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Every week I sit down at my computer and ask myself: What should I write about that would be useful for you, my readers?
I usually choose a topic based on
- what I think you would like to learn,
- what I think would be useful for you to learn,
- my own experiences that I think you will find useful,
- general things about TLM that I think will be useful, etc.
I also want my posts to be consistent with our mission: To significantly improve the quality of life on the planet by having people recreate their lives and live as the unlimited possibilities they are.
My posts average about 1200 words and are written over the course of 3-4 days. I usually write a draft on Thursday or Friday and then make at least 5-10 complete edits over the next few days, posting on Tuesday. I spend about two to three hours total each week writing my blog post, except on complicated subjects like last’s week post on emotional eating, when I spent about five hours.
This week I want to devote this space to asking you if there is any specific topic that you would like me to write about. What would you like to know that would make a real difference in your life? Obviously anything I write about will be in the framework of The Lefkoe Method.
To see what topics I’ve covered already, here is a link to a table of contents for all of my posts thus far. If you’ve just started visiting my blog, there are a lot of really interesting posts from the past couple of years that are worth reading. I’ve included links in case you missed any of them or would like to revisit any that look interesting to you. http://www.mortylefkoe.com/table-of-contents/
Please tell me in the comments section below what you would like me to write about in the future.
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less talk, more clarity, balanced inner/outer life
Talk more about to control nervousitivity, and helping eliminating it.
Hi Marina,
Nervousness is strictly a function of beliefs and to some extent, conditioning. It is largely the result of a lack of confidence.
We have a program that should help significantly with this problem, http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php
Love, Morty
How you stop worrying about supporting your family.. When every endeavour you have with running your own business.. is not bringing the money in… Some how it becomes about the business not you
Hi Lisa,
There is a difference between doing what you need to doto support your faamily and worrying about supporting your family.
Worrying never brought in an extra dollar.
You an get rid of the worry in two ways. Eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that cause it, or change your occurring so the same circumstances don’t result in worry.
Love, Morty
I am really interested in over coming co-dependency and freeing myself emotionally from depending on others for love and security. I am currently working on the Natural Confidence Program…does this program help in that area at all?
Hi Jennifer,
This program will help a lot, but you also might have some beliefs specifically about love and relationships. At present we don’t have any programs for that area as each person is too different.
We could help in one-to-one sessions after you complete the Natural Confidence course and see what problems remain.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
I’m really interested in breaking through barriers that are stopping me from starting my own business enterprise. I have fears and beliefs like “all small businesses fail”, “I don’t deserve to be wealthy”, “only bad people get rich”, “I will only ever earn money if I have a job”, “Being employed makes me important”, “someone else is already better at this so there’s no point me trying” and “No one would ever want a service I offer”.
I want to create my own freedom and security through a small business, but while I understand intellectually that it can work and that I do have something to offer the world, my emotions and thought processes are stopping me from even beginning to develop viable business ideas.
I have taken your natural confidence course, and this has helped me immensely in my personal and social life (thank you! life changing!), but it did not address my money/business fears. Do you have any plans to develop a product along these lines?
Hi AMy,
We do have a package of five beliefs about money that is not currently on the market. If you really are interested, you can check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/amember/signup.php?price_group=-79
Love, Morty
Hi Amy,
We have developed a program of five negative beliefs about money that is not currently on the market. But if you are really interested, you can find it at http://recreateyourlife.com/amember/signup.php?price_group=-79
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
Thank you for allowing this process of having to voice out ‘what topic i want you to help me with’. I live in Malaysia and my passion is with the health sector and having gained many years of management/change consultancy experience in the UK health sector, I am now embarking on the process of a much needed change process implemetation of the Malaysian health sector from an NGO framework. There is a highly motivated group of us who are working as a team.
My issue is ‘how do I embark on this and how do I deal with all the internal resistance and complacency?’
