No one can cause your confusion.

I’m not sure why our free program did you work for you. It works for over 90% of the people who try it.

I’m truly sorry.

Love, Morty

Thanks for your thoughtful post.

Yes, much more is possible to humans that we think if conditions under which we grew up were significantly different.

Love,Morty

Here is the link
http://www.mortylefkoe.com/the-lefkoe-method-is-not-cognitive-behavioral-therapy/#

Love, Morty

It is not paranoia, but beliefs that have you concerned about the opinion of others.

Social anxiety is a function of several beliefs and conditionings. Most of them are available in our Natural Confidence program: http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence. Check it out and let me know what you think.

Love,Morty

Yes, it is similar. We just get there on a different path.

Love,Morty

Glad to hear that our work has been helpful to you. Please share with others so we can make it available to the whole world.

Love,Morty

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For more information, please go to http://recreateyourlife.com/partnersignup.

Thanks for your interest.

Love,Morty

I think all these thoughts and questioning about the religions reflect a deep thinker inside of you! Had it myself!

Did you try reading Quran the book for muslims? I did, and guess what?
it’s a long journey for the whole ME – the creation and the consciousness

Morty,
Thank you for a great, belief eliminating method, really worked for me. Managed to distinguish between the reality and the meaning I give to this reality, which saved me lots of suffering and made me a stronger person.

Fay

If you keep finding toxic people in your life, you might want to check your beleifs and see what you believe that would have you keep finding those people in your life. I don’t find people like that very often.

And can someone be spiritual and do things we consider bad, of course.

Love,Morty

Still, Yes but …

Occurrings can be caused by factors other than beliefs.

Continued practice with the Lefkoe Occurring Process will reduce the amount of occurrings in your life, but not eliminate them totally.

You still can have negative feelings caused by “senses,” conditioned stimuli, and expectations.

And I’ve been finding some new subtle beleifs after 27 years even though I handled most of the major ones years ago.

Stop worrying about becoming a “superpower” and just take it step by step.

Love, Morty

In the previous comment, I asked you if having the ability to eliminate your occurrings is the equivalent of having a superpower that enables you to live life as if you had zero limiting beliefs. You answered “Yes, BUT if you don’t eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that cause the occurrings, you will keep having the same occurring.”

Okay, I understand that. However, you have mentioned in different occasions that many people who took the course, came out with a new neural pathway that bypasses meaning, and they don’t give meaning to events anymore.

What if I reached that stage? Would I THEN have a superpower equivalent to having zero limiting beliefs, or would your answer still be “Yes, but…”?

Reality is really the consensus of the majority on the existence of something either in the physical plane or on the mental plane. It is both a definition of something or a distinction of something from its peers !

Like primrose yellow is different from Lemon yellow which is different from Golden Yellow. All are yellow, but you need to distinguish it from its peers.

Are we actually processing all what we receive through our senses ? I do not think so. What makes me slant to this view. Let me just give a small example.

Take Rapping for example. Now in the last decade or so, we have started thinking of Rapping as a Genre of Music. Do you think in Beethoven’s time, it would be recognized as music ? I am sure rappers have been around for as long as “musicians”, except they would have mutated their skill into snake oil salesmanship !

Do you take “Air Guitaring” as an art form ? It is only when you see a Bad Air Guitarist vs a Good Air Guitarist that you start seeing that there has to be a high degree of skill involved ! This is what Morty talks about the opposite existing. The “Bad” delineates the bottom and the Great delineates the Top. Viola ! the thing is distinguished from anything else !

I understand we all try to persuade and influence each other for a desired result, at the same time I feel I am being coerced into situations and have no choices at all.

Or if it is my choice and is labeled wrongly by others, it seems there is a real force of good vs evil. And it appears that evil is winning. I am not talking about the obvious, but the subtle. The toxic jerks and negative people, I understand you have to accept that others are that way, and to steer clear of it.

Some people have told me that mean spirited people don’t exist, it’s all in your head. Which makes me wonder if they are in denial. Can’t we all agree, that yes there are heartless, thoughtless people in the world?

Then again, once we do, then we have to make pragmatic decisons don’t we, want to work for a living, guess what, theres a good chance you will run into toxic people and if you want to keep your job, shut up or leave. If you want to keep your spouse shut up or leave.

Many times I chose to leave and felt freeing, yet when I get back into new situations, its just a different being, but the hassles are the same. It’s about as hilarious as it is tragic.

You can’t run to the Bible and escape or to anything or anywhere else, its all a matter of power trips, and persuading and influence and leverage peddling to where you want to go, be and do.

I feel your program is a great service to understand not only how we create our beliefs, but to understand human nature itself. It ain’t pretty and in some situations you just have to walk away. Choose your words carefully, and check yourself before you wreck your relations.

Thanks Morty.

You should check out Doc Love in http://www.DocLove.com

Like yourself, being in contact with 13000 clients – Doc Love has spent most of his life interviewing women. He has interviewed more than 10000 women, “why they choose to stay with one man versus another.”

This guy’s information will transform your view on romantic relationships between a man and woman.

Thanks for spending time on creating Natural Confidence. It really worked.

– P.L.

I agree with you. I’ve come to think that a mood is the result of the meaning you give several occurrings. But once you have a mood it is not always easy to find the individual occurrings or the meaning you gave to them. So I’m still not sure how to dissolve moods.

Thanks for your comment.

Love, Morty

I know this is kind of late but I was fascinated by the article… and I have a god idea for your questions.

When one of my friends was in a bad mood the other day, he said “I had the worst day ever”… I was surprised, because he definitely had no problem with self-esteem beliefs, he has a lot of friends and he’s got all the reasons to be happy. I asked him why and he said: “A couple of things happened today, which got me in to a bad mood”… Now reading this article, I think our moods are a function of multiple occurings which we experience in a short amount of time. The more good things that happen to us in a short amount of time, the better our mood is.

To get rid of a bad mood, maybe it will be useful to dissolve each occuring, belief or conditioning that functionalize our moods.

Sorry it’s been difficult to find me.

We have several websites. You can eliminate a belief without charge at http://recreateyourlife.com.

Our occurring course can be found at http://occurringcourse.com/discover.

Learning how to eliminate a belief training at http://lefkoeuniversity.com.

Or call us at 415-884-0552.

Looking forward to serving you.

Love, Morty

the reason I ask is because Im fascinated by NLP, the human mind and differing virewpoints of reality, ie Subjective Reality.

I just turned 20, but I read really insightful books like Power vs. Force, Carl Jung and his coined theory of syncronicity, and also read about the power of human perception and the non-linear Universe. This is why Im so interested to know. I wanna make a difference in the future to help humanity shift and guide them to a higher level of consciousness.

Thsnks for the article, God bless
Mattiaa

p.s: your goal is to see the difference between to be here now or in mind, or to see how a situation occur to us, no matter if is in the past, present and future ?

You are going to warp a lot of minds with this post.

Best,

Bruce

Another request: A few years back you posted a blog explaining your perception of the differences between your work and CBT. I seached you site for that blog today and all that came up was a headline: THE LEFCOE METHOD IS NOT CBT with a big blank space under it. I thought that your analysis was excellent and wanted to send it to a friend. Is it possible to get access to that blog again? Thanks so much.

All the best,

– John

then again that proves that nothing exists. haha

‘These aliens would experience and describe a totally different universe than the physical universe we would swear exists all around us.’

- Yes, but just like we have knowledge of radio waves, atoms, space between atoms etc without being able to see it or perceive it, they should still know that sound and a ‘bigger physical world than their electron microscope view’ existed and that another bieng could perceive them right. like an insect would see ultraviolet light, we know it can see it but we can only see it with technology. doesn’t mean its not there right?
surley as we are conscious and curious enough beings we have discovered tools to see and understand things we couldn’t only 100 years ago. if these ‘aliens’ where less advanced technologically they might not know of ‘our world’ as we perceive it but say they where, then they would have tools to look at our world, like we look at the universe for example… and it would exist to them too, right?

i know im asking bout a small fairly insignificant part of your article. just curious what you think.

Thanks for clarifying. That really helps me greater understand the underlying philosophy. I love it in theory, though personally I have had a difficulty eliminating beliefs.

Also, I definitely agree that meditation can be spiritual, I guess I had more of an issue with that singularly being defined as spirituality. I haven’t had much experience with it but I recognize the benefits. I think I will make more of an effort and seriously try the WAIR process.

What do you mean when you say “altered state of consciousness”?

That’s part of it, but not all of it. Or, that’s one way to look at it, but not the only way.

Love,Morty

Maybe you don’t consider meditation to be spiritual, but the Hindu and Buddhist traditions do. That factt doesn’t make one right and one wrong, but there are two great religious traditions that have a different definition of spirituality.

Also, I didn’t say we are God (although the Bible does say we are made in God’s image). I said we create the beliefs that pretty much determine our lives and when beliefs are eliminated, our lives change dramatically.

Also, when one does the WAIR? Process one experiences that one has no limitations and that anything is possible. I am not claiming that is true, I’m only saying that is what tens of thousands of people report when they are in that altered state of consciousness.

Thanks for your posts and expamding the conversation.

Love,Morty

I appreciate what you’re saying and accept that certain valuable principles can be found in almost any belief system. My issue, or question really, is one of whether the Lefkoe method is an explicit endorsement of an ideology I’m not particularly fond of. Again, there are definitely redeeming qualities within it — but ultimately I reject the pick-and-choose-keep-what-I-like New Age “spirituality” (for example, pretending A Course in Miracles is Biblical), the collectivist mentality (the Universal consciousness you mentioned), and the political overlap so often found (environmentalism, globalism, etc.).

Also, as an intellectual exercise it is fine — but I don’t think all things are relative. I love that the Lefkoe method challenges beliefs and conventional wisdom — but I think it’s dangerous to apply that across the board.

“I believe a major flaw in your theory is that we are not the creators of our lives. God is the creator. We are not a formless blob – a wave in the ocean.”

Morty, could you respond to this? From what I understand, you say we are the creator of our lives in the sense that we are the creator of our beliefs. And since we are the creator of our beliefs, and beliefs determine our actions, we are the creators of our lives. But no more or less than that. (In other words, it’s about reframing perspective and becoming empowered based on it, not challenging God or claiming you are God).

Thanks again for your interest in our work and for taking the time to post a reply to another poster.

I really appreciate your support and I’m glad you are finding value in our work.

Love, Morty

A great post! Thanks for taking the time to post your thoughts and life story.

People reading it will get two posts here instead of one: mine and yours.

I’m happy that our work has been helpful to you in your journey. That’s my mission in life.

Love, Morty

usually our minds are in the past and in the future, creating bad feelings.
in these situations what i have to do ?
- i have to see the difference between what is here now and what is in my mind (past and future) ?
- i have to stay in my mind imagining past-future events, etc. ?
thank you.
robert

I’m sure you formed some beleifs at boarding school. I was sent to a boarding school when I was seven for two years, but I already had formed most of my negative self-esteem beliefs.

Look for the earliest source of your beleifs, not the most obvious one. I think you’ll find something in your first six years with your parents for your self-esteem beleifs.

Thanks for your interest in our work.

Love,Morty

I was brought up in the traditional Christian belief system. To make a r-e-a-l long story short, I woke up day while listening to the preacher and asked myself why do I believe anything he says? He’s no smarter or more spiritual than I am. Plus, is anything I think really true? That started years of researching the history of Christianity, the Bible, ancient religions, eastern religions, and religion within itself. I had to know where religion came from. It occurred to me all I have is a belief. I didnt want to be a “believer” – I wanted to be a “knower”. It took me a while to free myself from the labyrinth of religion and to see it for what it is.

It was a short leap from there to understand the whole of who I think I am is nothing but a belief within itself. I am a collection of ideas, concepts, interpretations of my world experience so far. But how much of it is “true”. And if I am nothing but a group of thoughts frozen in time we call beliefs, who am I – really? I knew I could step outside of myself and observe “me” from another perspective. The real me must be that one that is doing the observing.

I view beliefs as nothing more than thoughts frozen in time. To change the belief to me is about understanding where my original thought came from to begin with. As a silly example, consider the background color of this blog page. It’s white. But why is it “white”. The scientific mind would come up with with theory about light, but thats not the point. Its white because when we were all children our parents told us this color is white. And thats the only reason its white. Someone told us so. We attached a label to it. Heres the clincher – as long as we all say its white, everythings fine. Let someone that has a different view or is color blind says its anything but white and we have conflict on our hands. But its nothing but a label.

We drive on the right side of the road in the US and the Brits drive on the left side. Who’s right?

During my researching religion years, I discovered there are about 20,000 different Christian belief systems in the US. Who’s right? They all cant be or can they? Each one will vehemently defend their beliefs. So will any religion. I am an audio visual contractor that deals primarily with churches. I have seen’em dunked, sprinkled, and splashed. I have attended hundreds of various services in the process of installing A/V systems. Every church thinks they are “right” and every other one down the street is wrong about what they believe. Millions of peoples lives have been destroyed or ruined over the centuries in the name of God. Study the Inquisition. What a horrible period of history to live through. Beliefs are incredibly strong.

The point I’m trying to make here, is I realized my whole self concept was nothing more than “what they said” – what I took in as a child without any questioning of “is that true?” or some event I misinterpreted and attached a label to. I was living life on a treadmill someone else had built – this is who “we” expect and have trained you to be. It wasnt until I started examining my beliefs one by one that slowly I began breaking down my “reality filter” – the filter we all see life through. We all see what we expect to see which creates more of that for us to see. How many times have we seen that “unique” dress, outfit, car, or other thing, get it, only to see it everywhere later? It wasnt unique at all! We didnt see it before because we werent looking for it. Its work, or has been for me, to really “see”. Therein is where I really appreciate the tools Morty has built – tools to break down my beliefs so I can examine them more closely with objectivity.

B Ramakrishnan, I think you are right. The challenge to me is just to “be” and see what is here now. I remember reading where the Buddha silently raised a flower before a group of students and only one or so nodded at the understanding. The challenge too is to make this life useful. There is an expression “that person is so spiritual he is of no earthly good”. Sitting in the mountains being spiritual somehow doesnt seem to be useful LOL. So back to my original ponder, after waking up, choosing a new being choice, being free of religiousness, and “seeing”, – what does one do with this knowledge? We all cant simply stand or sit around in bliss anticipating the return to Oneness.

