I’m starting this blog at the beginning of 2008 to share what I’ve learned as a result of helping over 13,000 people about

  • getting rid of persistent problems in one’s life,
  • being able to produce significant change easily and permanently,
  • and living at choice instead of at the effect of one’s feelings, people, and circumstances.

It was 23 years ago on January 2 that I was on a plane from New York to Los Angeles with five hours on my hands, and I found myself thinking about my own life. I had been struggling for a long time to get my training programs accepted by companies. But in spite of making many presentations, I wasn’t getting yeses. And here I was again, flying cross-country to try once more.

I thought of the old Fred Astaire song from the movie Swing Time: “Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.” That was my pattern, repeated day after day. Well, I wondered, a lot of people said your life is ultimately the result of your beliefs, so what did I believe that could be responsible for the pattern I had just identified in my life?

I had always seen myself as someone who never gave up. No matter what, I’d keep going. In fact, that was the one trait most people who knew me always acknowledged. So what did I actually believe? Five hundred or so miles later I had found the answer:

What makes me good enough is overcoming obstacles.

I had based my self-esteem on never giving up. In fact, it felt as if that’s who I really was.

If the way a person’s life turns out is the result of one’s beliefs, I thought, what would show up in my life if I believed What makes me good enough is overcoming obstacles?

Obstacles, of course! Not success, because that wouldn’t give me an opportunity to demonstrate that I’d never give up. I needed obstacles to prove that nothing could ever stop me. And I had been proving it all my life, especially during the prior year or so.

I continued to question. Where did I get that idea from? Why did I think that? I thought and wrote for almost five hours. By the time I landed I felt different, as if something profound had shifted in me, but I didn’t know what.

I made the business presentation I had flown to LA for and returned home the next day
still musing over the remarkable shift I had experienced on the plane. What had happened to me? What did it mean?

I had just started trying to explain to my wife, Shelly, what I realized on the plane, when the phone rang. It was Carter, Hawley, Hale, the company I had made my presentation to in LA. I had gotten the assignment.

I hung up the phone and turned back to my wife. “It looks like I really did eliminate a belief, because the obstacles just disappeared. I got the assignment!” Shelly was thrilled. “Tell me what you did on the plane,” she pleaded.

“I’m not sure,” I answered honestly. I had to find out what I did to make the belief go away, because not only didn’t I have the belief anymore, something had changed in my life. I was certain this shift in me was the key to what I was looking for in my work. If I could help people have the same kind of transformational experience, my work with organizations and individuals would have unlimited possibilities.

Eventually I was able to write down the steps to what I came to call the Decision Maker7 Process (I have since renamed the belief-elimination method the Lefkoe Belief Process and all of the processes that produce permanent change The Lefkoe Method.). I had created a technique that would assist individuals to identify the specific beliefs that had determined their behavior, feelings and attitudes, and then to totally eliminate those beliefs.

In this blog I will describe:

  • the power of beliefs, in other words, how our beliefs determine our behavior, feelings, and perceptions,
  • the core beliefs and other associated beliefs that cause the serious and the everyday problems we are faced with, e.g., depression, eating disorders, phobias, relationship problems, money difficulties, anxiety, fear of public speaking, social anxiety, and procrastination,
  • case histories that describe how people just like you quickly, easily, and permanently got rid of their barriers to a happy and successful life by eliminating the belief systems that formed the barriers,
  • some of the other processes that make up The Lefkoe Method, including a process that de-conditions the stimuli for undesirable feelings, for example, fear caused by making mistakes, being criticized, and not meeting people’s expectations, or anger caused by being told what to do or being ignored,
  • a process you can learn to use on your own to get rid of upsets almost immediately,
  • the powerful spiritual component of The Lefkoe Method, in which one experiences that another is possible and that there are no limitations,
  • and much more.

If you haven’t yet eliminated at least one of your limiting self-esteem beliefs using The Lefkoe Method, go to htp://www.recreateyourlife.com/free where you can eliminate one belief free.

I look forward to a continuing dialogue on these and other related topics. Please respond with your comments and questions.

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17 Comments

  1. Lynn April 19, 2013 at 10:58 am - Reply

    I went through “I’m not good enough” last night – My question is, how do I keep myself from falling back into that trap out of sheer habit (decades of habit)? I mean, the grooves are cut deep in my brain along those lines of thinking – how do I avoid falling back into the rut?

    • Raja February 27, 2015 at 2:39 pm - Reply

      You probably have another belief: Change is difficult and takes time.

      Otherwise your belief is gone. There may be other beliefs related to one you eliminated.

  2. Natasha August 8, 2012 at 11:39 pm - Reply

    Hi Morty,
    Your story made me smile. I wish I could have that type of epiphany in my life, but I feel too overwhelmed to even begin sorting through beliefs and events to find the root cause of my issues. I know I’ll get there someday, but I’ve been working on the same issues for so long that sometimes I feel I was just born depressed. That it’s innate.
    Thanks for the inspiration,
    Tasha

  3. James April 23, 2012 at 1:42 pm - Reply

    I identified a belief, “I am the last to be chosen.” Eliminated it, too, I think. Trouble is, when it was gone, I felt worse rather than better. What gives?