Hi Morty,
I’m being greedy but here is another question you maybe able to help me with and some other readers may find the same challenge or perhaps have a solution. When I first read your stuff, I thought as I did when I first discovered hypnotherapy, brilliant, now I know this, it makes so much sense and everyone will want to know this stuff as well and use it to make their lives better – why wouldn’t they. Anyhow they do not, and as with NVC(non violent communication) my ears are open now to how much we blame everything else for our problems etc. The problem is that to keep rapport with anyone you need to speak the same language and I now find that by hearing differently I am trying to speak another language, one that most do not want to know about. So I sometimes feel I either live like a hermit and keep my little world of change therapy, silently listening to everyones gripes, or I almost contradict myself and join in with others conversations and beliefs. This may seem hypocritical but trying to convince someone the weather isn’t spoiling his day, eventually just seems to be wearing me down. Its a totally different paradigm that you are teaching and one I find hard to jump between. Its like saying to someone of a certain faith, listen I know you believe this but no one wants to listen to you, so you are going to have to go against everyting you believe otherwise you won’t fit in. At least with religeons there are enough people following the faith you could hang out with – you don’t find many people using the Lefkoe method on the building site – I know I work on one!
I hope this makes sense to you or anybody else. I think what I’m saying is this is great if everyone’s talking the same language but how do we happily communicate if not?
Thanks Morty for your time.
Hi Captain Haddock,
Clearly it is easier and more fun to hang around with people who share your values.
But that does not mean you cannot live with or interact with people who don’t. I was able to stop worrying about what people think of me, stop being needy, stop being depressed, change my occurring, etc. etc. regardless of what others did around me.
My life is 1000% better than it was before I started getting rid of beliefs and conditionings, and the world has not changed that much in the meantime.
In fact, the more I don’t get sucked into the stories others tell, the easier it is to deal with them.
Love, Morty
Hey Morty, it is my intention to be a contribution whenever, wherever I can, I don’t often have the time to weigh in on your posts, but did not want to let this one slip by. You always make a difference because that is who you are and literally what you are about. The freedom that we all seek “to be who we really are” and live a deliberate life aligned with the experiences and the relationships that allow for the manifestation of self-expansion and clarity with the directions we choose, at times seems such a challenge. I believe that well being is the default, I clearly understand the power of beliefs and contend that who we really are was so before anything else, do you believe that negative beliefs are really the culprit for all that ails us? What occurs to me is that more often than not, operating from anything but who we really are seems to be the default.
Hi Kim,
Yes, my experience with thousands of clients has shown that beliefs and conditionings are responsible for most of our mental problems. My evidence is that when the beliefs and conditionings are gone, the problem is too.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
Last time I spoke with Shelly she told me that you have trouble eliminating the beliefs of those who are more “feelers” than others. She brought this up because I have come back to you many times with help for public speaking and nothing seems to work. I went through the public speaking program, then spent more money on the public speaking program and still am terrified of speaking in public. You (yourself) had one session with me and I didn’t feel any different afterward. You and Shelly have given me free sessions for this. Nothing has worked.
The most recent event was this past Monday when I pretended that I was sick just so that I wouldn’t have to speak in public. Your work-or-money-back public speaking program didn’t work for me.
Obviously, I’m a disappointed customer. I have not requested my money back from you. I would rather you fix me than give me my money back.
My request is that you come up with a program for people like me. I do not want this terrible fear or other fears.
You may only need to make a slight adjustment to the approach. I have no idea what that is. But my request is that you try to figure this out.
Imagine when you can really say that your program works for everyone. That would be amazing.
Respectfully,
Dawn
Hi Dawn,
Please call me so I can see if I can figure our why our program is not working for you.
I will do my best to help.
Love, Morty
Forgive myself… and others
What about if, as a child, you are weak, or constantly getting sick. You want to do all stuff a child wants to do, but, because of what I just mentioned, you get to the conclusion: I’m not good enough. I’m not worthy because I’m ill. And so on. In this case, your parents didnt have anything to do with your conclusions. How can we deal with our own relationship to ourselves?
How to get read of neediness with women.
Hi Marius,
I had this problem myself for most of my life.
I got rid of a lot of negative self-esteem beliefs and the belief: The way to survive is to have a woman in my life and what makes me important is having a woman in my life. At some point the problem dissolved completely and it hasn’t bothered me in many years.