My favorite book in the Bible is Ecclesiastes because it pretty much sums it up – all under the sun is vanity – drink, eat and be merry. In other words, enjoy the ride but dont get attached to it! Dont fret the details LOL. What I have decided to do is find something every day that makes my life count in the betterment of someone around me while I enjoy the ride for myself. What gives my life meaning is what I decide it does. Its really that simple.

I was brought up in the traditional Christian belief system. To make a r-e-a-l long story short, I woke up day while listening to the preacher and asked myself why do I believe anything he says? He’s no smarter or more spiritual than I am. Plus, is anything I think really true? That started years of researching the history of Christianity, the Bible, ancient religions, eastern religions, and religion within itself. I had to know where religion came from. It occurred to me all I have is a belief. I didnt want to be a “believer” – I wanted to be a “knower”. It took me a while to free myself from the labyrinth of religion and to see it for what it is.

It was a short leap from there to understand that the whole of who I think I am is nothing but a belief within itself. I am a collection of ideas, concepts, interpretations of my world experience so far. But how much of it is “true”. And if I am nothing but a group of thoughts frozen in time we call beliefs, who am I – really? I knew I could step outside of myself and observe “me” from another perspective. The real me must be the one that is doing the observing.

I view beliefs as nothing more than thoughts frozen in time. To change the belief to me is about understanding where my original thought came from to begin with.

As a silly example, consider the background color of this blog page. It’s white. But why is it “white”. The scientific mind would come up with with theory about light, but thats not the point. Its white because when we were all children our parents told us this color is white. And thats the only reason its white. Someone told us so. We attached a label to it. Heres the clincher – as long as we all say its white, everythings fine. Let someone that has a different view or is color blind says its anything but white and we have conflict on our hands. But its nothing but a label.

We drive on the right side of the road in the US and the Brits drive on the left side. Who’s right?

During my researching religion years, I discovered there are about 20,000 different Christian belief systems in the US. Who’s right? They all cant be or can they? Each one will vehemently defend their beliefs. So will any religion. I am an audio visual contractor that deals primarily with churches. I have seen’em dunked, sprinkled, and splashed. I have attended hundreds of various services in the process of installing A/V systems, having some very long talks with ministers with many letters after their names. I have had some very deep conversations with some very smart, well educated people.

Every church thinks they are “right” and every other one down the street is wrong about what they believe. Millions of peoples lives have been destroyed or ruined over the centuries in the name of God. Study the Inquisition. What a horrible period of history to live through. Beliefs are incredibly strong.

The point I’m trying to make here, is I realized my whole self concept was nothing more than “what they said” – what I took in as a child without any questioning of “is that true?” or some event I misinterpreted and attached a label to. I was living life on a treadmill someone else had built – this is who “we” expect and have trained you to be. It wasnt until I started examining my beliefs one by one that slowly I began breaking down my “reality filter” – the filter we all see life through. We all see what we expect to see which creates more of that for us to see. How many times have we seen that “unique” dress, outfit, car, or other thing, get it, only to see it everywhere later? It wasnt unique at all! We didnt see it before because we werent looking for it. Its work, or has been for me, to really “see”. Therein is where I really appreciate the tools Morty has built – tools to break down my beliefs so I can examine them more closely with objectivity.

B Ramakrishnan, I think you are right. The challenge to me is just to “be” and see what is here now. I remember reading where the Buddha silently raised a flower before a group of students and only one or so nodded at the understanding.

The challenge too is to make this life useful. There is an expression “that person is so spiritual he is of no earthly good”. Sitting in the mountains being spiritual somehow doesnt seem to be useful LOL. So back to my original ponder, after waking up, choosing a new being choice, being free of religiousness, and “seeing”, – what does one do with this knowledge? We all cant simply stand or sit around in bliss anticipating the return to Oneness.

My favorite book in the Bible is Ecclesiastes because it pretty much sums it up – all under the sun is vanity – drink, eat and be merry. In other words, enjoy the ride but dont get attached to it! Dont fret the details LOL. What I have decided to do is find something every day that makes my life count in the betterment of someone around me while I enjoy the ride for myself. What gives my life meaning is what I decide it does. Its really that simple.

Thank you for another lucid, inspiring blog.

Been doing the Lefkoe process 2-3 times a week for the past 2 months, and just got up to “I’m not adequate” on the course. The interesting thing was I finished it – and immediately a whole host of memories came up with a sense of “I’m not powerful”.
So I am closer to clearing my core beliefs. To help me become more conscious, I have been reading “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle alongside doing your process – to help me realise I am the creator and the creation. I have spent the last 12 years working on myself and doing a LOT of personal development. I have probably made the fastest process the few weeks on your course. I am still scared (on occasion) that “Nothing will work for me” and I have a sense that “Everyone hates me” (I don’t fit in”). However, my mind IS quietening. I feel scared to continue the course in case I suddenly hit a blank with examples of where beliefs came from. But I am writing dates in my diary as I type this!

Tonight I will do the “Who Am I Really?” exercise, inspired by this example. I think your work is outstanding, and I can’t believe how effective it is. I do have questions. For instance, I know your talk about patterns coming from early on in life (from interactions with parents in the first 6 years), but I was sent thousands of miles away to boarding School when I was 9. Whilst I am sure many patterns came from my parents, it was a “horrible experience” in many ways. And I am looking to shift the meaning in the previous sentence to something more empowering like “My parents thought the best way to help me have a fulfilling life was to educate me and they had an opportunity to send me to boarding school for free, so they took it. It was their way of being good parents.” Thank you for the blessing of your course. I am so grateful.

- Rich

Maybe I can help here.

You are basically stuck at how to utilize the insights you have gained in way that is productive in sustaining your physical existence in a manner that is as joyful and blissful as your spiritual practice. Am I right ?

I think your answer to that problem lies in ZEN Buddhism. It is the art of NOW. There are two ways of using this. One is to take the events of your life as they come and try flying it from the seat of your pants. The second is arrive at something you would like to take up as a service for the people in your community that is BIG and Hairy enough for you. You can then use your insights etc to start putting together an enterprise that will accomplish that goal. Given your insights, it will be a cinch. You just have to take the first step, then the next, then the next. before you know it, the gravy train will be steaming out of the Depot.

Cheers !

Have you ever cooked food ? Tell me if you can keep track of what has happened to each morsel of food that you have cooked ? Once you have cooked the food, you place it on a plate and either eat it or you give it to someone to eat. Once it is eaten, are you bothered about what happens to what you cooked ? All you are bothered about is whether it keeps the eater fed, nurtured and feel loved. Thats it.

Understand that Creation is God’s Child. We are the morsels it puts into Creation’s mouth. Now do you ask the carrot in the stew to go give vitamin A to the eyes of your child ? It is the job of the body of the child and the carrot to figure out how to get the vitamin to the eyes.

Why would god give us brains and free will, when he could create us as machines who can just do as told and not give him any lip in the process !

For all you have read the BIBLE, you have forgotten the most basic thing. Do you know what that is ? GOD CREATED MAN IN HIS OWN IMAGE !

GOD created us to be Creators of our own destiny ! So there is nothing wrong in what Morty is saying or in his so called theory. It is God’s own plan and don’t try try quibbling with him on this. Are you feeling inadequate in taking responsibility for your own destiny ? You are using the Bible like a drunk uses a lamp post. For support or as crutches rather than for illumination.

This is why something like Morty’s offerings help because they give you the confidence to tackle your problems head on and resolve them in your favor. Again remember the old adage GOD HELPS THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES !

Could I offer something here ?

I think you are under the belief that Buddhists and New Agers have invented stuff that is fooling people. They did not “invent” the stuff they talked about. They discovered what already existed.

Christopher Columbus only discovered America because it existed already. He was not involved in any way of creating the Americas from nothing or play any role in placing them where they are.

I suggest you just go through the process that Morty talks about, the “What you really are” or WAIR and examine the experience you have. If in this experience you still feel that you have form and are still separate from the Universal consciousness, you are probably unique.

By the very way you are writing, it is clear that you have not undergone the experience. If you experience it properly, you would not have these kind of doubts.

Just for the record, Buddhism started off as a Self help method ! Similarly, every single guy who started any New Age philosophy started off from a self help perspective. It is like saying that water has no business being wet !

We create the beliefs that determine what we do and feel. I’m not sure that we can directly create what happens to us, in other words,what happens in the world. Although we do determine how reality occurs to us.

Love, Morty

Glad you found the post useful. Thanks for taking the time to join the discussion.

Love, Morty

What a powerful piece, I love this because I personally identify it as the link between the all. Often I would use the link between sexuality and spirituality for example. There is this common fallacy that they are mutually exclusive and I spend my life seeing the link within the all and embracing it, so that each part has its place respectively.

I have shared this link with one friend in particular, who I feel will definitely benefit from these words. Only a few days ago I yelled in frustration, what is the point of meditating for 2 hours a day if you can’t even communicate! In the search for certain spiritual experiences that some may call enlightenment. It is very easy to lose yourself and get lost within the inside world.

I love that you are speaking of finding the balance. It is this balance that I continuously strive to attain for me it is Harmonic Wealth.

Thank you again.

thank you
Mayuk

After I read this I went back and did the “Change is difficult and takes a long time” process and BANG! Everything has just clicked after that. It felt like even though I did all the beliefs and the occurring course something was missing – and there it was! Never have I felt this much at ease around other people speaking my mind.

Thank you Morty – you have changed my life significantly for the better.

I recommend your product to everyone I know – keep up the good work

“I too face relationship problems; at home and at office” This is what I could have said until a couple of months ago. But now the situation has somewhat melted down. I have started feeling comfortable; at both places. Thanks for rendering this change through your posts. In fact, I kept you in my best four bloggers, see my website. I want some more advices on the following topics:

How to enter the creator state/altered state, which you have mentioned in this post?
How to enter that state more frequently and consciously?
How to get hold of / understand that WAIR?
Any other suggestions are also welcome.

Thanks.

Regards

Pawan

Thanks for responding. I agree with you on the importance of spirituality (and balancing it), I just disagree slightly with what you define as spirituality. I don’t really consider self-centered meditation to be a “spiritual” experience, let alone “spirituality” itself.

To call it that, to me, is to endorse Eastern religious practices and/or New Age spirituality without saying it. Or, at least, it inches uncomfortably (for me) close to doing so. I appreciate the concepts behind WAIR etc. but I would stop short of calling it spiritual development. Please correct me if you think this is an inaccurate representation.

Maybe it is a rephrasing of something someone else has said.

This is how I see the issue and all of it is my point of view.

I think there are two “aspects” of ourselves. So people are not at all in touch with the spiritual aspect. But many people who are, think that is all they are and ignore the creation. That is my experience of a lot of people and what I have read in several places.

I just want to point out that both aspects of ourselves are important to develop. If both of those aspects are not read to you or any other person, that’s fine.

Thanks for joining the conversation.

Love,Morty

“So who you ultimately are is formless, non-dual consciousness”

Uh…no. Well, maybe, but since I’m not a Buddhist or New Ager I don’t think along those lines. I think it’s a stretch to conclusively say something like this, especially in a spiritual (and not strictly personal development) sense.

I know this is an aside from the message of the post, but the overlap between actual Eastern and New Age religion with the self-help methods with Lefkoe have been a recurring issue for me. Any non-New Ager care to offer a perspective?

The best way to know if a belief is gone is to notice how it feels when you say the words of the belief. Compare how it felt when you had it with how you feel after completing the LBP.

If it is gone the words will feel meaningless, no charge on them, no response to them, easy to say the words.

The usual reason a belief doesn’t go away after going through the LBP is the client still thinks he “sees” the belief in the world.. I explain how to deal with clients for whom the process doesn’t seem to work in our LBP Training.

Love, Morty

I came up with my assumption from my own experience and the experience of others in my classes.

I’ve never seen a “cold” disappear by eliminating beleifs. ANd yet having a cold can influence the meaning you give events.

I do think that beliefs are the major source of our occurrings, but not the only source.

Thanks for the question.

Love, Morty

Some people care only about the surface, and there is no inner matter and make a facade that does not represent what is inside, they care only on what other people could see…

…but you can help people to express to others as their are externally, and this is valuable as people need others to see their blind spots, or you just have better taste witch the world needs more of.

There is also a connection link between the external and the internal, improving one of them will improve the other and also worsening one will affect the other.

Glad you are finding our work so useful.

Let me know your experience after trying the Natural Confidence program.

Love,Morty

I just posted a response to Ellis. Does it answer your questions?

Love, Morty

I’m not sure there is that one piece of information tjaty will finallyunlock your stuckness. How exactly are you stuck?

You can improve both your creation and your experience of yourself as the creator by eliminating beliefs and conditionings, using the WAIR? Process, and mastering your occurring.

When you can get that events have no meaning and that your life is a function of the meaning you give meaningless events, you will have given the ultimate freedom to the creation at the same time you experience yourself as the creator of your life.

Love, Morty

I’m not sure what you are looking for. We do offer a package of the most common 19 beleifs and four conditionings that cause 8 of the most common problems we face daily. You can check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

I haven’t yet found a way to put the Occurring Course into a digital format. At present it requires feedback from me to each participant weekly. When I find a way to put that course on video, I will

The training to learn how to eliminate beleifs on your own is available in a digital format. See http://lefkoeuniversity.com

What else would you like us to provide and I’ll see what we can do.

Love, Morty

Sorry we don’t have a program just for de-conditioning. Usually that process is not used until after all the relevant beleifs are eliminated, so we only offer it with program that eliminates the relevant beleifs first.

I do describe the steps of the Lefkoe Stimulus Process in one of my blog posts. Check out the table of contents at http://mortylefkoe.com

Love,Morty

I’d love to read your reply to “Ellis” post above. I totally get where he/she is coming from, and feel very much the same.

I enjoy your work, and am revisiting Natural Confidence.

Thanks.

where did you come up with that assumption that eliminating beliefs wont stopp all occurings? what makes you think physical sensations/moods etc have nothing to do with beliefs. lol in my experience when you change a belief (find the right one) those things can change.

love
mayuk

But it was always confusing in my mind because I know that I am spirit and ego, but I am not ultimately ego since I view ego as “my story” – who I think I am (or thought I was – I figured that out years ago).

