Comments on: Get Rid of the Belief, “I can’t …” http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/ Eliminate your beliefs quickly ... Change your life permanently—Guaranteed (R) Thu, 09 Feb 2012 04:13:11 +0000 hourly 1 By: James http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-48267 James Wed, 28 Dec 2011 14:05:55 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-48267 Clearly, this process is [explained/designed] for people who are trying to achieve the thing, isn't it? Yet if the real meaning is "We don't want to," then you surely could attack that belief as well: if you knock that belief out, then possibilities could emerge which would make it worthwhile, no? Because ultimately, it's the same thing: there's a belief acting as a do-not-enter that could be a stop sign or detour. (Meaning: wait, double check or go around.) Actually, this is bloody brilliant, at least as valuable as the regular possibility process. Think about it, what would happen to the GNP of a country if, instead of avoiding work, us underlings started looking for more attractive alternatives? Some of the effort will be "wasted" but probably not as much, right? And it's a lot easier when you bite the bullet because you think it's the best way... Meaning more energy, either way, to be put into the actual, rubber-meets-the-road work. Clearly, this process is [explained/designed] for people who are trying to achieve the thing, isn’t it? Yet if the real meaning is “We don’t want to,” then you surely could attack that belief as well: if you knock that belief out, then possibilities could emerge which would make it worthwhile, no? Because ultimately, it’s the same thing: there’s a belief acting as a do-not-enter that could be a stop sign or detour. (Meaning: wait, double check or go around.)

Actually, this is bloody brilliant, at least as valuable as the regular possibility process. Think about it, what would happen to the GNP of a country if, instead of avoiding work, us underlings started looking for more attractive alternatives? Some of the effort will be “wasted” but probably not as much, right? And it’s a lot easier when you bite the bullet because you think it’s the best way… Meaning more energy, either way, to be put into the actual, rubber-meets-the-road work.

]]> By: James http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-48264 James Wed, 28 Dec 2011 13:44:15 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-48264 I would try sentence completion. "I would hit that shot but..." and finish it, as many times as it takes until something interesting comes out. You could also write affirmations, like "It's just as easy to hit on the fairway as the driving range" and write down the objections that come to mind. I think if you poked around this website you could find a lot more suggestions of relevant beliefs you could eliminate-- sounds like Natural Confidence would be a good place to look. I would try sentence completion. “I would hit that shot but…” and finish it, as many times as it takes until something interesting comes out.

You could also write affirmations, like “It’s just as easy to hit on the fairway as the driving range” and write down the objections that come to mind.

I think if you poked around this website you could find a lot more suggestions of relevant beliefs you could eliminate– sounds like Natural Confidence would be a good place to look.

]]> By: Joseann http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-43692 Joseann Wed, 09 Nov 2011 11:37:06 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-43692 Hi Morty, thanks a lot for this interesting post. I have difficulties with this sentence: "If someone states the belief in a positive way, for example, “we must,” turn it into the negative version, “we can’t.” Isn't the negative version of "we must" "we don't want to"? And isn't "I can't" often the excuse version for " I don't want to" when people are actually afraid to openly refuse to do things or just don't have a choice? I am sure that there is situations where people just don't know how to do it or had discouraging experiences, but I find that in very repressive or authoritarian or demanding work environments, when there is a lot of "we can't", it is a sign for unhealthy work environment, where people avoid open conflict through rendering themselves "incapable". They just "can't" instead of openly arguing about the tasks dumped onto them or give their opinion on what they find reasonable to do. It's also often people who hate their job but are trapped there out of financial reasons. "I can't" is there cover up, so to speak. In these case, I assume, the process doesn't work, or does it? Hi Morty,
thanks a lot for this interesting post. I have difficulties with this sentence:
“If someone states the belief in a positive way, for example, “we must,” turn it into the negative version, “we can’t.”
Isn’t the negative version of “we must” “we don’t want to”? And isn’t “I can’t” often the excuse version for ” I don’t want to” when people are actually afraid to openly refuse to do things or just don’t have a choice?
I am sure that there is situations where people just don’t know how to do it or had discouraging experiences, but I find that in very repressive or authoritarian or demanding work environments, when there is a lot of “we can’t”, it is a sign for unhealthy work environment, where people avoid open conflict through rendering themselves “incapable”. They just “can’t” instead of openly arguing about the tasks dumped onto them or give their opinion on what they find reasonable to do. It’s also often people who hate their job but are trapped there out of financial reasons. “I can’t” is there cover up, so to speak. In these case, I assume, the process doesn’t work, or does it?

