Saturday is Veterans Day. It is also the two year anniversary of my husband, Morty Lefkoe’s death.

Morty and Shelly

Morty and Shelly

I don’t want to compare him to a war hero, to someone who sacrificed for their country. Especially those that made the ultimate sacrifice.

However, I consider my late husband to be my personal hero.

He didn’t risk his life to keep us free from external oppression. But he did dedicate himself to freeing us from internal oppression.

Many of us go through life feeling hopeless and powerless.

We know that we’re not living up to our full potential.

We sometimes fail to realize that who we are makes a difference.

And many times we don’t feel empowered to change things that really can be changed – in our own lives as well as the lives of others.

Morty, was my hero because despite him struggling with depression for years … and struggling with romantic relationships (until he met me) … as well as other difficult issues … he worked creatively, tirelessly, hopefully to find a solution not just for himself but for all of us.

He created something that not only helped him change but continues to help others as well.

And to me that’s the true definition of a hero.

Someone who doesn’t work just for him or herself but works for the good of the many.

So while today many honor those that fought for their country, as do I, on this day, the anniversary of my husband’s passing, I also honor Morty who fought for a different kind of freedom.

May you be blessed with the freedom to speak your truth, live a joyful life, and know that you make a difference even if it’s just a small one.

And if you wish, please thank anyone who serves the safety and well being of your country.

Thanks for reading.

A Recent Success Story

It’s incredulous to think I associated people not liking me with a threat to my survival! I lived most of my life with that discomfort/fear around people … And now it’s gone.

I never feel like my boyfriend doesn’t love me anymore. I’m not clingy or needy anymore. I don’t take it personally when he spends time with other people.

One interesting example of how things have changed is when a stranger on the bus asked me and Aaron if we had change(we didn’t) and I asked the rest of the bus riders if any of them would spare any. One person came up and gave him bus money. He thanked me for my help.

I think if we didn’t have our session, I would have just receded into my seat and looked at Aaron like, “don’t look at me, but maybe Aaron will help,” and Aaron would’ve handled the situation for me. I’m so glad, Shelly.

Aaron says he notices the difference; he says I’m much more friendly and I’m attractive in a new way. Super cool. I feel great about myself. I can talk to people the way I want. I’m not helplessly scared when it comes to social situations anymore. Thank you very very much!

-Kim Lam
Wildomar, California