It’s too long to go into here, but I mentally woke up about 10 years ago in a split second of insight and realized I had taken on the personification of the character I was playing in a movie script. I as the actor in a movie had completely forgotten who I really am and thought / believed down to the depths of my soul, convinced I was the character I was playing. I lost myself. To wake up was frankly terrifying because I didnt know who I was. If I am not my story, who am I? I was a basket case for three days and I’m not kidding. I was a mess. It took me a while to put it together.

But getting back to todays blog, in your metaphor, I know I am the ocean. But I also knew ego is real, seems to have its own agenda, and is the moving force here right now. Its sorta like I’m spirit riding in a car thats driving where it wants to go, not where I want to go, and the steering wheel is missing LOL.

When I woke up, I think I made the mistake of seeing my ego as a shell to be cast off – gotten rid of, not needed any more, a nuisance. My thinking was, as spirit how can I grab a hold of that steering wheel and make the car go where I want to go to create the “magical” life I have imagined for myself. I’ve been working at it from that end for years and as you said completely ignoring the reality of my physical resistance more or less. It seems now that its about being aware that I am spirit working through a creative entity – I am both and as you said, I need to work on both at the same time. Its about the “awareness” of the situation. I simply cannot walk away from my physical component in this reality or drag it around treating it like some unwanted child. I may be awake but I’m still standing on the stage with a script in my hand. I need to do something useful with it and figure out how to make the experience more meaningful and joyful.

The problem I see is “knowing” all of this and turning it into a useful life. I have been stuck for years with the “knowing” and not knowing what to do with it. I get frustrated every New Years eve looking back on my journals / goals and see that I am stuck exactly at the same place in life I was 10 years ago. I feel like 10 years of my life have been completely wasted. I keep looking for that one piece of information that will finally unlock my “stuckness”.

I love that line – “hiding out in spirituality”. Thats great! Never thought of it that way.

you talked about this before… your take on this doesnt make sense. Some feelings are caused by moods lol… moods are feelings. And there are ways to eliminate the feelings causded by things other than events… not sure what your saying here whenever you mention this Morty??

I myself agree with what you said about that whole state of escapism via spiritual practice. That state you described is called by some Subjective Reality. But I would say that it can be abused!

To me, Subjective Reality is not about becoming aloof and dismissing the world as an illusion! The fact that one is consciousness and a creator that manifests reality via perception and intention really brings home to me the importance of keeping ones beliefs in check.

Thanks Morty, I appreciate the value of this. I don’t have my complete act together, but things like these keep bringing it back to me and reminding me! It makes me feel like I’m guided somehow!

what can be the reason for the lbp not happening successfully by an individual who is trying it ? and does your clients get excited while u ask them questions during finding beliefs in your session ?

love
Mayuk

In order to dissolve the meaning you made up about the event you first need to identify what the meaning is. That meaning is causing your “misery,” not the event itself.

When you are clear about the distinction between the event and how it is occurring to you, that occurring will dissolve,along with the feelings that the occurring has caused.

Love, Morty
P.S. Sorry about your mom’s accident.

We don’t “inherit” traits like those you mentioned. Self-pity, selfishness, etc. are the result of beliefs, not genetics. Get rid of the beleifs and the traits will disappear. I’ve seen it happen hundreds if not thousands of times.

The events of your childhood, as unpleasant as they might have been then, are not having any influence on your life today. What is running your life today is the meaning you gave those childhood events, i.e., the beliefs you formed.

Get rid of them and transform your life. I promise.

Love, Morty

Eliminating one belief will not necessarily change anything significant in your life. Any specific problem (like depression, social anxiety, anger, etc.) is caused by several if not many beleifs. SO eliminating one or two beliefs will not usually eliminate a “problem.”

The way to know if a belief has been eliminated is to say the words and see if they feel true or uncomfortable — or if they feel like meaningless words that almost make no sense. There will not necessarily be any evidence in the world that the belief really is gone.

Love, Morty

Thanks for this beautiful post.

Love, Morty

* * * * * * * * Forgiveness, a recipe for sharing. * * * * * * * *

These ingredients, and the directions for use, may vary with the strength
of your imagination.

Select a container, such as a plastic spice bottle.
Label it: Forgiveness

Add some cornstarch or cocoa to your container, or you may want to make
up something . . . like scented powdered sidewalk chalk, or add glitter.

You may find it helpful to add some, “Directions for Use”, such as:

1 Accidents do happen, and sometimes we break things, or hearts, unintentionally.
2 It can be much easier to make mistakes, than it is to admit and correct our mistakes.
Are you the first one to make this mistake; would you want to be the last one?
3 When you make, or find your mistake, sprinkle just enough of this “Forgiveness”
on it to mark it plainly as yours, and prevent the cat, or anyone else from being blamed.
4 Leave the mistake in plain view until everyone sees you prefer to deal with it honestly;
and honorably accept the responsibility for it.
5 Mistakes may pay for themselves more fairly through exposure; we waste a potential
benefit of our mistakes by hiding them.
6 By sharing the gift of our mistakes with others, we may help some to make better
and more rewarding choices.
7 Concealing a mistake may cause many other mistakes, perhaps ones even more
difficult to live with, or to correct.
8 The value of mistakes is in understanding the lessons they are trying to teach us.
9 Genuinely participate in discussing how to avoid making this mistake again.
Ask for, and get, all the help you need.
10 Forgiving ourselves, may prove to be the most difficult part of making a mistake.
11 We may find forgiving our own mistakes easier after some practice, in forgiving
the mistakes made by others.
12 Forgiveness feels good, whenever it is given, observed, or received.
13 The unforgivable; fail to ask, accept, or give their Forgiveness.

“Forgiveness is one of, “The best things in life [that] are free”

This may only be one, of a more complete set, of Virtues.

What would our children and grandchildren do. . . with bottles of:
Enthusiasm, Courage, Hope, and such, along with Forgiveness?

“Use your Imagination, Stevie!”

“Can’t, Granny borrowed it, yesterday.”

Happy New Year,

Jae

My father has never dealt with the circumstances of his mothers abandonment / rejection… and has seemingly suffered terribly all his life. Self pity, selfishness, don’t think of any one other than himself, lack of empathy, unloved, not able to feel or show love…
I know this because unfortunately I seemed to have inherit these traits for myself and there fore have struggled with relationship commitments both at work, with my girl friends and to some extent with my friends.

I have never married and have no kids… yet! both by choice, as I have been dealing with my own health and energy problems and have struggled looking after myself… Let alone a wife and kids.

Even though I am 50 now and I admit I don’t really know who he is (even after sharing the same house for my first 25 years before I moved out of home)…
Strangely enough I never had a close or respectful relationship with him!

Part 3 any one?

My father was an orphan born in 1929… obviously a child out of wedlock was taboo back in those days. so I can accept it was a very tough and unloved childhood growing up in his shoes, which explains his anger from his complete and utter powerlessness!

So subsequently he, as a father was very angry and strict on his own 3 children… my elder sister, my middle brother and me! Because mothering 3 kids under 7 years took his wife’s focus and attention almost totally away from him, I believe he was jealous of us… his own 3 kids. Our mother most probably spent more time with us than him!
My father has never dealt with his situation of abandonment and rejection and has seemingly suffered terribly all his life. Self pity, selfishness, don’t think of any one other than yourself

Even though I am 50 now and I admit I don’t really know who he is (even after sharing the same house for 25 years before I moved out of home) had a close relationship with
He would say things like money doesn’t grow on trees, I never had that when I was your age and so the resentment went on and on… to the point of, we 3 kids were blamed for everything, including the eventual relationship failure, total breakdown of the marriage and finally separation and divorce. this created a build up of his own underlining rage!

I have since found out from my mother

Thanks for taking the time to send us your suggestion.

Actually we try to market both ways, but because most people don’t believe it is possible to totally get rid of a problem by eliminating beliefs (because it is impossible to permanently eliminate beleifs), we try to get them to eliminate one belief first.

Then we tell people who see that it is possible to permanently eliminate a belief that now they can eliminate all the beliefs that cause a given problem, thereby eliminating the problem.

We have a “store” where people can purchase packages to eliminate specific problems, but we found that it confused people. SO now we offer Natural Confidence, which includes the beleifs that cause eight different problems.

Love, Morty

After working with over 13,000 people directly, we are now convinced that virtually all our self-0esteem type beliefs, such as I’m not good enough, I’m not important, and I’m powerless, stem from interactions with parents before the age of 6.

I’ve written a couple of blog posts that provide my reasons for this conclusion. See http://www.mortylefkoe.com/092209/# and http://www.mortylefkoe.com/wonderful-parents/#

See if these two posts are useful.

Love, Morty

well, I’m on belief #8 now and working my way through all 19 beliefs. I am wondering through this process however, if others experience the source of their beliefs, not through their parents… but rather through their perception of God? That you can’t ever be “good enough”, or any number of other beliefs. Also, I am finding not much emotional resonance attached to childhood, but rather, through my experiences in my marriage. So, about 50% of the beliefs (so far) have been formed in childhood… one formed through a work situation, and 2 through my marriage, and one formed by belief I’ve held about how God views me. Could it be for some, that beliefs we hold are more connected to our view of God than of our experiences with our parents? Curious if anyone else had a similar experience through this process.

In answer to your question, see what I wrote above:

It might well be that getting rid of a bunch of limiting beliefs is the best way to reduce the negative and increase the positive in your life in 2012.

We offer phone and Skype sessions to help people eliminate the beleifs that keep them stuck and feeling weak and powerless.

Call us for more information at 415-884-0552.

Love, Morty

Thanks for sharing that. That’s why we do what we do.

Love,Morty

There is no real value in knowing when a belief has manifested. Once you have identified the belief once, you can eliminate it.

Either schedule a session with us by phone or Skype or purchase one of our programs that includes the beleifs you want to eliminate.

Call us for more information at 415-884-0552.

Love,Morty

We have helped a number of people with the problem you describe. Because the beliefs are different for each person, we have been unable to create an online program, but we can help you in one-to-one phone or Skype sessions.

For more information, please call us at 415-884-0552.

Love, Morty

Many thanks, Demos.

thank you
Mayuk

For some people these statements are just different forms of a single belief. For most people, they are different beliefs. Eliminating one will not make the others go away.

Love, Morty

Glad you were able to use TLM on the beliefs you discovered.

Happy holidays.

Love, Morty

I’ve always been curious as to what the difference between words like not capable, not competent, powerless, etc. are?

They all seem to be synonyms and basically mean you cannot do or achieve something.
I ask this because I did one of your programs and a lot of the beliefs sounded like the same thing but different wording and I thought it was repetitive.

Beliefs shouldn’t be coming back repeatedly as you’ve described.

I’m not sure what’s happening. Please call me at 415-884-0552 so I can figure out what the problem is.

Happy holidays.

Love, Morty

The following beliefs and conditionings cause procrastination in most people. Some people have a few more and some a few less.

Mistakes and failure are bad.
I’m not good enough.
Change is difficult.
What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me.
Nothing I do is good enough.
I’m not capable.
I’m not competent.
If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected.
I’m a failure.
I’m stupid.
I’m not worthy.
I’m powerless.
What makes me good enough or important is doing things perfectly.
Conditioning: Fear associated with criticism and judgment.
Conditioning: Fear associated with not meeting expectations.
Conditioning: Fear associated with rejection.

Good luck in working with others.

Love,Morty

Actually, this is bloody brilliant, at least as valuable as the regular possibility process. Think about it, what would happen to the GNP of a country if, instead of avoiding work, us underlings started looking for more attractive alternatives? Some of the effort will be “wasted” but probably not as much, right? And it’s a lot easier when you bite the bullet because you think it’s the best way… Meaning more energy, either way, to be put into the actual, rubber-meets-the-road work.

You could also write affirmations, like “It’s just as easy to hit on the fairway as the driving range” and write down the objections that come to mind.

I think if you poked around this website you could find a lot more suggestions of relevant beliefs you could eliminate– sounds like Natural Confidence would be a good place to look.

Thanks, Elly

Take a look at the video at this link and see if that helps. Let me know.

http://occurringcourse.com/#

Love, Morty

Great realization! Make sure we do whatever work we need to on ourselves first. You’d be surprised how much the world will change.

Happy holidays.

Love,Morty

So when these self proclaimed masters of the secret came onto the scene I wonder the same thing. Did they help ? or did they create more problems where none existed to begin with ? lmao

My thoughts on what you’ve said about correcting a childs paradigm are simple. Granted the road is so much smoother when one has been raised with Shelly’s methods, however I’ve discovered that despite external influences I’ve managed to self correct.

So the question I have is why would anyone want to take responsibility for what ails society ? If you take it on, it becomes your problem and who’s to say a problem even exists ? I’ve found it’s best to channel ones time into doing what they love. The rest will take care of itself. But thats just me. I’m not here to save the world, lol, I’m just here to have an experience.

Thanks for sharing with us how your sense of victimization has disappeared. Congratulations.

Happy holidays.

Love, Morty

Thanks for sharing how valuable our work has been to you.

Please share our free belief-elimination program with others like they have shared with you. http://recreateyourlife.com

Happy holidays.

Love, Morty

You ask how to dissolve meaning? Just make a clear distinction between the events and the meaning, and the meaning will dissolve.

If you keep giving negative meaning to events and have constant anxiety, that is the result of several negative beliefs. Have you eliminated a few of your negative self-esteem beliefs using our free belief-elimination process? Try it at http://recreateyourlife.com

If you tried it and see that it works, use our Natural Confidence program to eliminate 23 limiting beleifs and conditionings. That will get rid of a lot of anxiety. Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

Happy holidays.

Love, Morty

Getting into the WAIR? state is very powerful, but it is not a substitute for getting rid of beliefs that determine your behavior and feelings. If you have beliefs that are causing your negative feelings of self-worth, get rid of them.

The ability to eliminate 19 of the most common ones can be found on our Natural Confidence program. Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

Love, Morty

I’d like to suggest that our feelings are not a part of our “soul,” even though it may feel like they are.

Our feelings are the results of arbitrary beliefs and conditionings. Eliminate the beliefs and conditionings and the feelings automatically change. If feelings are the result of accidental circumstances that led to beliefs that aren’t really the truth, how can they be part of our soul?

Love, Morty

We are planning to create an app for the free beliefs, but not for the entire NC program, whihc is over 10 hours. We would have to charge the same $200 and people don’t spend that type of money for Apps.

Also, I suspect that you eliminated all the beleifs on the NC programs, and the lack of confidence you are now feeling is the result of other beliefs and especially the meaning you are giving your current work situation.

