Every week I get a few blog comments and emails asking me to help you identify the beliefs that cause specific problems. Although our training that will teach you how to eliminate beliefs once you’ve found them won’t be available for another couple of months, for those of you who have already figured out how to eliminate beliefs on your own, here are some common patterns and the beliefs that cause them—for most people, most of the time. Some people obviously don’t have all these beliefs and some people have a couple of additional beliefs.

Procrastination:

  • Mistakes and failure are bad.
  • I’m not good enough.
  • Change is difficult.
  • What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me.
  • Nothing I do is good enough.
  • I’m not capable.
  • I’m not competent.
  • If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected.
  • I’m a failure.
  • I’m stupid.
  • I’m not worthy.
  • I’m powerless.
  • What makes me good enough or important is doing things perfectly.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with criticism and judgment.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with not meeting expectations.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with rejection.

Fear of rejection:

  • I’m not good enough.
  • Change is difficult.
  • I’m not important.
  • What makes me good enough/important is having people think well of me.
  • If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected.
  • I’m not worthy.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with criticism and judgment.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with not meeting expectations.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with rejection.

Concern with the approval of others:

  • Mistakes and failure are bad.
  • I’m not good enough.
  • Change is difficult.
  • I’m not important.
  • What makes me good enough/important is having people think well of me.
  • I’m not worthy
  • If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with criticism and judgment.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with not meeting expectations.
  • Conditioning: Fear associated with rejection.

Notice that some of the beliefs are the same for all three problems and some are different. We have found that certain basic negative self-esteem beliefs seem to underlie almost any pattern. And then each behavioral or emotional problem has its own unique beliefs.

Problems with careers, abundance, and relationships have additional beliefs in those specific areas.

You’ll also notice in the above lists that all three patterns include conditioning. As I’ve explained in prior blog posts, most behavioral and emotional problems are caused primarily by beliefs, but in many cases by conditioning also. For example, most people are conditioned to feel some level of anxiety if they are criticized, if they don’t live up to expectations, or if they are rejected. These conditionings have to be de-conditioned before many problems can be totally eliminated. For more information about conditioning, please see http://www.mortylefkoe.com/032310/.

For more information about how to identify the beliefs underlying any given problem, see my blog post: http://www.mortylefkoe.com/find-beliefs-underlying/.

If there are any other specific topics you would like me to write about, please let me know by leaving a comment below. I’ll do my best to write about any topic that a number of you request.

If you haven’t yet eliminated at least one of your limiting self-esteem beliefs using the Lefkoe Belief Process, go to http://www.recreateyourlife.com/free where you can eliminate one negative belief free.

For information about eliminating 23 of the most common limiting beliefs and conditionings, which cause eight of the most common problems in our lives, and get a separate video of the WAIR? Process, please check out: http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

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