about 20-25 minutes and won’t cost you a cent.
I’m going to give you a link to an interactive on-line version of the Lefkoe Belief Process that will help you eliminate the belief, Change is difficult: http://recreateyourlife.com/change.
About 150,000 people have eliminated at least one negative belief using our free on-line interactive website (http://recreateyourlife.com). Tens of thousands of people have read my blog posts or watched our videos to learn how to dissolve meaning (http://lefkoefreedomcourse.com and http://www.mortylefkoe.com/important-improve-life/#. Ten of thousands of others have read blog posts that provided the steps of various processes to eliminate beliefs and decondition conditionings and tried those processes (use the Table of Contents or “search” bar at http://mortylefkoe.com).
As a result we’ve received literally thousands of testimonials from people attesting to the profound changes in their lives. If what has been stopping you from using the free material I’ve offered in my blog posts, on our web sites, and in our emails is the belief Change is difficult, get rid of the belief and then observe how your life improves.
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