You ought to check out the next Occurring Course that is being offered in January, which will enable you to stop giving meaning to current events, thereby stopping all negative self-talk. Check out http://occurringcours.ecom/discover.

Love, Morty

Great Advice! When I experience a intense negative emotion such as anger, I say to myself: ‘I have the feeling of being angry’. It helps in breaking the association of the feeling with myself, so I can investigate what the real problem is – it is often not what I think in the first place – and deal with it.

Thanks for sharing

I will check out the MP3 later.

I really like your material. It is right on. The reason we have problems (or success) is because of the meaning we assign to an event. What I do not understand is, how do you “dissolve” the meaning of something you already assigned meaning to, especially once it has come to affect you deeply? In my case, I was being careless, not thinking about why I was doing something and when I realized it, I panicked because, to me, it seemed very selfish and hurtful. This was so traumtizing to me that it seemed to change I how felt about myself. Ever since then, I’ve been dealing with anxiety and having a hard time seeing past the meaningd I assigned to the everything. I’ve tried to eliminate the meaning, but it seems I’ve managed to condition myself to think a certain way now and so now my mind often simply reacts. How do I convince myself (my inner self) of the truth — that I really am ok and do not need to be anxious or even think about what makes me anxious? It seems that, like someone suffering from trauma, I’ve been unable to get it off my mind or resolve the thoughts and feelings associated with it.

Thank you,
Greg

I’m glad you found us through Steve Pavlina and that our work has been helpful.

Although eliminating a couple of beleifs can be very useful, it is important to eliminate all the beliefs that cause specific problems, so entire problems can be eliminated.

Our Natural Confidence program helps you eliminate 23 of the most common beleifs and conditionings so that you can eliminate eight of the most common daily problem, such as procrastination, lack of confidence, worrying about what others think of you, etc.

Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

Love, Morty

I’m not sure what you mean about others reminding us about incident.

Incidents have no meaning, other than the meaning we give them. Events can happen that are inimical to our values, at which point we should take action to change what;s happening in the world. But we still don’t have to give meaning to the events.

Love, Morty

I’m thrilled to hear that our work has had a “profound posititve impact” on ytou.

I’m not sure what else yu were expecting. The DVD has over 10 hours of material on it. We could have made 10 shorter DVDs, but that would have been a waste of plastic.

Let me know how you feel when you complete the program.

Love, Morty

The point of this exercise is not to change the circumstances. It won’t tell you how to cope with difficult situations.

It only makes clear that the fact he is drunk and angry has no meaning, in other words, it says nothing about you, or men in general, or marriages.

Love,Morty

The fact that someone is angry at you has no meaning. So it would not make you angry or upset. And you don’t know why the person is angry. Only the fact that he is angry.

Love,Morty

There would be different beliefs for different people. And there could be so many beliefs. I would need to talk to the person and ask a lot of questions to figure out what beliefs might be in the way.

Love, Morty

best regards
Mayuk

As a side note Dr Hawkins method is different than what I’ve described to you but it uses the body to determine many things you might find useful for your path in life.

Thomas

Thats simple. The mind or thoughts can lie so to speak but the body doesn’t. A simple exercise that you can use to develop your intuition is this. Think of a time when you made a choice to do something that worked out quite well. Recall how your body felt. Do the same for a situation that turned out horribly and recall how your body felt. Now you have a compass to use and if your interested in learning more check out Dr Hawkins work, power versus force.

Thomas

I recently lost my flat and as a result moved in with my friend. The flat I lost was my first flat and I’d put a lot of love and time into making it homely. Rather than focus on what I had lost, this new experience gave me an opportunity to see what I had gained.

I realised that I enjoyed living with another person, more than I had done living on my own and have loved living with my friend so much that we are now saving up to buy our first house together!

I have been able to inspire her to make changes in her life and she has done the same for me. As a result of her support and the positive environment we have created I have achieved more of my goals in the last 3 months than I have in my whole life!

I’ve never herd of anyone getting physically ill after eliminating a belief, but I guess it’s possible.

I’m sorry to hear that you feel ill and hope you are feeling much better real soon.

Love, Morty

“It is a verbose lesson. Just because there are many words in a post does not make it verbose. A spoonful of sugar has countless number of sugar crystals but in the final analysis, the amount of sweetness never exceeds the sweetness of another spoonful. So if you spend your time counting the number of crystals and not enough on parsing the meaning, all you get is the a dry number which only feeds your spite instead of getting the meaning which could have sweetened your life and more importantly, your disposition. This paragraph too has many words, but it will seem excessive only to a guy who cannot get the meaning.”

This is your non verbose version.
“A spoonful of sugar makes your medicine go down?
Cup runneth over with bombast?
Infinite inanity? Inane infinity?
The one who laughs last laughs the loudest?
Gobbledegook?
And rat’s farts! ”

3 Questions .
1. Do you comprehend English and what you are required to do ? You called my post verbose. And you prove you cannot get a simple exercise right which my 8 year kid can do in his sleep. Even he knows the difference between a post and a paragraph.

2. Show my post where I put this query to you to friends (if you have any left) ask them if they can discern any relation between the question asked and the answer you gave ? Ask them to post their verdict on this post.

3. Even if your reply was a summary of what you understood of what was in my previous post, look at that post again and your summary of it. Is this a reflection of your powers of comprehension and your attitude of learning and conveying meaning in a non verbose manner ?

Please note, I did not ask you to agree with me or comment on what I expressed. I just asked for a non verbose way of expressing what I expressed.

Is this response an example of your quality of thinking ? Is this your quality of speech ? Is this what you understood of what I said in the post ? If I did a precis of some of your posts in my style ( which are much longer and even more meaningless), I would still convey your exact meaning without needing to agree with them.

With this kind of attitude, no wonder you get thrown out on your ear. That is the only explanation for so much bile ! It maybe not really true, but given this kind of response, it would be very highly likely.

Only a shit bag would have so much shit to fling so much shit at everybody. I don’t mean it as an insult. It is just an observation. It is an insult only if it fits you and it happens to be true.

Reread my post, you paraphrased so well and try getting my meaning without getting so much bigotry in your eye.

In the movie “Eight Mile” a rap ends like this.
“I would like to end this Shit with a F U but have a Nice Day !”

Letting go of meanings doesn’t mean you have to enter into conflict with people. There’s no need to debate it with them. They have every right to their meanings as you have to yours. But you are not obligated to accept their meanings, nor to respond to them. I can speak from experience that it is enormously freeing to have an encounter with someone who appears upset by a situation, but not to have a mirrored reaction, to be able to see the event objectively, and therefore not reflexively construct a meaning that generates a negative emotional response in me.

If someone is close to you and someone you want to keep contact with your lack of negative reaction or response sometimes affects them positively. If the person is someone with whom you can have an honest conversation with, then you can help them eliminate the beliefs that underlie their response to you.

And if the person is someone who you don’t necessarily need to have contact with, or who you don’t value having contact with, then don’t have contact with them. If it’s an old friend who just won’t leave the past alone, who maybe you have less in common now that you’re older, then limit contact.

But I must say that the process Morty explains is possible and really does work. My life has changed significantly for the better because I have been able to put into practice these guidelines.

What a great idea. I actually played the game recently without even knowing it.

I’m 6 months pregnant and we are in the process of getting all the things we need to have for the baby (which includes a stroller). My Spanish mother in law (I’m Canadian but live in Spain) has said from the beginning that we “had” to get a specific kind of Stroller (the best/most expensive). I think it is a good stroller but not for us…a family that is going to be travelling a lot. My husband and I agreed from the beginning that we would get what WE want and it doesn’t really matter what other people suggest or want us to get.

Anyways, long story short we just ordered the stroller we want, and my mother in law is not happy… in fact quite angry. At first I was upset! How dare she get angry at us for not following her advice.

But then I stepped back and though…why am I upset?

Truthfully, I was upset because I thought her reaction was a sign of what’s to come. I’ve heard stories about mother-in-laws that try to control everything and interfere in the lives of new families…and I was scared this was the beginning.

But what really happened?

My mother in law disagreed with us, and got angry about our decision. Nothing more…nothing less.

In 5 years, I’m going to look back on this and think…wow…she was pretty angry but I’m glad we did what we wanted to. Maybe she will even end up liking the model we got (it doesn’t really matter). It’s insignificant really. Just another event in our lives.

Thanks for the game idea. I am going to play it this week and see how things go.

All the best,
Diana

Cup runneth over with bombast?

Infinite inanity? Inane infinity?

The one who laughs last laughs the loudest?

Gobbledegook?

I really do enjoy your posts. Really I do. I Haven’t laughed this hard for ages.
Not at you. Only at your attitude and non empty cup.

You know Sam, if I entertained even the slightest notion that you are a fool or that your path is taking you away from the Infinite, this post has completely put them to rest. Real Good.

What did you do right here, for you to get this accolade, from me of all persons ?

It is a verbose lesson. Just because there are many words in a post does not make it verbose. A spoonful of sugar has countless number of sugar crystals but in the final analysis, the amount of sweetness never exceeds the sweetness of another spoonful. So if you spend your time counting the number of crystals and not enough on parsing the meaning, all you get is the a dry number which only feeds your spite instead of getting the meaning which could have sweetened your life and more importantly, your disposition. This paragraph too has many words, but it will seem excessive only to a guy who cannot get the meaning.

Ok, Sam, let us do an exercise here. Please rephrase what I said in the previous paragraph in your own words in a quantity that would not be verbose. It will demonstrate exactly what you understood of what I said and also simultaneously demonstrate your “obviously” superior command over English and the conveyance of meaning in the language.

I am curious, and I am anxious to see for myself whether there exists a better manner to express complex thought. If it does, I would like to see a sample of nonverbosity that does covey my exact meaning in less words than what I have used.

I will go ahead with the rest of your post, when I get your reply accompanied by a non verbose rendering of my paragraph.

You sound like you are high on Karma Cola. But you are not alone: plenty others are ODing on this stuff! They have been since Indian mysticism started messing minds here. Almost all of these gurus were con artistes. Turned thousands into sheep. Americans were quick to pick up their tricks and their mystical mumbo jumbo and dubious techniques. The sheep now follow them. Some sing their praises!

Hari Rama, Hari Krishnan! Morty Rama, Morty Krishna!

Shelly has been working with 20+ clients a week for over 20 years. She will be your facilitator.

Love, Morty

Yes there is a lifetime guarantee.

Love,Morty

Thank you for your quick reply, I will look into the program first as you mentioned. Is there a money back guarantee with the natural confidence program? Can you explain any guarantees you offer? Also, I see one of your daughters attends Washington University in St. Louis? Thats fantastic as I am also in St. Louis. Thank you again Morty for your time and consideration with my questions.

If you now see the power of eliminating beleifs, I would suggest that you get our Natural Confidence program that helps you eliminate 23 of the most common beliefs and conditionings. That will go a long way to reducing your social anxiety and tendency for self-sabotage. Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence

If that doesn’t totally solve the problem, I suggest a few phone or Skype sessions with one of our Certified Lefkoe Method facilitators. You can get more information about those sessions by calling us at 415-884-0552.

If you have any additional questions, please let me now.

Love,Morty

I tried your free eliminate a belief program online for “I am not good enough”. I thought it was very good, but upon further thinking about my life, and reading about other powerful beliefs I am convinced I have a lot of work to do under the hood. My biggest challenge in my life right now is SELF SABOTAGE. I am not sure what beliefs I have that support this behavior but I am sure there are many. I am convinced of this for many reasons, but most notably when ever I am on the verge of a “breakthrough” sort to speak in my life, I just quit. The biggest issues being my academic career for nursing programs, as well as many jobs. I quit before I can achieve any success in my life, even though things are on the right track and/or I am doing well. I know deep down I want these things in my life. I also have a LOT of social phobia and social anxiety. I think your methods would create a miracle in my life if only I knew what to do to end this self sabotage and anxiety. I look forward to any input you might have. Thank you so much.

Do you guys read the posts here ?

Morty puts his stuff out here. For free. For those who may need it.

Look at what he puts out. Use it and check it out for yourself. If it doesn’t, just go ahead and lose it. Absent yourself from this forum.

Morty talks something very different from Joe Vitale and others. Do not tar everybody with the same brush. You know a guy like Sam may need some help removing his belief “Beware the helping hand, it belongs to a pickpocket !”. This is not to tar a guy like Sam as a bad guy. This guy is not a perp. He is a victim who has formed a set of negative beliefs based on his experience.

You know in my country, they have a saying. Ignorance is a curable disease. Knowledge being the antidote. Arrogance is incurable simply because it will never “demean” itself by trying any remedy.

If Sam were a buddhist, he could basically see that he is not his ignorance or his arrogance or even his own bad experiences. It is because of this that Buddhism and Hinduism stress on surrender before any spiritual quest. Improving oneself is always a spiritual quest. You essentially start out on a journey beyond your experience and envelope. You have to necessarily drop your fixations and your old patterns of thinking if you really want any change in yourself. Surrender in this context means that you are willing to put your old notions on the ground and pick up and try the new notion out. Sincerely. By all means subject this new notion to as many trials as you want. You get doubts ? Great ! ASK and get answers ! If you don’t get answers from the source you have in front of you, go find another who can answer your question. How is this difficult for a person who sincerely wants self improvement ? If the new notion does not work, keep it down, pick up your old tried notions and proceed to the next step. Before picking up your old notions again, check to see if there are any that can be discarded based on what you learned while trying out the new notion. Make every step an opportunity to learn ! Pick only those notions that you feel can be useful going forward ( out of your old notions). If you get rid of your old notions or beliefs in this way, you are already improving yourself.

This is what any ZEN master will tell you. “Empty your cup before you extend it to be filled !”. Common sense that seems to be really missing in the case of our friend. Imagine that his cup is filled with salt. He goes to a sugar factory, full of hope and longing. He puts his cup under the spigot and stops when the sugar starts overflowing. Obviously. He then decides to taste the cup. If he is lucky he will get some sweet, but the bulk of it will still be the salt. He then tries again and again getting more and more frustrated that he has consumed as much sugar as the next man but he is still getting only salt. What conclusion can he come to ? Either everybody smaking his lips there is a liar or a posear or the sugar factory is defective or a gigantic rip-off.

One can only pity such a person. While he thinks he is being wise and helpful trying to sincerely help other victims, everybody else sees only a fool. You may argue that this is just perception, but if you think carefully, you can clearly see the distinction between reality and perception. Did Sam ever think of checking what was wrong with his cup ? When he found crap in his cup, why did he not invert it and let all that muck drop out ?