Love, Morty
Hey morty; first of all thank you for giving us all those personal development insight. as far as i am concerned writing a post on how to get driven to accomplish any thing you want in life would be a very great thing. thank you.
fear of being the center of attention in business situations or during presentations & public speaking
Hi Scott,
Take a look at our Natural Confidence package. That should totally get rid of that problem. http://recreateyourlife.com/store/natural-confidence.php
Love, Morty
When feelings are On and off:
Sometimes we put off our feeling, zero, and behave as we have no feelings at all. To pretect our self. I have done this I know. Not followed my heart. How to do when i meet a person, he has close his feelings and I know it. Sometime children put off there feelings….I can se and feel that.
What will you say about off feelings…?
Hi Kristina,
This is a problem I have had. It is caused by several beliefs, including If I express my feelings I’ll get hurt and people can’t be trusted (or are dangerous or will hurt me). And it is also caused by conditioning, automatically shutting down feelings when someone is angry or yelling at us.
Hi
Thanks for your great work. I have been hearing for quite some time that all is the game of beliefs understanding is the whole thing. So, it would be good if you would write more on future worries and faith. All the time the only concern that we have is what if, what if, what if. Even when, we have intellectual understanding of this and that, but emotionally we have future worries. Would require insight on that.
Thanks and regards.
Hi Ramesh,
Intellectual understanding don’t change anything. Getting rid of beliefs changes things.
Worries are ultimately caused by beliefs and conditionings. Interimly they are caused by our occurrings, which can be dissolved in a matter of minutes.
Love, Morty
Morty,
I would like to read (and learn) the practical way how to clear/deprogram some classical and operant conditioning by myself. Maybe some transcript of an interesting case from your practice would make reading more attractive.
With love and light,
Franc
Hi Franc,
At some point I may create a course where I can teach people how to use my new de-conditioning program. At present the only people who can use it are Certified Lefkoe Method Facilitators. It is not something you can use effectively merely by reading a script.
Also, more often that not, the primary source of our problems is beliefs. So even if we need de-conditioning, we also have to eliminate a bunch of beliefs first before we can rid ourselves of most of our problems.
Love, Morty
l have absolutely not enough information about your website or blog to comment on this. My only experience with your ideas is this online”how too get rid of destructive beliefs” That was genious” it was so simplified and yet so univeral. So l will give it a go 1:you are absolutely on the right track with feelings and eatingdisorder. You can help alot with reaon, but peole are complicated, and some problems are felingoriented. 2: l think you should wright more about your own shortcommings and dont trick peoplein too thinking they will always feel great.This is your best source 3 This is your business and you are handling it well, much respect too you fore that, and this is much inspiration, but l read your artikkel about emotional eating and you understand much. My tips is too share a few more clues sopeople can see fore them selves, then l think they will come too you fore the rest.
Hi Cathrine,
Thanks for taking the time to post to my blog. I appreciate your suggestions.
Love, Morty
I’m curious to know what beliefs make us lie.
Hi Marius,
Interestingly enough, we have never in 25 years had a client who has presented that problem.
I’m really not sure.
Love, Morty
Fear?
Hi Morty,
You mentioned operant conditioning. I saw you have a explanation and process for classical conditioning.
I and I’m sure many others would benefit greatly from the explanation and process for operant conditioning also,
Thanks in advance,
James
Hi James,
I provided a descirptiuon of each type of conditioning in my blog post about emotional eating on August 17.
Love, Morty
Hey Morty what do you say about this core belief list http://www.core-beliefs-balance.com/example_negative_core_beliefs.htm . It helped me allot and I’ve just done the first few beliefs.It is nice to have a list and work beliefs one by one. Also for stuff like feeling safe in the world your natural confidence hasn’t beliefs for, and many more other stuff, maybe you could use this list and make some new programs for people out there.
Thanks.
Hi Marius,
It’s a weird list. Some of the so-called beliefs are actually the problem, not a belief at all. And in 25 years of working with clients some of them I never heard of or needed to help a client get rid of the many problems we’ve heard.
