If you’re an expert in a certain field, many people think that you are supposed to have all the answers and never make a mistake. I’m not so sure about that. I think I am an expert in the fields of human behavior and change and I certainly don’t have all the answers and I make mistakes all the time.
One mistake I’ve made was thinking that because most people think they can “see” their beliefs “in the world,” everyone could. When I realized I had made a mistake, I had a breakthrough. Actually, “mistakes” are like course corrections, in other words, you realize that your solution to a problem isn’t working, which gives you the opportunity to find an even better solution—a breakthrough.
Here’s how my mistake led me to a breakthrough that will be beneficial to millions of people.
The Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) is so effective because people using it unlearn their beliefs. In other words, most (visual) people think that they can “see” the belief as inherent in the events that gave rise to the belief. For example, if your parents were critical when you didn’t live up to their expectations, you might conclude I’m not good enough. At the time it would seem to you as if mom and dad’s comments and behavior inherently meant I’m not good enough. So it seems like the meaning we ascribe to events is inherent in the events, as if you can “see” the belief “in” the events, just like yellow is inherent in a lemon.
When you realize the belief (the meaning you ascribe to the event) is not “in the world,” that it is only in your mind, the belief is unlearned and rarely comes back.
The Lefkoe Belief Process worked with thousands of clients
For over 20 years we used the LBP effectively with thousands of clients. There were always some who said they didn’t see the belief, or they said they saw the events but didn’t know what we meant when we asked if they could see the belief. And some people replied: “I didn’t see the belief; I felt it.”
Because most people could see the belief and then unlearn it when they realized they couldn’t really see it in the world, I assumed that everyone should be able to do it. When they said anything other than “I did see it,” we assumed we were not being clear and we tried to explain over and over what we meant so they would agree that they saw the belief. That was my mistake.
After many years I finally realized that not everyone is visual and that emotionally kinesthetic (K) people (about 10-15% of the population) know reality more through their feelings than visually.
So I added a couple of steps to the LBP for these people. This revised LBP was more effective than the original version for many K people, but many of them told us that their beliefs came back after a couple of days or a couple of months. Sometimes if they used the LBP with the new “K” steps several times on the same belief, it stopped coming back, but not always.
We needed a new process for K people
Finally I decided we needed a brand new process for K people. After getting feedback from a lot of K people and having several of our Certified Lefkoe Method Facilitators trying different versions of a new LBP-K Process with different clients, we had a new process. We are now on version 14 and, based on a lot of feedback, it seems to work almost all the time to permanently eliminate beliefs for K people.
I promised in last week’s post that I would provide the actual steps of the LBP-K Process for those of you who are K or who want to help K friends of yours eliminate a belief. I can’t guarantee that everyone will be successful using this process without training, but some of you might and it’s worth trying.
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Lefkoe Belief Process-K
To be used instead of the LBP when client is clearly kinesthetic
1. Close your eyes, go inside, and find your feeling related to (words of the belief). Just try to experience this feeling as fully as you can right now.