You may ask me how does one get rid of the crap in the cup. When the cup is your mind and the stuff inside is your notions of what is right or wrong, acceptable or unacceptable ? What do you think, Morty’s Natural Confidence course is ? He has identified 14 or 19 different kinds of crap in your cup ! What more do you want ?

He gives you a free demo for three of them. Try it and see ! If it doesn’t work for you, let him know ! How is this difficult ?

I realised that I have not gone through all the stuff that Morty has already put out. So I was backtracking when I came across this last post of Jeff. Which triggered this reply.

To put the issue straight. Jeff, it does not matter a rat’s fart what Morty’s motives are. You have a need. Morty says he has a solution. Try it out. It works, problem solved. It doesn’t, problem remains. Do you raise this with Morty or do you go somewhere else ? Take your pick.

Nobody can explain their motives in a way that can be proved. Motives are evolved as a survival strategy which has a tremendous amount of varied input which is bound to be very different from yours. Do not waste your time trying to analyse motives things like this. For Murders and specific crimes yes. Just look at the event. Does it work for you ? Yes or NO. Suck it up and deal with it. Simple. Not easy but Simple.

I discussed the question you raised in a couple of recent posts. Check out the table of contents at http://mortylefkoe.com

Specifically check out: http://www.mortylefkoe.com/youre-confused/#

Love, Morty

Thanks. I appreciate your comment.

Love, Morty

Thanks for taking the time to post.

Have you eliminated a belief yet using the Lefkoe Belief Process? It is a totally different system than the one you use.

Check it out (free) at http://recreateyourlife.com and let me know what you think.

Love, Morty

Thanks for taking the time to post. Glad you were able to do what you wanted without concern for the naysayers.

Love,Morty

Worrying what people think of us is the result of several beliefs, especially: What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me, and the two underlying beliefs: I’m not important and I’m not good enough.

When the 10+ beleifs and conditionings are gone, you will stop worrying about what others think.

Our Natural Confidence product contains all the beleifs and conditionings you would need to get rid of the problem.

Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

Let me know what it feels like to be free of the opinions of others after you try it.

Love, Morty

Thanks for all your postings.

I especially liked your comment that “I read Morty’s Blog essentially to help myself spiritually.” For me, the spiritual aspect of our work is as important as the “practical” aspect of eliminating beliefs. I’m happy that at least one person gets that.

Love, Morty

To answer your question you put to Morty and others.

“When I do it your way, I can’t find the spirituality that I believed this was all about. Am I really that far off course?

Have I totally lost the plot or can anyone else see what I am trying to ask?”

This is the essence of spirituality as described by Advaita. We call such folks who have come to believe what your belief is as an “Evolved” soul. Very Highly evolved. The fact that you have asked this in a spiritual context bears out this assertion of mine.

This is a wonderful event for me to read your question. By guiding you to the books, I am just doing my duty. Whether you read them or not is your choice. Advaita clearly states that all life is spiritual and all actions in thought, word or action are spiritual. There is no thing that is not spiritual in its substance.

I read Morty’s Blog essentially to help myself spiritually. One link that he sent me, “Who am I really” would be extremely helpful to you. Since it is Morty’s IP, I request him to please send this link to you.

If you wish to carry on a conversation with me on this, my email id is brk1961@gmail.com.

”I believe that that all realities, whether they be in my head or indeed in a concrete reality, are ALL an illusion”.

My earlier post takes the next step. If all is illusion, what then is real ?
Given the limitations of our sense apparatus, how can we percieve the unpercievable, ie the reality of realities ? This is what Viveka Chudamani is all about. This book is a masterpiece of Logic, Rationality.

Shankara says that Faith and Belief can take you to God. But his assertion is that Rational Faith is a million times more effective than Blind Faith.

Your belief could possibly curtail your prosperity in a material sense. But based on the doing your duty based only on the events that occur in life without paying attention to “Occurences” and “Beliefs” based on Assumptions or Illusions, both events and resources will come into your life without you needing to do anything else other than your own duty as revealed by the events in your life. Knowing that all is illusion, helps you overcome your percieved lack of resources like money, love, opportunities and still contribute meaningfully within the context you are placed in. The context is defined by the events that are being sent your way.

I could go on and on. But, I think this is a forum for other things.

I am from India and a Hindu. We have a philosophy that says exactly this. To put this philosophy into as few words as possible.

There is only one Reality. That one reality is God. All you percieve through your senses inside and outside ourselves are meanings we ascribe to events. It is our job to deal with the events the way duty calls. If we do our duty without confusing ourselves we not only enlighten ourselves but others as well.

If you can please read a book by Swami Chinmaynanda called “Vivekachudamani” an English explanation of an ancient Sanskrit text by an Indian Saint called Adi Shankara. There are a number of “technical terms” used for which you will have to read another text called “Tatwa Bodh” by Adi Shankara which is a primer for the concepts discussed in Viveka Chudamani.

You can get these books from Chinmaya Mission. There is also a full set of discourses by Swami Chinmayananda on Viveka Chudamani available as a DVD set.

Morty, a lot of what you talk in your blog is echoed in Advaita the philosophy that I have just explained. Advaita means “Indivisible” or “Nondual”.

I recommend that you folks can go through this philosophy, through the books and DVDs I have mentioned.

Take a look at Shelly’s parenting course that has some of the best material I’ve ever seen on parenting. http://parentingthelefkoeway.com.

Thanks for taking the time to post.

Love, Morty

This is sooooo true! I was made aware of this while working for a city job in NY and the civil servants were in the same exact job for 40 years, and never changed (not even hairstyles!) and were miserable all their lives. That comfort zone made them sink and rot there, so to speak. The problem with this is, they make the rest of us miserable. Or is it that we let them?

Growth is the key to success, as Steve Jobs reminded us, no matter how many obstacles come our way. It is not like successful people do not have obstacles, they most certainly do, but they never keep their eye off the goal , keep going, turn a different direction, and consider what we call “obstacles” mere nuisances.

If you need help getting rid of the belief you either can call us for a phone session (415-884-0552) (we have a 25% off Xmas sale for this week only), or you can take our course to learn how to eliminate beleifs yourself.

Let me know if I can help.

Love, Morty

I would like to say to you that 10 years before I became a world champion dancer (and British Champion for 3 years running) I would have been laughed off the stage. There was no way I was good enough to compete, I had given up dancing as a teenager and had fallen way behind by about 5 years.

When I went back I had to battle against the feeling that I would never be good enough and against many of my peers and their families who patronised me and humoured me when I tried so hard in class. But the passion I had for dancing was so strong it overrode everything.

I spent thousands of hours practising, constantly over and over. I went to competitions and fell, came last, cried , was frustrated, but with the help of an amazing teacher and my own tenacity after 10 years I won. That’s not to say I never felt crushing disappointment, anger, frustration, feeling not good enough etc

But I now realise that this is the path to success, it is not an easy ride, but when you absolutely are in love with what you are doing, it is as necessary to take these steps as it is to breathe.

Well that was my experience anyway and now it is teaching me something about other areas of my life.

I wish you all the success in the world with your guitar.

GO FOR IT!

Awesome discussion! I want to throw in my two cents worth. My experience so far has been that I have had the “fire in the belly” for as long as I can remember, which would be the desire to master my art, playing guitar. Along with that, I have also had the limiting belief that there was something missing in me, like genius or ability like a prodigy would have, that would keep me from ever mastering my instrument. Also, I had the belief that what made me good and acceptable is that I never give up. So the result would be frustration; always wanting to improve but not having the belief that would allow me to put in the time necessary to get better. You can see how these two limiting beliefs actually worked against each other to keep me where I was, and not growing like I could.
Where I am now is using my “fire in the belly” or passion for my craft coupled with the belief that anything is possible, along with the knowledge that I can actually change my brain in a positive way to make great strides in honing my ability to play the guitar. And guess what, I am having a blast and learning to play things that I had previously thought were beyond me! This is good stuff!! Keep spreading the word!

My turn to make a cuppa and this this over, Kaaren. xxx

I think we can also have a mixture of the two mindsets. I became a World Champi0n dancer after years of massive input and effort. My belief was so absolute that I COULD do it, that any pessimistic reaction from others, any failure, any mistakes that I made, were insignificant, because I had already achieved my goal in my mind. It had already happened in my head and there was no way it would not come to pass.

However, there have been other areas of my life where I have been fixed and didn’t believe I could….

….actually as I write this I realise that the thing I was massively successful at was related to a talent I had developed and my belief was that this was something I was good at and born with……hmmm…….

…..I think I am having an epiphany as I write this…..maybe my mindset has been more fixed than I realise and that would absolutely explain why have struggled massively in other areas where I don’t have the belief that I am talented enough or clever enough to succeed…….

WOW!! I am actually shocked here as I type this, this explains so much to me…

I have to make a cuppa and think this over

x

It never occurred to me that I was always trying to focus on being smart and focused less on learning. Like I have to prove myself over and over. I wonder if this has anything to do with me failing at exactly the same business six times over ten years. Not changing to a new business but always trying to prove I could be a success of that business.

Regards

Wayne

I’m really happy to hear that the free belief-elimination program worked for you.

Let me know what you think after completing the Natural Confidence program.

Love, Morty

We are just completing a LBP training and will be announcing another one next week to start in January.

If you are interested in learning how to use the Lefkoe Belief process to eliminate your own beliefs or to help others eliminate beliefs, you can register next week.

Love, Morty

Yes, there can be many additional beliefs.

Love, Morty

best regards
Mayuk

Yes I am very interested in helping others eliminate there beliefs.Its always been a passion to help others grow, but up to now nothing has truly worked. South Africa has one of the highest violent crime rates in the world. If we could help these people change there conditioning and beliefs we could have a great impact on crime.

Regards

Onewayne

I don’t think I can explain it any better than I did in my post.

In order to understand the distinction better you would have to practice identifying and then dissolving your “occurrings” many, many times. This is one of those things that can only become totally real when you experience it.

Love, Morty

Regards

Pawan garg

I’m not clear what you are confused about.

Your statement is a belief, it is not something you can see, it is not reality.

Is it a limiting belief? All beliefs are by their very nature limiting.

How does that belief affect you? I would have no way of knowing.

Love, Morty

Thanks for taking the time to post.

One subtle point: Realizing we are the creator and that all our beliefs are just the meaning we gave to meaningless events does not eliminate any of the beliefs. Each belief still has to be handled separately, one at a time.

Love,Morty

Regards

OneWayne

I tried to purchase your product but it would not except my card for some reason. I then sent an Ticket to you guys stating can I buy the product through Pay Pal its now been about 3 days and I have not heard anything?

Kind Regards

Wayne

”I believe that that all realities, whether they be in my head or indeed in a concrete reality, are ALL an illusion”.

If this a self-limiting belief and how does it show up for me?…

When I do it your way, I can’t find the spirituality that I believed this was all about. Am I really that far off course?

Have I totally lost the plot or can anyone else see what I am trying to ask?

Kudos and love to everyone in the process of awakening to the wonders of ourselves and the world we find ourselves in.

Its the not the first time I’ve encountered situations like this and as Morty said when I get that feeling I tend to investigate. I’ve had a lot of experience in these areas and as much as I like helping others, its not my passion.

You know know Lauren Thom Hartman says that everyone born has or is a genius. I happened to read several of his books after someone I know suggested I read Indigo children. Ahh, life’s chain of events, lol.

Even Dr Riggio says yesterdays teachings are already out of date. I for one happen to agree. I think your work and his are a nice compliment to each other.

I love this post.

People are the expertsof their own lives… which includes business. When the psychological baggage is eliminated and old beliefs are replaced with new, more empowering beliefs, people take action… The actions they know will bring them closer to their goals faster.

I’ve actually written a blog post about a powerful process that I give to people to reprogram their negative, non-supportive beliefs.

You can read it here: http://www.millionairementorstoday.com/?p=315

I’m following your blog since long, I’m trained in Carkhuff, CBT, REBT and Transactional Analysis, hence, I have a basic background in Psychology.

You have simplified the whole process of eliminating core beliefs which cause dysfunctional emotions and behaviors.

I’ve one question which I’m trying to find an answer to:

We say that events by themselves are meaningless and we see them in a certain way and give them meaning, in other words they OCCUR to us in a certain way.

Hence we should not give meaning to an event.

But there are certain events in our day to day life where people do not always say things directly (say in an office environment where there is lot of politics), if one tends to ignore such events, then in the long run, don’t you think the person will be in more practical problems? which may lead to more emotional problems?

So is it practical to completely shut our inner voice? our judgements about events? our perceptions? to ignore the apparent meaning in an event (though we assume events are meaningless)?

Thanks and regards,
Sajet

Beliefs are beleifs, anyplace in the world.

It is possible to set up any type of educational system, anyplace, depending on the country’s beleifs about education.

Lover, Morty

It’s not a question of selling more and more. The question is: does learning ever stop?

If a teacher continues to develop additional useful material that you cannot create on your own, is there any reason you can’t keep studying from the teacher?

I’ve developed some of my most powerful matrial in the past two years and I hope to do even more in the next few years.

For years I helped people eliminate beleifs, which made a profound difference in people’s lives. Then I figured out how giving meaning to events, moment by moment, also had a profound impact on our lives and wasn’t the same thing as beliefs. So I figured out a way to help people stop giving meaning moment by moment.

Who knows what’s next?

Love,Morty

Sounds like you are doing some really interesting work on education.

I’ve been interested in what makes for a “good” education since I had two children who needed to be educated. I’ve read a lot and learned a lot, and still have a lot to learn.

But whatever the “answer,” we are going to have to change some beleifs to be open to anything fundamentally different from what we have now.

Love,Morty

Thanks for taking the time to write a great comment.

Love, Morty

A belief is a statement about reality that we feel is the truth. This is the way reality is. Iam …. People are …. Life is ….

Conditioning is a process where something gets conditioned to produce a specific response. For example, you can condition being rejected to cause fear, or being told what to do to produce anger.

I have several blog posts of beleifs and conditioning. See http://mortylefkoe.com

Love,Morty

best regards
Mayuk

Thanks for your interest in our work.

I have found in working with over 13,000 people that so-called habits usually just disappear when the beliefs that caused the behavior originally have been eliminated.

