Many of you have written to me saying you understand how to eliminate a belief, but you don’t know how to find the specific beliefs that cause specific problems. You’ve asked when we are going to offer a training class that will teach you how to do that.

The first training class we will offer in a couple of months will teach you how to eliminate beliefs when you already know what they are. The second course to be offered shortly thereafter will teach you how to find the relevant beliefs for different problems.

In the meantime, however, I wanted to support you as best I could by giving you a few tips to tide you over until the course is available. If you follow the instructions given below, you will be able to find at least some of the beliefs that cause specific problems.

Interestingly enough, getting rid of a limiting belief with the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) is a lot easier to do than finding the relevant beliefs in the first place. As you already know, we have created an on-line process and DVDs that eliminate specific beliefs. We still do not know how to automate the process of finding the relevant beliefs.

The trickiest aspect of the LBP is identifying all the relevant beliefs (and conditionings) that cause a given problem.

The number of beliefs can vary

Some patterns like phobias can be eliminated by getting rid of one belief and one conditioning. One client had a fear of small bugs, insects, or rats. It was totally caused by one conditioning: Fear associated with being touched by small insects or animals. When that was de-conditioned, the fear was gone. Another client had a fear of dogs. She had the belief: Dogs are dangerous and the conditioning: fear associated with dogs. When they were gone, the client said she felt comfortable with dogs, unless they were barking. We then discovered and eliminated the belief: barking dogs are dangerous. Then her fear of dogs was totally gone.

Other patterns like depression and eating disorders can have upwards of 30-40 beliefs (in addition to conditionings, senses, and expectations). These patterns can have as many as 15 negative self-esteem-type beliefs, along with negative beliefs about life, such as life is difficult. Emotional eating has several different causes, including both self-esteem and eating beliefs and a unique type of conditioning.

Many patterns share a lot of the same beliefs

If you eliminate all the beliefs that usually cause a lack of confidence (the 19 beliefs and 4 conditionings in our Natural Confidence program), you also will be eliminating all the beliefs that cause several other problems, such as procrastination, social anxiety, fear of rejection, seeking approval, perfectionism, high levels of stress, and the critical “little voice” in our heads. These other problems have fewer beliefs and conditionings (as few as 6 beliefs and 3 conditionings for fear of rejection) and different combinations of them.

So how can you figure out what beliefs cause different problems? The first step is just to figure out logically what beliefs could cause the problem.

For example, if you aren’t able to create a lasting, nurturing romantic relationship, you probably have beliefs about yourself, the opposite sex, and relationships. What do you think they are? … Logical possibilities include: I’m not loveable, women/men can’t be trusted, and relationships don’t work.

If you are afraid to take chances, what are some of the beliefs you might have? … Mistakes and failure are bad. I’m not good enough. Nothing I do is good enough.

And if you’re an approval junkie, what are some of the beliefs you might have? … I’m not good enough. I’m not important. What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me.

The best technique for finding beliefs

The best single technique for finding the relevant beliefs is to notice what you are thinking and feeling as the problem occurs. They will be a clue to the underlying beliefs. For example, if the overall problem is social anxiety—not feeling comfortable with people in social situations—then when meeting someone at a party you might notice yourself thinking: I don’t feel comfortable when people are putting their attention on me. And you might be aware of an anxious feeling as if something bad is going to happen. Two beliefs that “go with” those thoughts are: Something bad will happen if people put their attention on me and I’m not good enough. A conditioning that could account for the feeling is: fear associated with people focusing on me.

Ultimately, experience is the best way to find all the beliefs and conditionings that cause any given problem. The more you do it, the easier it will become. (As I mentioned in a recent post, a negative sense of self and life, along with negative expectations, sometimes have to be eliminated before an undesirable behavior or feeling is totally gone.)

My vision

My vision is to have The Lefkoe Method so thoroughly incorporated into the culture that everyone learns the relationship between beliefs and behavior at an early age and also learns how to help others eliminate beliefs and change behavior. I also want parents to know the child-rearing techniques that minimize the number of crippling beliefs their children form.

An experience my wife Shelly had a few years ago symbolizes the way I envision how the world will utilize TLM in the future. She went to the gym and got on the Stairmaster. A couple of minutes later a friend of hers who she hadn’t seen for a few months got on the machine next to her. Shelly asked her friend how she was doing. The friend told Shelly about some relationship difficulties she was having.

What would most women do in a situation like this? … Empathize with their friend’s predicament and give some advice. Shelly empathized but didn’t give any advice. Instead she helped her friend identify three of the most relevant beliefs that were responsible for the relationship difficulty and then helped her friend eliminate them all … in 45 minutes. As a result, the friend had the possibility for a good long-term, nurturing relationship that she didn’t have before talking to Shelly.

Let’s create this world

Can you imagine a world in which it was commonplace for everyone to be able to do that for everyone else? That’s my vision and what my life is dedicated to creating.

