In an earlier post I wrote that I realized that we give meaning to events before we form beliefs and that, in fact, the early meanings are the basis for our beliefs.

It Starts With YouI also wrote that I made a big mistake when I said in the Who Am I Really? Process that the creator of our beliefs is our Infinite Self/consciousness, when really it is our finite self.

I’ve had a chance to do some more thinking about both these issues and how they relate to each other. You—each of you—really are the creator of your life. Let me explain why that is so.

We give meaning from the very beginning

Here’s how it starts. Things happen to us and around us from the moment we are born.  We have a built-in meaning-making function in our brain that has us unconsciously and automatically add meaning to meaningless events.  (See my explanation as to why all human beings have this capacity.)

So at the very moment we become aware that mom and dad are yelling at us, or comparing us adversely to others, or not listening to us, etc., we already have assigned a meaning to such events.  Meanings like I did something wrong; I didn’t do what mom and dad want; mom and dad aren’t interested in me right now; etc.

It is important to understand that the meaning has been assigned just to that single event.  And when the event passes, the meaning passes with it.  But the next time a similar event occurs, we unconsciously and automatically give meaning to that new event.  That happens repeatedly.

At some point we form an abstract generalization for similar events.  The meanings: I did something wrong; I didn’t do what mom and dad want; etc. become: I’m not good enough.  The meanings: I made a mistake; I failed at doing what mom and dad want; mom and dad stopped loving me when I failed; etc. become: Mistakes and failure are bad.

Our stage of development is the major determinant

As a child the major determinant of the nature of the meaning we give events is the characteristics of the child’s stage of development.  Young children are unable to form abstractions.  They can only take one point of view: their own.  They don’t yet understand that other people can have different points of view, different motivations, etc.  They are very narcissistic.

So if mom and dad are critical, it’s my fault and I’m not good enough.  If mom and dad are not there for me when I want them to be, it’s my fault and I’m not important.  If mom and dad make all the decisions and I rarely get what I want, it’s my fault and I’m powerless.

After the beliefs are formed and we grow older, the process gets reversed.  An event occurs and the meaning making part of the brain unconsciously and automatically assigns meaning to an event that is consistent with our beliefs.

For example, assume you have the belief, men are dangerous.  Now you’re walking down a deserted street at night and you see a man walking toward you.  You unconsciously and automatically give that event a meaning consistent with your belief—probably something like: I’m in danger.  This man will hurt me.

The difference between meanings and beliefs

A belief is a broad generalization that acts as a filter through which you view all events.   A meaning is what you think you have learned from a single event (or series of events).  The belief stays forever unless you are able to unlearn it.  The meaning you attach to any event sort of dissipates when the event is no longer in your awareness.

What you do moment by moment and what you feel moment by moment is determined for the most part by the meaning you give events as they happen. And those meanings are determined primarily by beliefs that had been formed earlier. And where did the beliefs come from?  The meaning that you gave events, based largely on your stage of development, your cognitive capacity, your ability to make meaning at that time in your life.

You create the meanings and then the beliefs that determine what you do, think, and feel.  So in a very real sense you create your life.  When I say you are the creator of your life, that “creator” is the same finite self that lives your life. In this way you are both the creator of your life and the “creation,” in other words, the finite self/ego, that lives your life.  Unlearn your beliefs and your life changes. Dramatically.  Drastically.  Profoundly.

There is a finite self and an Infinite Self

In addition to this finite self that we think we are, we are also an Infinite Self—a consciousness/energy/love/spirit that existed before the big bang, that always was and always will be.  It is a Self that is usually experienced only though meditation. It is who each of us really is.

For centuries many of the Eastern spiritual disciplines held that only spirit was real; the finite physical world and the people who inhabit that world are not real; they are only illusions.  Many people still hold this view.  But some of the Eastern disciplines modified this view to say that what unmanifest spirit did was to manifest the physical universe.  So formlessness is at the same time form and form is at the same time formlessness.

This view leads to the conclusion that consciousness/spirit is the creator of the universe. In other words, the infinite consciousness that you really are is the creator of the entire manifest universe.  But each manifest, finite self creates his own beliefs and meanings, thereby creating his own life.

The old WAIR? Process

For many years I thought that the meaning maker, the creator of your beliefs, was spirit.  I now realize that although spirit/Infinite Self does creates the entire universe, each finite self creates its own beliefs.  And thereby creates its own life.

So although I still think you and I are the creators of our respective lives, that creator is our finite self, not our Infinite Self.

The old WAIR? Process contained what I now consider to be an inaccurate distinction, namely, that the creator of our beliefs and our lives is our Infinite Self. So the Process needs to be revised, even though it was successful in helping tens of thousands of people to get into an altered state of consciousness.