For example, when you eliminate all the beliefs on the Natural Confidence program, procrastination just stops. You stop being concerned with the opinion of others. Etc.

Love, Morty

Thanks for telling people about our work.

Yes, we do have an affiliate program for our Natural Confidence program. Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/partnersignup.

If you can any questions, please call us at 415-884-0552.

Love, Morty

Glad to hear that our work is proving so valuable for you.

And if you think eliminating one belief is exciting, wait until you eliminate the 19 beleifs on our Natural Confidence program and notice you no longer are concerned with the opinions of others, an increase in confidence, etc.

Let me know what you think/

Love,Morty

Do you have any type of affiliate program?

Personally speaking the belief that many of those loa teachers were promoting, I attracted that into my life, is not a very healthy way to look at life. At the time I questioned it and then thought, maybe they are right, so I gave it a shot and it only sent me in the wrong direction and further away from where I wanted to be in the first place.

Each time I got on board with that stuff I had a sense of enthusiasm, that turned into frustration and eventually more courses, and different “teachers” Each time I felt as if I had failed to get it, or as one teacher believes, ” if your not getting it then your resistant ” .

Instead of allowing that frustration and anger to defeat me I asked myself a simple question, and thats when I found your course. Yes the changes are noticeable enough, so after taking the confidence course I ordered your book. I’m just gonna see where all this goes. I was looking at your occurring course, but I will consider that once I read the book.

I can’t begin to tell you how much time and money I’ve wasted in that area.

Anyways another stream of thoughts came to mind regarding the us of a. Oprah did a show on the happiest places to live in the world. My thought after watching was why not implement the best of the best right here ?

I agree with you with regard to your insight about competition. If it creates win win then its a good thing, otherwise it creates ill will, lol.

I recall when Obama got into a pissing contest with North Korea about nuclear weapons. It upset me because what the leaders have been doing amounts to nothing more than the actions of a dysfunctional parent. The old do as I say but not as I do. Yes I wrote a rather long letter to the white house and the core idea was you don’t have the right to tell anyone how to live their lives, not now, not ever.

The motivations I had in doing that had everything to do with knowing myself and the gift i have for leadership. I don’t know what I love more art or leadership. I’ve had hands on experience and even went to school for leadership. I’ve read many many books on the subject as well.

Before I became a single parent I had a great job in management. I had a reputation that proceed itself, the pay sucked but it was a learning experience that I’ll cherish for the rest of my days. There was a vp there that I often brainstormed with and something she said I’ll never forget. She made a point to tell me what she had said to a seminar leader once. She saw something in me I didnt see in myself. She told that leader , you see that young man there, he’s gonna go far someday.

When I was going through my divorce things came to a head and I walked away from that organization. I just felt as if my kids were more important than working for a place that was changing its mentality from a heart centered to a bottom line business. I’ve been self employed ever since.

I rebelled as a child and not in the best of ways either. I got into drugs and drinking to numb myself from the anger I felt. It didn;t work though, lol. At the time I was also on a quest to discover why people behave badly so to speak. I’ve gotton my answers. Now I’m at a point where I’m not sure where to go.

Out of curiosity have you ever read Anastasia ? I happen to agree with most of what’s been said, especially when it comes to mother earth and just how badly our society has treated her. I made a comment to someone about the expansion in sedona. I think they should be ashamed of themselves for allowing that to happen. That space belongs to eveyone and theyve ruined it all for the sake of a buck.

Are you using an iPad or iPhone? Presently our programs use Flash and iProducts don’t use Flash. We are int he process of switching formats so you will be able to run on programs on iProducts.

If that is not your issue, please try closing your browsers and trying again. When we try it it works so I’m not sure why it doesn’t work for you. I’m truly sorry.

Love, Morty

There is a belief in business that one, meaning the CEO is more valuable than the person who sweeps the floors for instance. The thing is you can have the greatest idea on the planet but without others your idea or vision is useless.

I often wonder why the US has taken on the role of ” peacekeepers” when they haven’t a clue, lol, how to achieve that goal or ideal. I think that in the US we’ve been led to believe that our model of democracy is the ultimate package and yet we have more problems than you can shake a stick at, lol.

And here’s the crux of that belief, yes we need these politicians to solve our problems, lol. It reminds me of a parent who never taught their children how to solve their own problems. It’s unfortunate but many are still sucking mommy’s tit. lol

A thought provoking article. Here are some thoughts that it provoked in me.

1. The most Basic skill that anybody has to master is problem solving.
2. The next skill is the ability to identify a problem before it becomes unsolvable. (too much resource spent for too little gain). Only a crisis or total breakdown with force a solution to be found.
3. The next skill has to be the ability and willingness to take ownership for what happens in your life. Tied into this is the willingness to experiment and try new things. Willingness to put your existence on the line if need be.
4. The ability to overcome adverse circumstances is a basic survival skill. I am not talking of situation specific skills, I am talking of the mental framework you have when you encounter adversity. Occurrence handling should be a basic skill taught to all sentient beings.
5. The most basic duty of all education has to be the ability to create a mental model of the universe that is accurate and realistic and equips students with the ability to survive and thrive in this ever changing world.
6. The skill that everybody needs in today’s world and does,nt get at school is teamwork and brotherhood. The version that is taught everywhere simply teaches you that you belong to a team or a fraternity and only victory and annihilation of all other teams is the end all and be all of teams. People belonging to other teams are inferior or deficient in some way. Folks in your team are cool or hot or hep, all others are trash. How many of us think of ourselves as a human and a child of light ? We think we are Americans and the guys in Afghanistan are bozos, heathens or hoodlums. Guys in Afghanistan think Americans are Satanic, ADD and OCD patients and out of control control freaks. When are schools going to teach that we are all passengers on the same ship called earth and that this boat has sprung a leak and it needs to be fixed.
7. When will schools teach that our bretheren are still arriving and they will not have a pot to piss in, if we continue the way we are going. I am talking of the future generations of man that are yet to come. I am talking of the future generations of other species yet to come.
8. Schools teach analysis, classification and differntiation and how to break things down in order to understand what things are made of. While this is important, what is vital is that schools teach synthesis, commonality and integration and allow stidents to understand how things operate in this brownian motion based world we all live in.
9. Morty makes the point that everything including knowledge is speeding up and folks need to constantly adapt going forward. This reminds me of what happens to brownian motion when the medium is heated. Maybe Arab spring, Europe Spring (or is it Autumn ?) are symptoms of things coming to a boil ? Look at the speed at which recessions are occuring in time. We are getting busts at ever increasing frequency. Does it remind you of how water boils ?

If you can understand what I am indicating, your education has not been a total waste. If not, well, its too bad that guys like me have to sink along with you. But that is life, and one can only make the best of something that he has in hand.

Cheers !

I would have no desire to sell more and more. I think thats one of the greatest flaws with many of the teachers out there.

No I haven’t heard the natural confidence dvd. I’m still working through Morty’s program, plus I’m doing Joseph Riggio’s work as well. TCP is what thats called.

A thought came to mind though after reading your post. It’s all possible that I am not really stuck, that like the prize fighter I am once again in preparation mode for what’s next, or what it is that I’d like to do next.

Someone I know suggested that I get some of my newest photos printed and get involved more in the gallery scene. He’s a teacher and I’m also considering going back to school for a degree in art. Not because I need a degree but because of where it may lead me.

I didn’t leave on the best of terms where my old “spiritual” teacher was concerned. I fundamentally disagreed with the philosophical approach she was using. I think that many of the LOA teachers I’ve encountered have done the same thing. I’m not saying it’s wrong in and of itself but the real test for me is noticeable change in a short amount of time. So far I like Morty’s program.

Regards,

Nitin Divekar (India)

god only knows I tried. she was deaf and I often wondered if it wasnt mom who caused that in the first place. Yes mom beat me so bad once I thought she wanted me dead. I can laugh about that now, but what bothers me most is all that airy fairy crap I gave her thinking it would help her get past being deaf.

I do feel stuck, I have for months now.

My thoughts were yeah right I told my mother before I was born that she had my full permission to abuse me. At some point I conceded that maybe they were right, after all what do I know. I do know that Dr Phil would more than likely say to those people are you nuts ?

I grew up thinking that god must have hated me and I was being punished. lol. Yes there is a little bit of bitterness in me towards that group. I’ve spent years and money i didn’t have doing every possible method they teach to no avail.

I’ve come to the conclusion that most of them are just as screwed up as the rest of us. At least now I know what not to do.

I work on houses for a living if you can call it that. I hate it. I do love photography and art though and am hopefull I can transition my life towards that field as a way of earning a living. Only time will tell.

I can relate to the suicide as I felt that way as a freshman. At that point I was pretty screwed up. I was either going to kill myself or fight back. I chose to fight back.

I’m on number 14 and what I really wanted most of all was loving kind parents. I feel sorry for my birth father. He’s been living with guilt for many years now. Yes we’ve talked since that time. The last time I saw him was in may of this year when I told him that my sister had died of cancer. She didn’t deserve that.

Ironically my fathers new family got everything I didn’t growing up.

Mom’s in the nursing home now, 3rd time over the past several years. She has phase 3 alzheimers. I haven’t been to see her since my sister died. It’s almost as if I just don’t give a damn anymore.

Many of us see subject matter (content) as a vehicle for learning life’s important things – things you will need all your life. I have written several books in education, but nothing like the one going on with a group of very smart feet-on-the-ground educators, all of whom are working in the schools in some capacity, or have retired. Our model is an amalgam of best practices…what has already been proven to work…but put together in a cohesive, meaningful, and (dare I say it?) ENJOYABLE manner.

Learning should be like that hobby you may have…the excitement on getting to indulge in it – even if for a short while, the eagerness with which we devour the latest edition of the hobby’s journal, and the enthusiasm of working on a project in that hobby area. Learning should mostly be like that. All of it keeping us ready and able to handle the next thing…whether today or 20 years from now.

There are BASICs we all need…but even those are fun to learn when in context of being part of some thing/activity you are enthused about. I remember wanting to be a certified diver and went through some training spread over ten weeks held at our local YMCA. We had a book and classes every Tuesday night. We had to have our own scuba gear for the class or could borrow our instructor’s equipment. I became so frustrated as week after week went by and we weren’t even in the water; yett I devoured that book, poor thing was dog-eared and had two or three different colors of ink underlining things each time I reread the chapter for the week. I could not wait for Tuesday whiling away the time reading articles or watching videos by Cousteau over and over. <====THAT kind of regard we need for learning.

Our new model – which will also be a manual – is months away from being published. But I think it will make a major contribution to REALISTICALLY reforming education in a way that works. It is simple. Not easy – but simple, applicable, useful, and – most importantly – meaningful. And I think meaningful is the key word. Right now our country is in a Race to Nowhere educationally, and hungry for leadership and direction that truly exhibits its care for children in a way that eventually benefits us all educationally.
Thanks for reading. Keep up the stream of consciousness, Marty.
Tony
P.S. Oh, Affirmations DO work but the formula is so specific and exacting that few wish to mess with it, i.e. it takes work. EEK! hahaha

Thanks for taking the time to post your suggestion.

Most people who just “do” the Lefkoe Belief Process are not able to help others eliminate beleifs. Some people can learn it that way, but most people have to be trained to use it effectively. Our process is more complex that Byron’s four questions.

Many people who have figured out how to use it on their own or after training help friends and family all the time. I wouldn’t want to have these people answer a call to the Lefkoe Institute because I wouldn’t know if they really knew how to use the Lefkoe Belief process effectively and I wouldn’t want them representing our work incorrectly.

But if they want to help people they know, then that’s no problem, and people do that every day.

Love, Morty

The one my children went to is a great example: The Mead School in Greenwich, CT. Call them and ask if they know of any schools in your area.

Love, Morty

We were considering homeschooling when we found an incredible alternative school when we lived in CT: the Mead school in Greenwich. If we hadn’t found that, we might have tried homeschooling.

I think most public schools are toxic environments that kids have to overcome for the rest of their lives.

I think there are far more advantages than disadvantages to homeschooling if you have the time to do it.

Love, Morty

I agree with Lauren’s comment. I agree that some things can only be learned by repetition. But there is a difference in someone choosing to learn a skill because one is interested in it and someone being told they must learn a skill by repetition that they have no interest it.

Also, there is a difference when most of education consists of learning skills by repetition.

Love, Morty

Personally I don’t think much of affirmations. I’ve never sen them work, and maybe they do for some people.

The major issue is not what positive beliefs do you need to create, but what negative beliefs you have that are getting in the way. Our Natural Confidence program would help a lot.

Love, Morty

Please let me know how the project in Romania goes. I’d love to hear.

Love, Morty

Yes, those things should be part of a “good” education.

Thanks for taking time to post.

Love, Morty

Well you know the answer I came up with was nothing. This has no bearing on how to live a happy healthy life. Idiots.

Something I’ve learned since then is I don’t believe in the concept of judgement as it’s taught by many of those masters of the secret sect. After all what do they really know other than their own experiences with consciousness. After having gone through roughly half of your course I have to say what do any of us really know for certain about life and why we are here.

I don’t deny that the world events taking place right now are in their own unique way telling us as a society that change is needed. As Einstein said insanity is doing things the same way and getting the same results. That simple analogy applies to just about every aspect of human life as we know it.

It’s not just the education system that’s dysfunctional. It’s parenting skills, government, world peace, business, etc etc. It’s almost like a disease who’s time has come to be eradicated once and for all.

I found school to be absolutely dreadful after Elementary schoo,l and I couldn’t wait to graduate. If I had it to do over again I would have dropped out as early as I could and gotten my G.E.D. And then go off to College or start my career at an earlier age.

Education needs to focus on independence, interdependence, creativity, emotional maturity, and creative problem solving abilities.

Reply

I would like to know of any schools that currently teach with this strategy. Are there?

Thank You Morty, I always enjoy your posts.

Judy

Wonderful, timely article. Educators themselves are now seeing the impotance of character over test scores, as they see that test scores alone do not get the person through life, and this is so true! I see high scoring people broke and living off their parents and self-made people flying though life! I wish society would awaken to this, though. Society continues to judge.
This new system of education will take a while to implement as people stray away from it, as people aske themselves of its outdated significance and effects on their life.
Thank you!!!!

