Life is a game… and you make the rules
As I read your comments to last week’s post—in which I contended that forgiveness is never necessary because people’s behavior has no meaning—I could hear many of you thinking, “If events have no meaning, what’s the point of life? Why do anything? Why care about anything? In fact, how can you possibly care about anything if nothing has meaning?” These are thoughtful questions that I will answer in today’s post. (Please also take a look at my responses to last week’s comments at https://www.mortylefkoe.com/dont-forgive/#.) The difference between consequences and meaning Events, including people’s behavior, usually have consequences. In my case, [...]
Why you don’t need to forgive anyone
My wife Shelly really disliked my father. Before he died over 20 years ago she was polite when we were with him, but when we were alone she made no secret of her disdain for him. Why Shelly disliked my father She thought she had good reason for her resentment. In her eyes he had treated me very badly: He had not helped me financially as a child, while I was working my way through college, or during my early adult years when I struggled. Most people who knew about my relationship with my father agreed with her that my [...]