Thanks for reading my blog. I really appreciate your comments and questions. Please feel free to share my blog posts (see the Twitter and Facebook buttons at the top of this post) with anyone you think might be interested.

If you haven’t yet eliminated at least one of your limiting self-esteem beliefs using the Lefkoe Belief Process, go to where you can eliminate one negative belief free.

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  2. Maureen October 9, 2013 at 10:34 am - Reply

    Wow. What gym does Shelly belong to? I’m joining!

  3. Alex July 11, 2011 at 8:19 pm - Reply

    Are you saying that there’s a possibility that the second course will be cancelled? Aw shit, that’s the one I was interested in the most.

    I don’t mean to be indiscreet Morty but could you give us an approximation of what the cost for participating in the courses will be? I’m very interested in them.

  4. Brandon Jones July 11, 2011 at 10:01 am - Reply

    Hi Morty,

    Regarding your statement – “The first training class we will offer in a couple of months will teach you how to eliminate beliefs when you already know what they are. The second course to be offered shortly thereafter will teach you how to find the relevant beliefs for different problems.”

    I’m curious if you have an exact date or a closer estimation as to when these two classes will be offered. I’m very interested in them.

    Brandon Jones

    • Morty Lefkoe July 11, 2011 at 2:56 pm - Reply

      Hi Brandon,

      The first course will probably be offered in the next couple of months. It is being prepared right now.

      The next course, how to find the exact problem and all the relevant beleifs, is not even scheduled at this point. We’ll see how the first course goes and how much interest there is in the second course.

      Love, Morty

  5. Steven July 11, 2011 at 7:54 am - Reply

    How do you eliminate panic attacks?

    • Morty Lefkoe July 11, 2011 at 9:22 am - Reply

      Hi Steven,

      You get rid of panic attacks by getting rid of all the beleifs that cause it. And that can be different for different people.

      A few one-on-one sessions on the phone or Skype should do it.

      Call us for more information at (415) 506-4472.

      Thanks for your interest in our work.

      Love, Morty

  6. mayuk June 14, 2011 at 1:15 am - Reply


    i got rid of a suppressed anger using the LBP,but its underlying beliefs were “i am bound” ,” i am not loved ” and “what makes me ok (free ,loved) is being supported “.my question is the belief “i am not loved ” is right or it should be ‘i am not loveable” ,because when i said ” i am not loveable” it didn’t feel anything ,and” i am not loved” what just came up when i was trying to find out the underlying beliefs,do u think i am went u ever had clients who had this belief ” i am not loved” .the negative feeling has gone by the way.


    • Morty Lefkoe June 14, 2011 at 9:07 am - Reply

      Hi Mayuk,

      People can have any or all of these beliefs. If you got rid of it, then whatever you worked on seems to be the right thing.

      Thanks for taking the time to comment.

      Love, Morty

  7. Gary June 10, 2011 at 5:04 pm - Reply

    How can we learn to eliminate beliefs in others? I did the process with my mom and I think it worked, but I would love to officially learn how. I have also had success eliminating beliefs in myself.

    • Morty Lefkoe June 11, 2011 at 8:58 am - Reply

      Hi Gary,

      We are in the process of creating an on-line training right now. We’ll let you know as soon as it’s ready.

      Thanks for your interest in our work.

      Love, Morty

  8. EJay May 30, 2011 at 3:27 pm - Reply

    EJay May 30, 2011 at 3:18 pm

    Hello Morty

    I just discovered your work through Steve Pavlina.

    Your ideas make lots of sense, provided you can pinpoint the belief that is causing the problem. I was about getting ready to purchase your program, but I was worried that it would not apply to me.

    I think there is room to develop a piece of software to help zoom on the belief. You have 19 beliefs listed, but I am sure there are multitudes more.

    I myself have been struggling all my life with being a night person. Better defined as a night owl. This naturally causes me t0 get up late and disrupts my life a lot. It’s been a struggle ever since I remember.

    I always plan to go to bed early but invariably get distracted and end up sometimes @ 2 AM or even later. Sheer willpower will occasionally help for a week or two but then its back to square one.

    Do you have any ideas where to start?

    (This was posted erroneously to the a previous post. Please ignore that one, it belongs here)

  9. Alex April 23, 2011 at 5:00 pm - Reply

    Hey, thanks Lauren! Great tip, I’m gonna try it :)

    As for myself, I have found that a way to find some beliefs is checking what I fear other people will think. So for example, if I’m afraid other people will think: “Oh my God, that outfit is awful”, it’s because I believe it is.

  10. Lauren April 23, 2011 at 2:47 pm - Reply

    When I was figuring out why affirmations don’t work for me, I discovered a source of beliefs as well such as saying “I lose weight quickly and easily” when another part of me is saying, “No, you don’t”. So this could be a source of discovering limiting beliefs as well.
    Love and Light,

  11. Erik April 23, 2011 at 10:33 am - Reply

    Hi Morty
    Just wanted to sign up on your sign up page.
    Looks like something is not working there.