In Canadian schools,and I mention Canadian because I don’t know much about other country’s educations systems, my kids struggled through the “Discovery Method” of learning. This method challenges students to figure things out for themselves and come up with their own solutions. It tries to teach them to think for themselves to understand what they are learning at a deeper level. By nature it is a frustrating system as you don’t get to do things in a comfortable, repetitive way. You are forced to constantly struggle to think for yourself.

When I went to school it was more of a rote learning method. Having been brought up in that earlier paradigm I used to think the Discovery Method was a bad thing,as I felt my kids weren’t learning the facts that they need to know, but I have since changed my mind.

I have had the good fortune to travel to India through my work and my impression from working with people there is that they are much better at doing things consistently and following prescribed methods than we are but struggled with problem solving. (I would love input from people who went through the Indian education system.) From that I saw the benefit of what our educators are trying to do. The good news is that our education system is moving in the direction you are describing.

I wonder what beliefs the new paradigm comes from that we will eventually let go of as we move on in this ever changing adventure.

Love,

Frank

Good analysis of the condition of our education system. And it got worse when measuring the results of information passing became popular. As you noted, entire countries are rated on how successful their schools are at passing the prescribed information on to the kids. And in order to cram as much useless information into those young brains, they’ve given up on the holistic approach.

There was a time not many years ago when the school systems where I live decided to stress self-esteem in the students. Then along came the standardized testing to make sure all districts in the state were meeting the arbitrary standards.

When you stress upon kids that they’re to learn a predetermined amount of information, they’re naturally (most, anyway) going to see that as the end goal. Done. Finished.

The lucky kids are the ones whose parents instill a curiosity and desire to learn in them. Never finished.

Owen

Thanks for sharing your breakthrough. I’m so happy you have gotten so much value already.

Let me know what happens after you eliminate the 19 beliefs on the Natural Confidence program.

Love, Morty

As soon as I can, I’m buying the program. Thanks!

I love my parents very much, but there was a lot of violence in our house growing up. It never felt safe to be just me, there was so much else to think of.

My mum is an amazing lady and my dad is not a bad man but did bad things when he was drinking. I have come to terms with that and I know they did the best they could with what they knew and what support was available at the time.

They also both strive to help me so much now that I am an adult, so it was such a relief to discover that unconscious belief and to eliminate it. It is outdated and actually not true! I am sure I will discover more residual beliefs as I go along, but I feel able to deal with each one as it arises.

Thanks again for everything you are doing Morty. I for one appreciate it so much.

Love Rachel

I’ve never herd the belief the way you put it, but I have had clients who blamed their parents for what was wrong in their lives and wanted to fail to prove to their parents how bad they (the parents) were. If they succeeded they would be letting their parents off the hook.

Love, Morty

I would like to share a discovery I have made.

I have had a truly fantastic week (as my previous posts explain). Another belief that came up for me was “I do not deserve to succeed”.

I have been working on this one this morning and as I was working through it the damn burst. I realised that “I do not deserve to succeed” was really “My PARENTS do no deserve for me to succeed”.

Wow, I couldn’t deny it’s truth for me because I cried like I was a child, It just burst forth.

I feel very definite that I have worked through this one today and I feel kind of free and light.

I am interested to know if this is a belief you have come across before?

Many thanks again for being such a guiding light
Rachel

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I would really like to try your technique.

Kind regards

Karen

Thanks Morty,

Pawan Garg

Now I’m going to respectfully disagree with you. I’d guess you’ve never worked for the people I work for. They might not use the words “it can’t be done” but might say “we’re not going to do that”. The administrator where I currently (but not for long) work is a control freak who will shoot down the best ideas – I know, I’ve made suggestions as to how things could be done better. So I guess what really can’t be done is get her to agree to anything she didn’t think of.

Yes, there clearly can be a bunch of beliefs that can get in the way of us taking action. There usually are.

And the statement, It can’t be done, still is never true. Maybe it can’t be done given the beleifs I have, but as soon as I eliminate the beliefs I’ll be able to do it.

Love, Morty

I can understand why you have the point of view you do, but I respectfully disagree. There are always people telling you that what you want to do it impossible, including bosses.

But all you know for sure is that on a given day, the day you asked you were told no. You don’t know if you’d get the same answer on a different day, or if asking a different way might get you a different answer, or if having someone else ask might get a different answer, etc.

The people Steve Jobs worked with, including outside suppliers, told him constantly that what he wanted couldn’t be done. And after he urged them on, they managed to do what they had considered impossible.

Most breakthroughs are accomplished after many people have said they couldn’t be done and have done all they could to keep it from being done.

Love, Morty

You’re so right, as usual. But I think there can be times when “It can’t be done” is accurate: When the people you work with say “It can’t be done” and shut down the idea. For their own reasons and because of their own beliefs. That’s frustrating! Thomas Edison and the Wright brothers had to do it on their own because no one else believed it could be done.

Have just seen your post, have added another post below about how I have eliminated a belief today.

Thank you Michael for taking time too.

Isn’t great to make a discovery like this?

I mean it Morty – you’re probably all still asleep over there and meanwhile I am here 4 hours after posting the above and my world has changed.

I mean it.

Thank you so much for commiting to helping others. What a difference you have made for me.

Rachel, do yourself a favor – go to Morty’s FREE page at: http://www.recreateyourlife.com/free and eliminate a belief you have about yourself for free. The belief “I’m not good enough to succeed” is one you’ve probably been living with for a long time – but you can eliminate it in minutes FOREVER. And for free! Not too shabby.

Next, to Morty:

I’m working my way through my beliefs, eliminating them one at a time and I want to thank you for taking on the challenge of presenting your program to the world. I owe my current clarity, focus and productivity to your courage in taking on what you did not yet know how to do.

To everyone else: It can be done! Like the shoe company says, “Impossible is nothing.”

Wow! I have been feeling so so down this last week. I am going through a feeling of complete apathy, hopelessness and sadness.

I want to be a successful writer and I have been trying so hard to find a mentor and to learn new the things I need to know to succeed. I am a positive person most of the time, but occassionaly I feel this way.

The internal battle goes like this: I can’t do it (but inside I know I can) but outside “I CAN’T DO IT” (major internal battle BUT YOU CAN!!!) etc etc It stems from years of being a square peg in a round hole. I have broken out of that mould, but still have that feeling of “I’m not good enough to deserve to succeed”. And a paralysing fear of disappointment.

In this post you wrote something that hit me between the eyes and stopped me in my tracks:

“Doing more of what we did yesterday isn’t very difficult”

God but that is so so true. I need to make little changes each day, what CAN I do, What WILL I do, When will I do it?

Thank you Morty

I feel better for reading your post, way better

It is difficult to explain this fully on a conceptual basis. When one experiences what I am saying, it is much more real.

Essentially, events have no inherent meaning. So any meaning we give events is in our minds, something we made up. If we think it is “the truth,” we are always wrong, because there is no one “right” meaning for events. What I call “occurring” is meaning we have unconsciously and automatically made up for events in reality — that we substitute for reality and think is the truth. It never is. So if we recognize the distinction between real events and meaning in our mind, we can dissolve the occurring/meaning.

It is always valid to look at events and make a conscious inferences based on prior knowledge and all the circumstances. But this conscious inference we know is only a possibility that needs to be confirmed. We don’t think occurrings need to be confirmed because, for us, they are reality/the truth.

Logic is relevant to conscious inference; it is irrelevant to occurrings.

Hope this helps to clarify the issue. People in my Lefkoe Ocurring Course spend 10 weeks making this real and learning how to identify and dissolve all their occurrings.

Love, Morty

Ahmad

Thanks for your nice note. Comments like these are what inspire me to keep going. I intend to share this with our entire staff at our next meeting.

Love, Morty

Learn how to find and eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that limit your freedom.

Love, Morty

Your work has been instrumental in my success as a coach and therapist. In the past few years I have done literally, hundreds of LBP sessions, and the results are astounding. Its the cornerstone of my practice.

I really, really appreciate that you generously and selflessly share these breakthroughs and thoughts with the world. I am glad that you and I are living on the planet at the same time! And I think your work will have a greater impact on consciousness and parenting that anything else available, at this time in human evolution.

I once heard an essay called “my only defence for having lived”, and the final question the author asked was “are people glad that I have lived?” Well, I am. And I think a million more are at least equally glad, and the generations to follow will know your name and recognise your contribution to the mental, emotional and spiritual freedom that they get to experience because of your work.

This is evolution.

All the best,

Your number 1 fan,

Jonathan Turpin
Johannesburg, South Africa

I’m glad you found us. There is a lot of useful material here. If you have any questions, please let me know.

Love, Morty

Thus, I will make sure that I read and re-read the blogs so that the knowledge filters down my brain and permanently settles for ever.

Many thanks.

Pawan Garg

Eliminating these beliefs has been very helpful. I didn’t realize how many i had until going through the program. (and i had a great childhood!) Thanks

The situation you relate is more likely to result in the beliefs I’m not worthy, I’m not loveable, I’m not deserving — than Mistake and failure are bad.

Love, Morty

You might choose to grieve for a time, but being overwhelmed with grief for a long time can be stopped by dissolving meaning.

Love, Morty

best regards
Mayuk

That’s the whole point: you haven’t received a consistent message form outside. You have added your own consistent meaning to events that have no inherent meaning. What you think is in the world is actually in your mind.

Even if some people have rejected you, that says nothing about you or how other people will treat you. Being rejected by a few people has no meaning — except the meaning you give it.

Love,Morty

We have a program that we guarantee to significantly improve self-confidence by eliminating the beleifs that undercut self-confidence.

Check it out, it will make a significant difference in your life. http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

Love, Morty

I’m sorry to hear about your situation.

Change the meaning you are giving your situation and the stress will disappear — not the problem of not having money. You still have to find a way to earn a living, but you can do it with or without stress.

Without stress is better.

Love, Morty

Congratulations on not giving meaning to the abuse you suffered early in life. Dealing with what actually happened and not the meaning you made in your mind enables you to move forward effectively.

Love, Morty

If I had never been abused, I never would have become the person I am today. I LIKE the person I am today, so I am at peace with my past.

Thanks for the post!

As a very young child, the world revolves around us. We are very self-centered. So we view everything as being about us. If mom and dad are upset, it’s because of something I did.

Also, mom and dad are adults and know what they are doing, so if there’s a problem it must be my fault. If mom didn’t want you to try new things, did they all involve having to buy you things?

Love, Morty

Also, I don;’t see how money played a role in your beleif being formed.

I think the meaning we give to events is usually given unconsciously and is determined largely by our beliefs. Logical explanations for the events are largely irrelevant.

From working with over 13,000 people it is now clear to me that events have no inherent meaning, that meaning is always in our mind.

It is not a question of choosing beneficial or negative meanings. Both are in your mind, not in the world.

Thanks for your comments.

Love, Morty

I think we do not choose the interpretations of an event arbitrarily; we choose the interpretations based on most-likely reasons. In your examples, people felt stressed based on most-likely consequences, which are NOT untrue. So, the challenge is how to discard the negative interpretation (which are true) and choose to focus on possibly positive interpretations. This has a connotation of denial. I always find this “denial” aspect problematic. Should we totally discard logical reasoning and choose “what is beneficial for me”? Your response will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Ahmad

When was the last time you had to run from a tiger?

We needed to automatically give meaning to events when there were life-threatening events all the time. There are very few nowadays. So we are unconsciously and automatically giving meaning to events that have no real meaning, thereby acting as if the meaning in our minds is real in the world.

Love,Morty

Sounds like you have some type of driving phobia, whihc is usually caused by a combination of beliffs and conditioning.

Love, Morty

Based on my experience no one can “upset” anyone else. The meaning you give someone’s behavior products the upset, not their behavior.

Change the meaning you give the other person’s behavior and your emotional response changes.

Love, Morty

Thomas

I can’t guess at what beliefs you have. Everyone would be different. We could help you both identify and eliminate the beleifs that are causing you a problem in a one-to-one session on the phone or on Skype.

Love,Morty

best regards
Mayuk

Thanks for your continued interest in our work.

I really don’t know if someone can train someone else. There is a lot of material involved and some people will be able to and others won’t. Even if someone learns that way, they will not learn all the subtleties that the training will provide.

We have no date set yet for the next training.

Love,Morty

I have always been attracted to the weird and bizarre in life, especially people.

If being weird means I am following my own path and ignoring all the “normal” paths (like wasting your life in a job you hate because you “have to”) then that makes me very happy….

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHAAAAAAA!!!!

And also, do you have an estimation of when the course for finding beliefs will be completed and available?

You obviously have a bunch of beleifs about relationships that are showing up with your wife.

We probably could help if you wanted to have some private one-to-one phone or Skype sessions with us. For more information, please call us at 415-884-0552.

Love, Morty

when we first got together she was it i did not know her from anything but i know i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.everything was great fo a while.i would tell her all the time that i loved her more then anything that she was my world.i would tell her constently that she was the most beautiful women ever.but i never ever got that from her she would say that she could not express herself that way.that lead to alot of fighting which i was blamed for all the time.i did sat things so i do except some of the blame.all i want to do is get our family back together:me my girlfriend which i intend to marry forever and our 4 beautiful boys with i have full custody and do not receive a dime from her.i will mstay with her for eternity and beyond!!!!we seperated she got our boys taken from CPS and i got custody because i have a beautiful house and career(software engineer).she works at a strip club and goes from friend to friend and has never had a residence of her own.in the last few mouths i have been trying my *** off to get the family back together but she still blames me for everything and all she cares about is hanging out with her frinds and going to bars.i really,really,really,really,really love her she is everything my world she is the one i want to be with and no one else EVER!!!!!!!!!!!! but sometimes i just want to leave and forget about her forever.im a single parent with 4 little boys who the hell would want a 36 year old man with 4 kids my world does not.please i need help and advise

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I went through to the eliminating belief page, and worked through the I’m Not Good Enough belief, and it definitely lost it’s power, and I felt a great deal of relief. The memory of my parents punished me for not controlling my younger sister’s behavior kept coming up during the process and the idea of them having unrealistic expectations was so helpful. And this clear memory also helps me understand how triggered I get as a parent when my child is not behaving the way my sister & I were expected to behave, and I can’t “control” him.

And while I initially felt the joy and expansiveness of the idea that I’m the creator of my life and all is possible, I almost immediately felt fear, and realized other limiting beliefs had stepped in.

Thank you for your work. I’m looking forward to incorporating this in my life!
Lisa

Sorry, at this time there is nothing available to help people eliminate beliefs other than the videos.

