Imagine you put on dark glasses and forget you’re wearing them.

You walk around seeing everything darker, wondering why the world looks so gloomy. Then someone points out your dark glasses, and suddenly everything makes sense.

This is exactly what happens with our minds—except the “dark glasses” are the meanings we give to events. And unlike actual dark glasses, we never realize we’re wearing them.

The Three-Step Process That Quiets Your Mind Every Day

After working with thousands of people, we’ve discovered there are three simple steps that, when put on repeat, create profound changes in how you experience life:

Notice the Filter → Drop the Filter → Create a Beautiful Life

Let me walk you through each one.

Step 1: Notice the Filter

This is the hardest step because your brain isn’t designed to notice its own programming.

When you put on rose-colored glasses, you see everything with a pink tint. Gray glasses make the world look dim. Gold glasses give everything a warm glow.

But when you’re filtering life through your occurrings—the meanings your mind automatically creates—you don’t even realize there’s a filter there.

You think you’re seeing pure reality. You’re not.

You’re seeing a curated reality based on meanings your mind has created. And most of the time, those meanings aren’t even true.

The first step is simply noticing: “Wait, I’m not seeing what’s actually happening. I’m seeing what my mind is telling me is happening.”

Step 2: Drop the Filter

Once you notice the filter, you learn to make a clear distinction between what actually happened and the meaning you’re giving it.

Again, this goes against everything your mind wants to do. Your mind is designed to run on automatic programming—to just believe the meanings it creates.

But you can learn to drop that filter. You can learn to separate events from the stories about events.

And when you practice this over and over, it becomes as natural as breathing.

Step 3: Create a Beautiful Life

Here’s what most people don’t realize: the filter doesn’t just distort what you see—it blocks you from seeing options and possibilities.

When you drop the filter, you suddenly have access to choices you couldn’t see before.

Some are simple, “boring” choices that were previously impossible. Like getting up to exercise because there’s no meaning saying it’s “too hard” or “too cold.”

But some are creative, life-changing choices.

How This Played Out for Two Real People

Let me share what happened with Joss and Anna, two people who learned to use this process in real-time.

Joss was trying to buy a house. The owner demanded payment in cash by Friday. Joss explained she didn’t have the cash right now. The owner said, “Fine, I’m pulling out of the deal.”

Joss felt angry. Her mind immediately created the meaning: “This woman is a jerk. I guess I won’t get the house.”

In the past, that would have been the end of the story. No house.

But this time, Joss used the process we taught her. She dissolved the meaning she gave the owner’s statement in seconds.

Instead of seeing the owner as “a jerk”—an obstacle that couldn’t be overcome—she only saw what actually happened: a woman who wanted cash by Friday.

With the filter dropped, Joss could suddenly see new possibilities. Joss called her lawyer and asked, “How can we make it work?” To make a long story short, they found a way. Joss is living in the house today.

Anna was leading a workshop when she noticed one attendee who seemed disinterested. His face looked bored, distracted.

Her mind immediately created meanings: “He’s not interested in what I’m saying. He doesn’t care. He doesn’t like me.”

At first, she wanted to avoid him. If he’s not interested, why even try?

But then Anna dissolved those meanings using the technique we taught her.

During the break, instead of ignoring him, she walked up and asked a few questions to see how he was doing and what she could do to help.

It turned out he was struggling with some of the concepts and really needed the extra attention. She ended up helping someone who would have been completely ignored.

When You Put This on Repeat

These aren’t isolated incidents. When you make this process a habit, you become more philosophical, more creative, more reflective.

You see possibilities that no one else sees. You can stand above the fray and see options that others miss completely.

It’s like having the instant ability to be a helicopter hovering above your life—looking at all the pieces on the ground, seeing the whole map of possibilities instead of being stuck in the middle of the street with a limited view.

But here’s the thing…

The mind gets quieter every day when you do this consistently. But the key word is consistently.

Most people start strong, then gradually slip back into old patterns. They give up before they see real results.

So how do you stick to this long enough to create lasting change?

We talk about three elements of the Occurring Course that ensures you do in the next goodie.