    • Morty Lefkoe April 23, 2011 at 10:44 am - Reply

      Hi Erik,

      The place to sign up to get a free belief and to be on our mailing list is

      Thanks for your interest in our work.


  12. Andres April 22, 2011 at 9:40 am - Reply

    Hi Morty, there is a book called focusing by Eugene Gendlin. I think he teach a very good method for discovering underlying beliefs and bring them to the surface

  13. Jennifer Barthe April 21, 2011 at 8:55 pm - Reply

    I’ve found the LBP to be very effective. I’ve had to do the “I’m a Failure” belief exercise twice because I had about five beliefs stemming from this one limiting belief. Now when I look at my old limiting beliefs concerning this area (about ten beliefs), I don’t feel anxious anymore. The limiting beliefs are gone.

    I love the system and whenever a hidden belief pops up again, I’ll use the LBP to eliminate it. Though I know fewer and fewer limiting beliefs will be popping into my conscious in the future.

  14. Nick April 21, 2011 at 2:49 pm - Reply

    As I said in past posts……amazing…… Morty how you have another key to unlock a gate that seemed unlockable for 70 years…you did it again…. God Bless you… fit right with the “MAN”!

  15. Lauren April 20, 2011 at 5:38 pm - Reply

    Great blog as usual, Morty. I recall from the Occurring Course you mentioned that if an issue keeps coming up as an “occurring”, it also indicates a belief and/or conditioning. Is this a valid way of discovering beliefs, as well?
    Love and Light,

    • Morty Lefkoe April 20, 2011 at 5:49 pm - Reply

      Hi Lauren,

      Yes, you can ask yourself what you must believe to keep having similar occurrings.

      Thanks for your constant support.


  16. Maria April 20, 2011 at 12:56 pm - Reply

    Hi Morty,

    Is it possible that a believe is formed at older age and not in childhood and not as a result of interaction with your parents? Or do you think all of our believes are formed in childhood?

    Thank you

  17. Alex April 20, 2011 at 11:24 am - Reply

    Aww, shoot. I was expecting a detailed post including advanced tricks for finding beliefs that are hard to identify… well, at least I know how to use the LBP, and that’s incredibly helpful.

    Morty, could you tell me what specifically is covered in the belief-identification course besides the basics? Advanced techniques? Common mistakes to avoid? or what?

    And how useful do you think this course could be for people who already have some untrained experience with the LBP? For example, I have eliminated about 70~80 of my own beliefs and I have helped like 8 people eliminate at least one. So I imagine that if I enroll in the course I might come out not having learned a whole lot more than I already knew.

    • Morty Lefkoe April 20, 2011 at 11:58 am - Reply

      Hi ALex,

      The LBP consists of a few questions. If your “client” can answer all the questions, the belief will be gone in 5 minutes. The problem is that they usually don’t understand what you are saying or they have some barriers.

      They don’t remember their childhoods, they think their parents were perfect, they’re not sure if they “saw” their belief, they don’t get “no meaning,” etc. So the course is teaching you how to deal with the various problems that arise with different clients when trying to do the LBP with them.

      We have found when we listen to people who think they understand the proess that in fact, they make many mistakes, including alternative interpretations that really aren’t alternative interpretations.

      More details on the course when it is ready to be offered.

      If you already know everything we will be teaching, then there is nothing more to learn.

      Thanks for your interest.

      Love, Morty

  18. mayuk April 20, 2011 at 7:30 am - Reply

    what if a belief can be of different pattern in two different issue like in case of mother u feel a kind of powerlessness and in case in case brother u feel another kind of powerlessness both r different types in feeling , u also don’t have any other words other than this to express it,have u faced any thing like this with ur clients.

  19. Justin | Mazzastick April 20, 2011 at 3:22 am - Reply


    I like what you have said here and it would be great if we could prevent the beliefs from forming in the first place. Especially learning and sharing this technique with others as Shelley did at the gym.

  20. Owen April 20, 2011 at 3:03 am - Reply

    “I also want parents to know the child-rearing techniques that minimize the number of crippling beliefs their children form.”

    Now there’s a tough assignment. I think it’s safe to say that for the most part, limiting beliefs parents pass on to their children are beliefs they, themselves got from their parents and other early influential adults, such as teachers and caregivers. And those parents have little idea that they even have limiting beliefs, let alone what they are. Too many are comfortable in their ignorance of the fact that they could improve their lives and the lives of their kids.

    My daughter lived with a mother and stepfather with self-esteem issues from the age of three to twelve and they seemed bent on making sure she had the same issues – only worse. But of course, they had no idea what they were doing to her or why.


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