Five steps to getting rid of negative emotions
Have you ever seen a mirage?
When I lived in Miami Beach as a kid I saw plenty of them.
The first time was on a very hot day.
I looked down the road and it seemed like a river was flowing in the intersection at the end of the block.
It looked strange. I wondered how all that water got there.
So I rode my bike down to the intersection … and what did I see?
Just dry road of course.
It wasn’t a big realization. It was just a simple change in perception that I achieved by really looking at what was happening.
The same thing happens when people try my Lefkoe Freedom Process that you may already have tried.
When the mind has created a meaning for an event in the moment–something I call an occurring–it believes the meaning to be true.
It’s like seeing a mirage but not knowing it’s a mirage.
When you really look carefully at the occurring and then notice that it’s not IN the events but only in the mind, it vanishes as completely as the “water” vanished when I rode to the the intersection.
The key is to know how to look.
And I’ll show you the simple steps you can do on your own now.
The Five Steps To Getting Rid Of A Negative Emotion
First, notice that you are having a negative emotion.
Second, notice the event that came before the emotion.
Third, notice the occurring – the meaning — that produces the emotion.
Fourth, notice that the meaning is something the mind added to the event. It’s not really a part of the event.
Fifth, notice if the emotion is gone. If so, great. If not, notice if there is another meaning producing an emotion and begin the process again.
(It’s also possible that you chose a meaning that does not cause the emotion or that you chose a meaning that’s not really a meaning. If so, the process won’t work. I’ll show you how to handle these possibilities in future emails.)
Here’s An Example Of How One Person Used This Process
Jane had a fight with her husband and was feeling angry.
First, she noticed her feeling of anger.
Second, she noticed that it came after a fight with her husband. She had asked him to do something; he promised to do it and did not. When she brought it up he accused her of nagging him. That’s when she got angry.
Third, she looked for the meaning. One of her meanings was, “He’s wrong to say that I’m nagging.”
Fourth, she noticed that her meaning was something she added to the event. “Wrongness” isn’t something that’s in an event. It can only exist in the mind.
Fifth, she noticed that her feeling of anger over his comment about her nagging was gone. But she still had feelings about other things he said, so she did the process on those feelings as well until she noticed she didn’t feel upset any more.
One key thing to note is that Jane had to use the process more than once to handle all the feelings from the fight. Sometimes there is more than one meaning causing an upset.
Fortunately, since you can follow these five steps on your own, you can handle every meaning until you’re mind is clear.
So please try it yourself on your own and let me know your results by leaving a comment below.
I’d really love to hear how it works for you. And of course you are free to continue to use the web app as well.
I was upset with my boss because he didn’t turn up for a meeting. I thought he dont appreciate it and I was upset about it. But later when I called him bout it, he told me he met with an accident therefore he couldn’t make it. My whole emotion and meaning that I made for the event disappeared … now I understand this process very well. Thanks a lot for opening my mind
Tried it for the first time today. Was feeling stuck for the whole day and I added a meaning to a meaningless event that happened in the evening and was getting out of control. But this not only brought me back to normal but to a higher state of realisation of not only how I add meanings to plane this and destroy my own game but also build my future brighter since the major stone is learned to be dealt with and all thanks to you and your powerful brain that brought it up
Thanks so much for this incredibly simple process! You’ve helped me change my life for the better :)
thankyou so much for these 5 simple steps
right now i am not sure what to say but just thinking and organizing my thoughts in these 5 steps kind of made me feel a little bit poisitive
thankyou so much
Thanks Morty, I have been using this Technic for two days and it has really brought a lot of light to my life. Thank you for sharing.
What an amazing, simple and self-empowering way of eliminating my feelings of fear and guilt. I’ve just started but already it’s lifted a weight. Thank you for your generous sharing.
Morty, It is incredible when you realize all what you can create and carried for so long and in just a short time eliminate it for ever. Thank you very much and to be able to share it to.Really appreciate it.
Morty, thanks for the Five Steps to Getting Rid of Negative Emotions
I had a major issue in my business which caused negative emotions due to the meanings I attributed to the issue. I followed the Five Steps and it worked wonderfully. I plan to make the Five Steps a major technique in my life. THANKS!