“Courage” is not all it’s cracked up to be

Why do we admire certain “positive” qualities so much when they require us to be miserable?

In last week’s post about how I was facing […]

Is It Working For You?

In last week’s post I asked why most people don’t learn how to dissolve meaning when it makes such a profound improvement in their […]

You said that fear was your biggest problem

Whenever we do a survey of people on our mailing list, asking them to list the biggest problems they face, the most common answer […]

Are You Really Successful If You Aren’t Happy?

Although a lot of people have succeeded very well based on society’s standard for success: how much money and power they have, many—if not […]

You can have much more happiness than you realize

Most people are more interested in avoiding or relieving pain than in achieving and experiencing happiness.

Thus most people go into psychotherapy or pursue “self-help” […]

Is it really all going to turn out?

I have a test for you.  All you have to do to pass it is to answer one question honestly.  For many of us […]

Fear of rejection

If there was ever a psychological trait that was considered to be a part of human nature, it’s the fear of rejection.

In the thousands […]

A father's fear for his daughter

I’m writing this on the North Shore of Oahu, Hawaii, where my wife Shelly and I are visiting our 29-year-old daughter Blake.

Shortly after she […]

Eliminate The Fear That Stops You

Have you ever told yourself that you were going to do something—something you really wanted to do—and then just never get around to it? […]