I also don’t agree that all core beliefs are a variation of I’m not good enough.
But if it is helping you, that’s great.
Love, Morty
Hi MOrty,
I’d like some help in getting rid of the belief “I’m unlovable”.
Blessings,
Tecla
Hi Tecla,
I can’t teach you how to eliminate the belief in a short answer, but I can help you eliminate the belief in a one-on-one session.
If you really want to get rid of it, please call me. 415-884-0552.
Love, Morty
Imliving with my boyfriend now. He is gorgeos, and my three girls love him. Im 44 and he is 31.We love each other and he just moved, but I cannot avoid thinking that he will leave me for sb younger,prettier,whatever.Why on earth should I feel like this when all he does is show me he loves me!!
Sorry, Morty. I’m still waiting for your reply….
Hi Mercedes,
Probably beliefs, such as I’m not lovable, Men can’t be trusted, relationships are difficult, etc.
Get rid of the beliefs and the fear he will leave you will disappear.
Love, Morty
I have had trouble using the Lefkoe method successfully even though I went through the entire self confidence program, maybe write about how and why it fails for some people and how to make sure it works for you.
Hi Gary,
Please call me so I can see if I can figure out why the program didn’t work well for you. 415-884-0552.
Love, Morty
Morty does it matter if I do the belief process in English even though my mother language is not English. Should I do the process in my mother language for better results?
Hi Marius,
It probably will work in English, but if you formed the beliefs in your mother tongue, you might try saying the words of the belief in that language.
Let me know what happens.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty!
Thanks A LOT for sharing your techniques with the world, you have been a big help! There’s one thing I’m still wondering. Everytime I’m physically uncomfortable (too hot, too cold, sick etc.) I get really upset emotionally as well. Are those conditionings?
Hi Anne,
It’s really difficult to know without talking to you and asking you a few questions, but, yes, it could be conditionings.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty,
Thank you for asking and thank you for all your good advice. My thing is with competition: I hate to lose and it is keeping me very frustrated. Can you help?
HiLise,
There are a number of possibilities and I couldn’t really know without talking to you.
But one possibility is What makes me good enough is winning. Or the way to survive is to win. Or if I don’t win something terrible will happen to me.
Love, Morty
Hi Morty.
I am currently going through the “confidence” course online, and it is AMAZING.
So amazing that I want my whole family to take the course, should they choose to.
I really, really, want my girlfriend to do the online course, but she only speaks Spanish at this time.
I would like to volunteer my time to get the online course done in Spanish. There is a whole other Spanish speaking world out there that could benefit from your methods.
I make my living programming, marketing, etc on the internet. So I have the skills to help. I would volunteer for this and be doing this out of love, and wanting help your vision, and the others out there who have limiting beliefs.
Please let me know if you would like to look into this.
I also sent you a email to your company email address, and spoke with Karen over the phone about this.
I really look forward to hearing back from you
Hi Lewis,
I’m thrilled you are getting so much value from our DVD program.
I also very much appreciate your offer to translate the program into Spanish. We have had several offers already and here is the problem: Even if someone does the translation, I will have to spend a lot of time with them to make sure that they understand my intention for each concept, I’ll need some new cartoons, and we’ll need to make 23 new videos, which is pretty expensive.
But I would be open to do all that if I had a way to market to a Spanish speaking audience. We are spending all our time marketing to English speaking audiences and don’t have additional time to learn about marketing to an entirely different audience in the U.S., Spain, South America, etc.
Please feel free to call me if you’d like to discuss further. 415-884-0552.
Love, Morty
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Hi Morty,
Now a days I am reading a book titled “Achieving Peak Performance” written by the the Michale L.Hall. I have read other books by same author. He talks about Meta-states i.e. states about sates. Since you too have NLP background you may already have idea about the Meta-states. Digging these Meta-programs lead us some ultimate truth which I think are nothing but beliefs. You can use and refine that technique to dig out and remove.the hidden beliefs . http://www.neurosemantics.com/
Regards,
Nitin Divekar (India)
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