Your questions get answered

March 5, 2013

Last week’s post sparked a lot of comments and questions.  I wrote on the dangers of trying to be positive when you are feeling negative and I suggested that instead of pretending to be positive you just dissolve your negative occurrings and feelings. Because there has been so much interest in this topic, I decided [...]

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Trying to be “positive” doesn’t work

February 26, 2013

I recently was having a conversation with a very close friend.  She had just broken up with her boyfriend after a long relationship; she was feeling lonely; she was having difficulties getting work; and she was feeling sad, frustrated and disappointed.  At the same time she was trying very hard to be positive during our [...]

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Change is required for survival

February 21, 2013

Most of my posts focus on how to help individuals change and live a better life.  But the same principles that are required for successful individual change can be used to assist organizations to change also.  And in the case of organizations, change is not required merely to improve effectiveness; it frequently is required for [...]

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You can always keep growing

February 12, 2013

We all know that children develop through stages—such as infant, toddler, adolescent, teenager—where how they think and their ability to handle more complex issues improves.  But few people are aware that adults also are capable of moving through higher and still higher stages of development.  While virtually all children pass through these stages pretty much [...]

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Why you can’t motivate yourself to take action

February 5, 2013

Have you ever tried to motivate yourself to take action? … What happened?  If you are typical, the motivation might have worked for a short time, but probably didn’t last and didn’t work in the long run.  Did you then ask yourself: What’s wrong with me?  Why am I unable to motivate myself to do [...]

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There was never anything to be upset about

January 29, 2013

Today’s blog post is a “how to.”  Something happened to me recently that would have upset most people.  It didn’t upset me.  And I am going to show you how to keep similar “upsetting” situations from upsetting you in the future. The beginning of the story My wife Shelly and I were on our way [...]

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Why don’t you want to improve your life?

January 22, 2013

According to numerous surveys, every day literally millions of people suffer … from negative feelings (like anxiety, anger, and guilt). from a fear of taking action (procrastination). from the inability to have a truly nurturing relationship (you either can’t find a good one, can’t leave a bad one, or don’t know how to improve an [...]

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Are we robots?

January 15, 2013

The behaviorist school of thought maintains that behaviors as such can be described scientifically without recourse either to internal physiological events or to hypothetical constructs such as thoughts and beliefs.  In other words, consciousness is not relevant to understanding human behavior. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Behaviorism) As regular readers of this blog know very well, I do agree that [...]

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Are you prepared for the workplace of the future?

January 8, 2013

Whether you work for a business corporation, a non-profit, the government, or yourself, the requirements for career success are changing rapidly. An excellent article, “The Secrets of Generation Flux,” in the February 2012 issue of Fast Company describes some of these changes: “The next decade or so will be defined more by fluidity than by [...]

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How To Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions. Guaranteed!

December 31, 2012

Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions last year?  … What about the year before? … If you are like most people, you worked on them through the middle of January and by early February you had forgotten you ever made them.  Or, perhaps after several years of failure, you stopped making New Year’s resolutions [...]

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