I have been thinking about a new WAIR? Process that does not have this inaccuracy and that will enable us to get into an altered state of consciousness in which we experience (not merely understand or think) that “anything is possible, I have no limitations, and there is nothing missing.”

I haven’t tried the new Process with enough people to see if it works as well as the old one (in other words, does it facilitate people to get into the altered state of consciousness?), but I think it will go something like this:

A possible new WAIR? Process

1. Is it real that you used to be convinced that (name some belief you’ve eliminated) was the truth about you and that your behavior and feelings were for the most part consistent with that belief?  (Yes)

2. Is it real that you created the belief? (yes)

3.  If you created this belief and all the other beliefs that determine your life, is it real that ultimately you create your life?  (yes)

4.  So you are both your beliefs and how they manifest in behavior and feelings, and also the creator of those beliefs.  Right?  (yes)

5.  As the creator of your life, what’s possible, right now?  (anything)  What limitations do you have, right now? (none) What’s missing, right now?  (nothing)

The way to know that you’ve entered this altered state of consciousness is if you answer the three questions in step #5 as I’ve indicated.

Try this simple process and see if it facilitates you getting into the altered state of consciousness I describe. Then let me know. If it works for most people, then this is it. If it doesn’t I’ll modify it until it does.


In my last update I told you that my CEA (a blood measurement that indicates the extent of colon cancer in the body) had dropped from a high of 79 to 3.4 (normal is under 5.) I took another test last week and it had dropped even further, to 2.2.

My oncologist Jennifer Lucus ordered a CT scan to see if the tumors on my colon and liver were still there. There was too much stool in the colon to get a reading on the colon tumors. But there still was a “mass” on my liver of about 4 cm, a significant reduction from over 10 cm, but still a significant mass.

So I was confused. My intuitive voice had told me that I no longer had any live cancer cells in my body. And a 4 cm mass seemed to indicate there was still a lot of cancer. It seemed as if my intuitive voice was wrong.

Then I sat down with Dr. Lucus, who explained that after the cancer cells that make up a tumor die, you are still left with scar tissue that can look like a lesion on a CT scan. She suggested that we do another CT scan in three months. If the size of the mass was the same, we would know it’s scar tissue. If the size grew or shrunk, we would know it’s probably live cancer cells.

So again, my intuitive voice was probably right—as it has been consistently, even when it’s looked as if it couldn’t possibly be right.

I intend to continue my healthy diet, the supplements my Chinese medicine expert (Michael Broffman of the Pine Street Clinic) is recommending, exercise, cannabis, and my almost total lack of stress. All of this in a mental context where I am certain that I will be okay.

I cannot thank you enough for the hundreds of messages of love and support. And I know that many of you who haven’t written have been sending me love and support also.

Thanks for loving me. I love you too.


Thanks for reading my blog. Please post your questions or comments on how our meanings and beliefs come into being, and the new WAIR? Process. Let me know if the new WAIR? Process helps you enter an altered state of consciousness. Disagreement is as welcome as agreement. Your comments add value for thousands of readers. I love to read them all and I will respond to as many as I can.

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  1. Esther July 8, 2014 at 7:36 pm - Reply

    Dear Morty,
    The WAIR process of the past was amazing. This one is also good. Since I had already internalised the lesson from the earlier videographic, I did not notice a remarkable difference in my feelings.
    The interesting thing, is that I look at others also as “Who Are They Really”. It makes me understand that they are not being negative to me.I am just at the receiving end of their belief system. It makes me more understanding and less reactive, for the most part. I wonder if meditating will help me eliminate all knee jerk reactions… It would be wonderful if this is my default state, my constant state
    So wonderful to get the health update. There are a few people whose blogs I follow. You are the one I am fondest of. I am reading Joe Dispenza’s book”Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” and have gifted ” You are the Placebo” to a friend .Thank you for making such a difference to my life

  2. Sean B July 7, 2014 at 8:55 am - Reply

    Hey Morty, I am very impressed with your work, and you have helped me to break through on many things that I was previously stuck on. I am a NC subscriber, and was eager to attend your current LMT training, but couldn’t make the funds work… this time. I’ll be the first to sign up when it becomes available again. Question, do you do individual coaching sessions via phone or Skype? If so, I’d love to set one up. Reading the blog today I had a light go off in my mind and would love the chance to run my conclusion by you if possible… Not on this page tho. :-)

    Thanks for all of your work, and congratulations on your healthy physical state.

  3. Adam @ Place4Papers July 7, 2014 at 4:44 am - Reply

    A very interesting and valuable remark. Indeed, nobody but you should take the responsibility for the events taking place in your life. Our thoughts and dreams can materialise, and we should be careful controlling our way of thinking as well as its content.

