In the 90s, Morty had a session with a client that was an absolute failure.
He helped the client identify several behaviors in her life that were not working. He helped her get in touch with emotions in the way, too.
But when it came time to uncover beliefs, she couldn’t get in touch with a single one.
At this point, Morty had already helped thousands of people from all walks of life eliminate beliefs. He’d worked with CEOs, technicians, housewives, coaches, therapists, and police officers – and every time, he was able to help them get in touch with the beliefs holding them back and then eliminate them.
But not this client.
Morty would suggest a belief. She’d say it out loud. Then she would say it didn’t feel true at all. Not even a little bit. After the session was over, Morty was understandably discouraged. He wasn’t sure how he could possibly help her. Then, by chance, he ran into this woman’s daughter. She mentioned that her mother is a Christian Scientist, and they say it’s not okay to have negative thoughts.
Maybe she has a belief that keeps her from acknowledging her beliefs, Morty thought.
So, he scheduled one more meeting with this client. He asked her what she believes about negative thoughts. She said, “It’s bad to think negative things.” Then Morty helped her eliminate this belief.
And what happened next?
The floodgates opened. One after another, she was able to acknowledge beliefs that hadn’t seemed real to her the week before. She was able to eliminate them and make big changes in her life.
So, what lessons can we take from this story?
- Clients don’t resist doing things that would help them. This woman wasn’t “resisting” acknowledging a belief. She was really trying.
- What people really resist: doing something they think is “wrong.” And like with this client, the result can even be blindness to things that are obvious to others.
- And finally, people’s beliefs determine what they think is wrong. So, after they eliminate their belief, they are free to act differently.
This is why we don’t think people have hidden motives, such as a self-sabotaging motive. We believe in hidden beliefs. The beliefs operate independently in a client’s mind like a computer program run amok.
If we delete the program, the computer will work.
We assume the client’s mind is fine, just like we assume a computer just bought from the store is fine. So when something isn’t working in a client’s life, we help them find and then delete the unworkable program.
When we do that, our clients experience spontaneous changes.
They don’t have to force themselves to do something different or struggle to maintain new behaviors. They are able to make choices freely, without resistance.
In LMT1: Core Belief Coaching, you learn how to gently guide a client through the belief process even when challenges arise.
This is why past participant Joseann Freyer-Linder said
“For all possible pitfalls or difficulties in the process, tools are given on how to deal with them so that I feel perfectly able to do this process with anybody who is suffering from limiting beliefs.”
We don’t leave anything to chance. We know challenges will show up in a session with a client. We give you time-tested techniques to guide your client through them in a way that is gentle and effective.