]]> By: JOAO http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-43685 JOAO Wed, 09 Nov 2011 10:17:06 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-43685 Dear Morty, that´s awesome, please help me to keep this on mind, all times I need to do anything different and challenge.thank you Dear Morty, that´s awesome, please help me to keep this on mind, all times I need to do anything different and challenge.thank you

]]> By: admin http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-1021 admin Thu, 17 Sep 2009 00:21:10 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-1021 Hi Joyce, This process is designed to work with I can't ... beliefs that are based on recent evidence of trying something a few times and discovering that it didn't work. When the belief was formed in childhood, the source is different and you need to do all the steps of the Lefkoe Belief Process to make sure it goes away. Not sure what you mean when you say you tried it with anxiety? Do you mean you feel anxiety when you think you can't do things? If so, there are probably a lot more beliefs causing the anxiety than the one you are working on. Regards, Morty Hi Joyce,

This process is designed to work with I can’t … beliefs that are based on recent evidence of trying something a few times and discovering that it didn’t work. When the belief was formed in childhood, the source is different and you need to do all the steps of the Lefkoe Belief Process to make sure it goes away.

Not sure what you mean when you say you tried it with anxiety? Do you mean you feel anxiety when you think you can’t do things? If so, there are probably a lot more beliefs causing the anxiety than the one you are working on.

Regards, Morty

]]> By: joyce http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-1020 joyce Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:55:01 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-1020 Hi Morry, Does this method only work with company "I can't" or can work for all other areas of life too? I've tried it many times on anxiety, but doesn't seem to get rid of the I can't thinking. Can you give me advice? Thank you Morry. Hi Morry,

Does this method only work with company “I can’t” or can work for all other areas of life too? I’ve tried it many times on anxiety, but doesn’t seem to get rid of the I can’t thinking.

Can you give me advice?
Thank you Morry.

]]> By: Joy Marino http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-885 Joy Marino Thu, 20 Aug 2009 16:04:51 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-885 Absolutely amazing. I am really enjoying all that I am learning from you and have seen it in action in my own life. Thank you Morty! Absolutely amazing. I am really enjoying all that I am learning from you and have seen it in action in my own life. Thank you Morty!

]]> By: David W http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-878 David W Tue, 18 Aug 2009 20:39:29 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-878 Morty, great thoughts! How about golf? How would I go about finding out the beliefs that keep me from hitting shots on the golf course that I'm perfectly capable of time after time on the driving range? Morty, great thoughts! How about golf? How would I go about finding out the beliefs that keep me from hitting shots on the golf course that I’m perfectly capable of time after time on the driving range?

]]> By: Gracie http://www.mortylefkoe.com/get-rid-of-the-belief-%e2%80%9ci-can%e2%80%99t-%e2%80%a6%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1/#comment-877 Gracie Tue, 18 Aug 2009 19:52:00 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=100#comment-877 Once again, you are totally amazing. :) I remember the first time I heard this process (in the room with a few CEOs). I was just stunned. The simplicity and the usefulness! I haven't tried it at this job yet, but I look forward to doing so, any minute now. (our biggest can't'er is away today) Also wanted to say I love the new look here. Once again, you are totally amazing. :) I remember the first time I heard this process (in the room with a few CEOs). I was just stunned. The simplicity and the usefulness! I haven’t tried it at this job yet, but I look forward to doing so, any minute now. (our biggest can’t'er is away today) Also wanted to say I love the new look here.

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