  4. Brian O'Connor July 6, 2014 at 9:43 pm - Reply

    Hi, Morty. It is exciting for me to read about your new insights on the WAIR process. As others have noted for themselves, step four (“So you are both your beliefs and how they manifest in behavior and feelings, and also the creator of those beliefs. Right?”) does not ring true for me.
    It’s true that my beliefs are not created by infinite self/universal consciousness/etc. However, there is still a distinction to be made between the clay sculpture and the sculptor. I’m not sure if I’ve even had a glimpse of experiencing the infinite self in my life so far, but your WAIR process has guided me many times into what feels like a higher-consciousness level of the finite self that is detached from beliefs and knows:
    Consciousness yields thoughts. Consciousness is not the thoughts.
    Consciousness yields feelings. Consciousness is not the feelings.
    Consciousness yields doing things. Consciousness is not what Brian does.
    Consciousness is where thoughts feelings and actions show up

  5. Martina July 3, 2014 at 8:38 am - Reply

    For me it works – totally on the point, clear, answer to questions came easy without doubt – yes yes yes – all the best for you – lovely greetings from Germany…Martina

  6. Carol July 2, 2014 at 6:05 pm - Reply

    Morty, it is wonderful that you are continuing to develop the WAIR? Process and its wording. I don’t think you are there yet. This:“4. So you are both your beliefs and how they manifest in behavior and feelings, and also the creator of those beliefs. Right? (yes),” to me, it reads as a contradiction. And it does not resonate as true for me.

    As the “creator” it is my knowingness and experience that I am, and each of us is, an individual spark of the consciousness/spirit to which you refer. In a sense, we are part of the universal spiritual whole. We have an individual identity as spirit or soul that is not ego as it manifests in the physical universe. In other words, I am not my mind, I have a mind, I am not my emotions, I have emotions, I am not my body, I have a body, I am not my ego (creation), I have an ego (creation). For us to function and survive at the vibratory level of the physical universe here on Earth, we need the attributes and consciousnesses of mind, body, ego, emotions etc.

    I’m sure the exact most effective wording will come to you as this process evolves, as it’s obvious that you are in touch with your intuitive voice and act on it.
    With greatest respect and love,

    • Morty Lefkoe July 3, 2014 at 5:21 pm - Reply

      Hi Carol,

      I am making a distinction between the Finite Self that creates our beliefs and lives our lives, and the Infinite Self/consciousness/spirit.

      I had been saying that the Infinite Self created our beliefs. It is now clear to me that the Finite Self creates our beliefs. And there is an Infinite Self that you describe in your post.

      Love, Morty

  7. James July 2, 2014 at 1:37 pm - Reply

    Morty, so basically you are saying that “Yes, we ARE our feelings and behaviors and emotions”….. right?

    • Morty Lefkoe July 3, 2014 at 5:35 pm - Reply

      Hi James,

      We are a finite self that consists of our body, our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, etc.

      We also are an Infinite Self/consciousness/spirit.

      Love, Morty

  8. James July 2, 2014 at 12:16 pm - Reply

    Hi Morty

    Thanks for the new WAIR process

    Love and best wishes James

  9. Karen Katz July 2, 2014 at 11:09 am - Reply

    Hi Morty!
    I am so glad to hear you are strongly focused on your healing and taking action to live in a state of positivity to access your state of health again. I am sending you tons of positive energy and blessings.
    I eliminated a belief yesterday with your fabulous method. When I think of the belief now, I just smile =)
    I tried the WAIR process and was with you all the way through until I asked myself the question… what is missing now? My mind came up with the word conviction. And then doubt appeared.
    Hmmm…I am curius to know what would have happened if question # 3 was one that focused on the positive feelings of the moment instead.
    Thank you for your amazing work. It has made a tremendous difference in my life!
    As an Empowerment Coach, I know how valuable your work is to tons of people out there!
    Please keep working on this simple process to access infinite power easily. Namaste.

  10. Martin July 2, 2014 at 11:04 am - Reply

    Thank you for sharing the process. It does work because after I read it and saw the Video “I’m Not Important” I felt a deep change. Thank you for all you do. Stay with us Buddy we need you and you are on to something big… Take care.. Martin

  11. Dolores July 2, 2014 at 10:43 am - Reply


    You are such an amazing man and the way in which you have handled the cancer scare is a clear demonstration of beliefs and how they can harm or heal. You maintained your integrity and have experienced a remarkable medical diagnosis shift.

    Keep smiling and inspiring us.