    Do we have a glitchy removal or a problem with another belief? Because when I got rid of a painful belief, I expected to feel *better*.

    • Morty Lefkoe April 24, 2012 at 4:16 pm - Reply

      Hi James,

      I’m not sure why you felt worse. Usually people either feel better or neutral when they eliminate a single belief.

      Eliminating one belief rarely eliminates a behavioral or emotional problem, so you still might be aware of your anxiety, anger, procrastination, etc. You need to get rid of all the beliefs that cause a given problem before the problem disappears.

      Love, Morty

      • James April 25, 2012 at 4:55 pm - Reply

        The limiting belief was an excuse, too. So when the excuse went away, it became okay to remember things I wanted. That took awhile to get clear on.

        So it really was an improvement, just didn’t seem like it.

        I’m going to have to ferret out a few more of these… Already acting a little different, little more forward.

  4. Olmo April 18, 2012 at 8:56 am - Reply

    Hi Morty,

    I have a question about the implications of our beliefs and reality:

    1) As I understand from the story on this post, you actually got the assingment when you changed the belief that limited your performance. If we were to think that getting the job requested at that time was the direct result of your belief that would mean that reality does not exist independently of our perception, -some kind of solipsism-. Is this the view you hold?

    • Morty Lefkoe April 18, 2012 at 10:00 am - Reply

      Hi Olmo,

      I don’t know if our beliefs literally create reality, as many claim, but our lives are certainly consistent with our beleifs. People who believe life is difficult seem to have difficult lives and people who believe life is easy seem to have easy lives.

      All I know is that it had been difficult getting business and after I eliminated that belief, I got a major assignment. And as I eliminated more beleifs, more good things happened. And perhaps it wasn’t getting rid of the beleifs that made it happen.

      I don know for sure that eliminating beliefs will change behavior and feelings, even if reality itself does not change.

      Love,Morty

  5. Pawan Garg November 1, 2011 at 1:06 am - Reply

    It was only yesterday that I was introduced to your website (through the website of Steve Pavlina where he had mentioned and recommended your belief eleminating process). However, I find it interesting and useful; at least in the case of those who are trying to get rid of their limiting circumstances and life situations.

    Thus, I will make sure that I read and re-read the blogs so that the knowledge filters down my brain and permanently settles for ever.

    Many thanks.

    Pawan Garg

    • Morty Lefkoe November 1, 2011 at 7:11 am - Reply

      Hi Pawan,

      I’m glad you found us. There is a lot of useful material here. If you have any questions, please let me know.

      Love, Morty

  6. scubbish December 18, 2010 at 3:38 am - Reply

    where in your website is the transcript of wair process if it is not therte please give it .now also if we buy your book recreate your life are all the 8 processes there in that book so that we can use it immediatley, what do you think of the sedona method and theta healing to release beliefs

    • Morty Lefkoe December 19, 2010 at 6:54 pm - Reply

      Hi Subbish,

      The teanscript fo the WAIR? Process is not available. An audio of it is at the end of the free beliefs at http://recreateyourlife.com and is a stand-alone on all our DVD and streaming video products.

      No, all eight process are not described in my book. Most of them were developed since my book was written 15 years ago. All of them are described in my posts at: https://mortylefkoe.com.

      I have little knowledge of the Sedona Method and I’ve never tried Theta healing.

      Love, Morty

  7. AnnaMaria May 4, 2009 at 9:59 am - Reply

    12 or more years ago I met Shelly and Morty in Ct. I was able to eliminate several beliefs that were harmful or detrimental to my life and success. I still have a few I haven’t yet addressed. I’ve got work to do! But, I thank Shelly from the bottom of my heart. Everytime I look at a black TV screen I think about our “sessions”. The process truly works when you can be honest with yourself.

    • Morty Lefkoe December 19, 2010 at 6:55 pm - Reply

      Hi AnnaMarie,

      Good to hear from you. Glad you are still enjoying the fruits of our sessions years ago.

      Thanks for taking the time to write.
      Love, Morty

  8. Cathlene April 1, 2009 at 6:00 pm - Reply

    Thank you Morty for sharing your story with us. Your Ah Ha moment has enriched your life and blessed millions. For that, we are grateful!
    Cathlene

  9. Mark A March 17, 2009 at 6:36 pm - Reply

    Hi Morty,
    Thank you!!! I just got the ‘Ah Ha’ moment.
    Do have a how-to book/CD specifically on beliefs? If so where can I get it?
    Mark.

    • admin April 30, 2009 at 10:45 am - Reply

      There is no “how to” book or CD, but you can eliminate one belief for free at http://www.recreateyourlife.com. You also will be able to purchase individual beliefs in the enxt few weeks, probably by mid-May, 2009.

      Regards, Morty

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