During the past few weeks I’ve offered you two specific techniques that I promised would significantly improve the quality of your life. Easy to learn and use, and there’s no charge. All you had to do was think about things a little differently … but do it on a regular basis. For at least one week. And then tell me how it worked for you.

You're Invited - Invitation And Open EnvelopeI’m not sure how many of you have actually acted on my suggestion, but a few of you did and left comments on my blog describing your remarkable results.

Today I’m going to remind you of the two techniques, provide you with a link to each of the two posts to get all the details, and quote some comments from people who used the techniques.

Why am I doing this? Because I am determined to help you live a happier, more successful life. And I know that people like you live very busy lives and don’t have time to do everything you’d like to do. So I will keep offering you suggestions on how you can significantly improve the quality of your life and then provide all the motivation I can to get you to use the suggestions.

Here’s the first technique

The first suggestion was to live your life in the context of “My life works.” That statement is not something that is or is not true; you don’t make that statement as an affirmation or as something you want to be true. You state it as a context out of which you live your life.  Just pretend that everything that happens to you is evidence that your life works, even if you don’t see how at the moment.

This might seem like magical thinking or trying to talk yourself into something, but it isn’t. If you try it you will discover that it really does work, as several of you wrote me.

Alright Morty, I did it throughout this entire week. Holy crap… you were right. I’ve been struggling with some major stuff over the last couple of years in my career, relationship and health. This week, I just kept repeating “my life works” a few times a day.

And here’s what happened:
– My most annoying client didn’t bother me.
– My most annoying co-worker was out of the office.
– I got a new client who came perfectly prepared (I’m a web designer) and had all of his content ready.
– Even though I got a major blow by a colleague telling me that she wasn’t going to do a certain project with me, I ended up coming up with a MUCH better idea so THAT didn’t bother me for more than a night.
– My personal relationship THRIVED.
– The debilitating arthritis that has been bothering me for months was barely there AND someone connected with me on LinkedIn offering me a free massage.
– I felt LIGHTER all week.
– I also felt more creative. My thoughts were all about possibilities!

So I thought I would come on here and tell you that you really hooked me up. (haha) Thanks a lot. I will try this again next week and see what happens. Much love!!!   Tiffany

 

One week after, I can say that this really works! What came to my mind in most situations that were usually seen as bad is that they were excellent opportunities for growth! And as long as I’m growing, my life is working indeed.  Henrique

 

I love this idea. … I was feeling discouraged about something that happened yesterday, and this idea has boosted my spirits. I’m playing the game! Marilyn

 

Wow. So far playing this game is helping me see that this new context for living is like living in an open space of awareness, free of attachments to things that Don’t work!   I feel a weight off of my shoulders has been lifted and I am coming to terms with this new feeling of things that Do work! Thanks so much for this post :).  Joshua

 

Ok, after a week, I found a number of events where I felt things had gone wrong or not the way I wanted.  Applying the My Life Works to the events forced me to look at every “wrong” thing differently.  The more wrong I initially felt things were, the more mental exercise it took to turn it around, so to speak, but I was able to turn everything around. … I think I will keep using it.  … Thanks! Sean

 

Aren’t these comments from people just like you sufficient motivation to just say to yourself after each event in your life for a week: “Here’s more evidence that my life is working. Even if I’m not sure how at the moment.”

Here is the second technique

The second suggestion was a way to eliminate the barriers you had to goals you wanted to accomplish. Whenever you say, “I want to do X, but I can’t because …,” notice the words you are using. You are telling yourself why you will not be able to achieve your goal.

Restate your goal to include the obstacle, so that there is no longer an “I can’t because ….” For example, you might hear yourself say, “I want to make more money, but I can’t because I can’t find a better paying job.” You have, in effect, told yourself that there is something that will keep you from achieving your goal of a better job, so there is no sense in even trying.

So here’s what I suggest you do: Restate your goal as follows: “I want to find a better paying job in order to make more money.” You still have to do some thinking and take some action to reach your goal, but the way you have stated it now there is nothing in the way of reaching your goal. The obstacle you started with is gone.

This also might sound like just semantics, playing with words. But it’s not; psychologically this really works. Here’s what a few of you said.

Dear Morty,

Others said it before me, so I am not very original, when I say that you are a genius, and have proven it once again!!!!!

I understand how subtle the difference in both cases is and it may not be obvious to rephrase the statement at the beginning.
What’s important though, is to understand the principle of your idea and try to apply it in different situations. ”Practice makes perfect” they say…..  Love, Esther

 

Genius! Thank You!!! I just sent it to my son who is at a basketball match where “they can’t win because the others are taller, stronger, better, meaner…” Joseann

 

Hi Morty,
This is amazing. Thank you for your deep insight into how the mind works, and for illuminating it for the rest of us. I’m definitely going to use this myself and with my clients.  Joanna Brandt

 

Isn’t it worth a few minutes a day to actually achieve greater success in your life? To minimize the frustration and disappointment in your life? To experience more joy and satisfaction during the course of your day?

I Invite You To Join The Experiment For Just Seven Days

Commit to using these two techniques for the next week by leaving a comment on the blog. After seven days, come back here and let me know how these techniques benefited you. If you do that, you’ll not only improve the quality of your own life, you’ll probably inspire others to do the same for themselves.

 

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