    Big Hugs,

  12. LaurenLL July 2, 2014 at 9:33 am - Reply

    Like the new WAIR process and am going to use it today; I’ve also been thinking about creator and creation and use the shortened process as a focus when I’m doing my tai-chi. I say, “I have thoughts, I am not my thoughts, I have feelings, I am not my feelings, I do things, I am not what I do. I am the creator in which the creation produces thoughts, feelings, and actions. I began doing this when you wrote that the WAIR process was inaccurate and you were going to change it. I’m fascinated by your continuing journey on the healing path and hope you are around for many more years.
    Love and Light on your Journey,

  13. Cynthia M. July 2, 2014 at 9:11 am - Reply


    I think the new WAIR? Process achieves exactly what you intended, to release us from the busy “brain-self” we usually experience as “me”, to experience the “spirit-self” that we really are. More accurately, we are one self with a physical/manifest aspect and a spirit/“unmanifest” aspect, and the WAIR? Process consciously connects us to our spirit aspect, from which we can then manifest a truer physical aspect.

    But the only reality each of us creates is our own, not Ultimate Reality for all beings and all things at all times. Thus, we cannot be The Infinite Self.

    Think about it–if YOU ARE the Infinite Self, you are everything and everyone at once. Not just in potential; but in reality. There is no ‘room’ for any other selves to exist. Yet here we all are.

    The only way for each of us to have experience of a “self”, is for there to be multiple, eternal, yes, but finite selves.

    There IS an Infinite Self, which is the ultimate creator of all that exists. But WE are not that Self. We come from that Self; we can contact that Self; we can act in harmony with or in resistance against that Self; but we are not and cannot be that Self.

  14. Cynthia M. July 2, 2014 at 8:22 am - Reply


    I’m one of those who hadn’t written but have been sending you love and support.

    I’m so happy for you at your continued improvement, and so very relieved for all of us whom you have touched and will yet reach. We aren’t ready to let you go!

  15. Earl West July 2, 2014 at 6:08 am - Reply


    I like the new format for ‘WAIR’, it seems quite an irrefutable bit of reasoning. I like both versions actually. I have been thinking about ‘WAIR’ quite a lot, because I never ‘feel’ the possibilities, and I think, at least for me and possibly for others, the reason is outside of the process.

    Here is what I mean, when I think of the process and come to the ‘realization’ that I am ‘The Creator of my Life Story’ I can imagine how good that must feel for a lot of people. I can see it and imagine other people thinking “I feel free, I feel empowered” and so on.

    My process, and I don’t have every detail yet… otherwise I could probably use your methodologies to dissolve it… My process is something to the effect of:
    *I realize I am the creator
    *I realize where I am today
    *I realize all of the choices I have made to get to this place
    *I realize I am unfulfilled
    *I think “If I am the creator and this mess is what I created fire me now!”
    This is in essence what I think people like me might be going through.

    As an aside I sometimes worry that you or others might think that I am trying to show off or out think Lefkoe. The answer to that would be that I am not thinking about this to be a show off or to compete with your ideas, rather am just completely frustrated with my life right now and I want to make your stuff work so I can change my life and if I help others then that is wonderful.



    • Rebecca July 2, 2014 at 12:25 pm - Reply

      I, too, am feeling the same reaction as the first WAIR. For me the problem lies in making this statement–4. So you are both your beliefs and how they manifest in behavior and feelings, and also the creator of those beliefs. Right? Uh…Sort of
      The problem for me is that had I not experienced such a negative childhood, it’s most probable I would never have created such negative beliefs. So, saying I created them may be true, but they came about from external events. If I had been loved and cherished, would I think “I’m not important”? Highly unlikely.
      So, depending on one’s mindset–it can appear to be a freeing statement or it can be blaming.

  16. Claes July 2, 2014 at 5:46 am - Reply

    Hey Morty,

    Thanks for the hew process. Yes it works, but for me to be able to say “everything is possible” I need to be aware of that I can uncreate beliefs too. Otherwise, as creator, although I could create new beliefs, I would be stuck with all my old limiting beliefs which stands in the way of everything is possible. Maybe that needs to be included in the process.

  17. JOAO July 2, 2014 at 5:35 am - Reply

    It didnt wokr for me.Please keep trying

  18. Yusuf July 2, 2014 at 5:14 am - Reply

    Correction to my previous comment:

    How can I learn to listen to MY intuitive voice?

  19. Yusuf July 2, 2014 at 5:11 am - Reply

    Hi Morty,

    I’d like to know more about your “intuitive voice”. Is it the voice of finite self, or the infinite self? Doesn’t the intuitive voice gets filtered through our beliefs first? And finally, how can I learn to listen to their intuitive voice? Thanks

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