Love, Morty

A belief is the meaning we give our experience, so I don’t think that a belief would form from another belief. A belief would form from the manifestation of another belief.

Love, Morty

You rock, dude. Can’t wait.

First, congratulations on a major milestone of your life. I have a website that offers instruction (not related to personal improvement) and I have been contacted by people from China, Italy, UK, Eastern Europe, United Arab Emirates, Philippines, etc. so I know what it feels like to touch lives around the world, but not in a profound way like you. It must be extremely satisfying for you and your family.

I am (still) working my way through the Natural Confidence course and I have a question. Can a belief originate from another belief instead of events? For example, if I believe I am not worthy, then I could derive from that belief that since I am not worthy, people would not be interested in what I have to say. Or is it the same events created these two beliefs? The reason I am asking is I know I have a particular belief, but I am not able to associate the belief to any prior events. So I was wondering if the belief was derived from another negative belief, then that would explain why I cannot ‘remember’ its source.

Thank you,
Thomas

I believe in you and your processes. I am sure they will help and bless many people worldwide.

Congratulations and keep up the great work!

To Your Best,
Houston
Dr. Vetter – DocResults.com
P.S. I knew it was a smart thing asking you to be a co-author of Sacred Cows Dancing!

Thanks for your interest in our work.

Unfortunately I cannot answer here how to tell the difference. We will create a course at some point that will teach about conditionings and how they are different from beliefs. But that will take a training.

Love, Morty

There is a significant difference between consciously evaluating an event and making reasoned inferences, and unconsciously giving meaning to an event that you mistake for the event itself, thereby dealing with the occurring and not the event.

The former is useful. The latter never is.

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

Love, Morty

Thanks for your interest in our work.

If you signed up you will be a link to a web site with information about the training on Friday.

Love, Morty

Thanks for your interest.

We do have an affiliate program for our Natural Confidence course. Your affiliate link will send people to our free belief-elimination page, after which people are told about the NC program. You get 50% of the net from those sales.

Go to http://recreateyourlife.com/partnersignup
There is no affiliate program for the Lefkoe Belief Process Training.

Let me know if you have any additional questions.

Love, Morty

If you signed up to be notified, you’ll get a link to the training page on Friday.

Thanks for your interest.

Love, Morty

You will get weekly videos that you can access as streaming video or that you can download.

Details will be made available on the web site that will be up on Friday.

Thanks for your interest.

Love, Morty

This course will teach you how to eliminate beliefs. If you know the beliefs that cause panic attacks and social anxiety, then you will be able to eliminate them.

Love, Morty

Cheers

Ian

Really interested but the two different delivery methods have different impacts.

Thanks Morty

I’ve signed up to be notified!

Awesome
Steve Light

I am a great fan and did eradiate many limited beliefs with your method. I am very excited and would like to promote it to as many people I can. I am an internet marketer. I would like to add you to my blog..Do u have an affiliate program for your followers?
Thanks and keep doing what you do to help mankind

– John

Thank you for providing these services with the vision I share in raising the vibration of the planet. I just hope enough people who really need these courses sign up!

Great News! Really looking forward to this course.
Wild horses couldn’t keep me away

I have used your material (from the old decision maker site for around 4 -5 years) and put all my students your way through those handouts and your book. I think your work is great. However ….. This belief and ocurrings things is interesting and I understand the distinction and the intent behind making the distinction there might be situations in which the meaning is open for interpretation.

Your example of the boss “she doesn’t trust me, she doesn’t like me, or I’m going to get fired. That is the meaning you have given to the boss’s question. In reality all that happened is that she asked you a question”.

It is my experience that intuition is the same as ‘pattern recognition’ we have developed pattern recognition so as to survive. the different ways of seeing how grass moved on the plains let us make the distinction between wind and a predator.

To just say that an event is neutral until we give it our meaning is at a metaphysical level I would imagine accurate – things ‘just are’ – however this changes dramatically in different contexts.

We can often assume accurately (mind read) the intentions and meaning of other peoples behaviours and to deny this could hinder out survival. I understand that this does not mean something definite about ourselves – but it can.

thanks and best

Al

another important question if underneath a problem there is only a conditioning how can i understand that it is a belief or a conditioning so that i can proceed with the right process? thank you .

Regards
Mayuk

when I click on “Mail it” nothing happens. I tried few times without a success.

Olivia

I’m not sure what you did.

It sounds like you tried to eliminate a belief on your own and it didn’t work. Because people like you are interested in eliminating beliefs on your own, we have created a new on-line training to help you do just this. The training will be announced this week.

Love,Morty

Mayuk

I just hope this message gets out to LOTS of people, because it very well could create more peace on planet Earth.

Because it can be difficult to realize the difference between reality and how it occurs to you all the time, I created a course that trains people how to do that automatically. And once they can make the distinction all the time easily, they learn to dissolve the “occurring” quickly and easily.

The results are miraculous. Living without any judgment!

Love,Morty

You can have any religious beliefs or religious faith. That has nothing to do with eliminating limiting beliefs.

If you follow all the steps of the process the belief will be gone. Don’t stop to think about other theoretical issues, just complete each step of the process.

Love,Morty

Sorry you are having a problem.

I just tried it using Firefox and it worked fine. What seems to be the problem?

Love, Morty

I agree the issue isn’t public versus private, but conventional public and private versus alternative (holistic) public (like some charter schools) and private.

Our kids went to an alternative private school.

Love,Morty

So the question is not public vs. private. It is about an environment that nurtures growth and understanding the goodness in ourselves and each other.

Still waiting.

We’ll let everyone know as soon as the article is accepted.

Thanks for your interest.

Love,Morty

Anne

As a citizen of Israel, a Jew and a huge fan of your work, I want to thank you. I can now distinguish between the 3 different realities that are occuring. Until recently I didn’t know that Israel “took” Palestine’s land, and I was so angry at suicide bombers and the rocket launchers. I can now clearly see WHY they use violence. I may not agree with it, but you helped me realize that given their “reality”, anything they do and say makes perfect sense. However, I think that no matter how much grounds Israel is preparing to give back, real peace will never be. Because Palestine’s reality remain the same. They’ll still want the entire land back, so even if they see Israel’s reality, it won’t help. But the citizens of both countries need to understand what you posted here… in order to avoid further racism and violence.

Thanks a lot, take care

I like how you used the Israeli/Palestinian conflict to make your point. Two sides that have their own unique viewpoints and neither is willing to budge. Both realities are true for them so neither is technically “wrong”.

Oh, what a difficult and challenging situation that needs to urgently be resolved.

The way to deal with it is to dissolve your “occurring,” which is what I teach in my Occurring Course. When you stop giving meaning to the behavior of others, you stop having emotional reactions to their behavior.

Love,Morty

Great post! I can’t tell you how many times I used to look at people in amazement saying “how in the world can they think that way?!!” ( as if there is ony one way to think.) After purchasing your Natural Confidence course, talking to you and Shelly, and reading your many posts I now know that most of the time my reality is not THE truth but rather just A truth. It is so wonderful to know that debilitating beliefs can be changed. Obviously, you must want to change in order to change. The more people we can get to understand the A vs THE concept, the better off we all will be! Thanks for all the great work you and Shelly are doing!!

Bill

As usual you make some very good points. You make a very good distinction between reality (what’s going on BETWEEN your ears) and actuality (what is really happening).

Even the responses to what you wrote demonstrate the difference between reality/actuality. Different beliefs and occurrings allows some to perceive a need for greater sensitivity while others did not feel that particular charge in their BS-Belief System.

Just goes to show you, like my Grampa Vetter said, “We are always giving our BS but we only call others on their BS when it has a charge different from our BS. We are all full of BS-Belief System.”

To Your Best,
Houston
Dr. Vetter – DocResults.com
P.S. I appreciate your co-authorship on “Sacred Cows Dancing Volume #1 Financial Enlightenment For Today”.

I’m trying to share this article with my children but it doesn’t seem to work.

Thank you.

Are you sure? Isn’t the vast majority of Palestinian people peaceful and just trying to make the best out of a sad and difficult situation..?

I know you added that you were giving a “condensed description”, but isn’t giving such a description “dangerous” considering the seriousness of the situation in the Middle East and considering that peace will never be achieved without a great sense of sensitivity and nuance on all sides?

That said, it’s one thing to “learn” something (like this concept) and quite another to remember it and make it part of your basic behaviour!

Thanks for your interest in the course.

It should be available in a week or so.

Love,Morty

It should be available in a week or so and we’ll let you know

Thanks for your interest.

Love, Morty

regards,

Line (UK)

Love is both feeling and doing not just doing. Unconditional love does not necessarily mean commitment to the relationship. For example, if you are no longer in love with your spouse or if your spouse is abusive in any way, you can probably still continue to practice unconditional love (very difficult, only if you are sufficiently spiritually evolved) but may still decide to leave the relationship.

I guess the word ‘love’ is used in a very broad sense in the English language and a general love towards a family member is not necessarily the same as romantic love.

It is true some marriages have a deep connection and the couple may experience unconditional love.

In fact, marriage, particularly the monogamous relationship that is the norm in today’s world, is the most conditional of all human relationships. One promises eternal fidelity and companionship till death to another person. No fidelity, no trust, no marriage.
We have all sorts of clauses in the marriage contract:
Do you promise to love me and only me as that special someone?
Do you promise to share physical and emotional intensity only with me?
Do you promise to stay with me when I am broke, disabled, no longer attractive, through all the possible fights and disagreements, even when I don’t fulfill any/all of your needs?
There is no guarantee that you will not feel trapped in a marriage or that you feel that you love someone else more than your spouse or that you later find that you are incompatible in many ways that you never fathomed on your starry-eyed wedding day.
The doctrine of unconditional love is to be taken with a pinch of salt when it comes to actively forming close relationships. If you could love everyone unconditionally, why even bother to date? The ancient arranged marriage system was a lot more honest in this respect.

On the other hand, I find that ties of blood such as parent-child bonding or sibling relationships or even close, long time friendships are better at unconditional love.

Glad our work has been so useful.

If you want to eliminate a belief a day, would you be interested in learning how to eliminate beliefs? We will be offering a new on-line course in the next few weeks.

Let me know if you would like information about it when it becomes available.

Love, Morty

That wouldnt mean we live in a world without morals, more that what happens in the world doesnt change our morals! we dont based them on happenings.

Because if you look it like this; Hitler could have been borned, or he could just be “skipped”; never borned. The world -political etc. situation would look different – but nothing basic about people, human nature, you and me, would change if he wasnt borned… so that happening – holocoust- is irrelevant to our morals. Its just something that happened somewhere.

A client must be able to follow the steps of the Lefkoe Belief Process. Although every child is different, I think we need someone who is at least 13-14 years old.

I think our work can be useful with ADD and ADHD and stress.

One thing about working with children, it is difficult to work with them unless their parents also have done our work and know what it is and support it.

Love,Morty

Does your method work with young children who have ADHD, ODD, sensory disorders, and PDD- NOS?

Thank you
jo

Cheers,

John

I’d also like to know about education for ML facilitator – how long does it last? I was thinking maybe I could go next summer to USA to do it (I will also work there over summer so.. maybe I could do it while there). I am still college student (sophomore) so I dont know does education require BS degree or something? I am psychology major.

If you could give me email where I can ask you all these question, because I am awkward at speaking English over phone so I hesitate to call for now

Thanks

How can you overcome these beliefs?

We have a program that eliminates limiting beleifs that you can use for free at http://recreateyourlife.com.

:Let me know what you think.

Love,Morty

I’m glad our work has been so helpful to you.

And feel free to use my name as a verb!!

Are you going to join our next Occurring Course?

Love, Morty

You don’t need to talk to anyone about your beleifs.

You can use our free belief-elimination program to eliminate a few of the most common limiting beleifs. Try it. http://recreateyourlife.com.

Love,Morty

I’d first like to say I love your recreate your life program. I’d like to ask you a few personal questions. Is there a way we could talk or email each other?

Venessa.

Mayuk

I am so obsessed with your work that I even had to invent a term that I use when I talk to my friends just for laughs – Mortyfy yourself! haha!
whenever i am saying how i will improve something/someone I am talking aboub process of mortification!

Just wanted to let you know – you’ve got a verb in my dictionary!

Yes, eliminating beleifs generally changes your occurring in the future, but no matter how many beliefs you eliminate, you are still likely to have occurring unless you use my process or something else to create new neural pathways that bypass the meaning making part of the brain.

Love,Morty

It seems to me that the most important area of self-work would be on beliefs. Change beliefs and even some of the occurrings will start to dry up because the belief was the cause of the specific interpretation. When the belief changes, the interpretation will likely start to change too. Have you found that to be true?

An ancient Inca sees an eclispse of the sun. To him it means the gods are angry and he is very frightened. You and I see the same thing and have no worries whatsoever.

Morty, congratulations! Everyone should read this. In fact, world will be better place when kids learn relation between beliefs and reality, and how to manage beliefs in elementary school.

In short people, you are what you decide you are. If you believe you are great, you’ll become great. Also, if you think you can’t, you are still right. It’s that simple.

We probably will create a course next year on the Lefkoe Stimulus Process that is used to de-condition conditionings. In the meantime, take a look at the Table of Content at http://mortylefkoe.com. I’ve written several posts with the steps of the LStimProcess and how to find relevant for specific problems.

Thanks for your interest in our work. Please don’t forget to tell people about my work and send them to eliminate some beliefs free at http://recreateyourlife.com.

Love, Morty

Mayuk

Mayuk

This morning, I’m wondering what other beliefs I have they are limiting me. I can describe the negative aspects such as social awkwardness, nervousness, social inept etc, but I just couldn’t figure out or describe what the limiting beliefs are until I read your post. I have the same exact beliefs as you! It’s true, like what you said at the start of your video, many people share the same negative beliefs.

The two beliefs you mentioned: “I always felt that people don’t want to be around me” or “People aren’t interested in me and in what I care about”. These two beliefs I can relate the most. In school, my teacher paired us up according to our first name. The boy which I’m paired up with didn’t want to stand beside me when lining up. He would always move to the back and talk to others. We barely talked. We are also paired up to do science experiment during science lessons and one day he decided to swap places with someone else. The other guy felt reluctant to change though in the end he did, and become my science partner for the rest of the year. As a young teen, I’m not sure if I was being too sensitive, but what I get out of this is “People don’t want to be around me”… and eventually “People hates me” and “People find me boring”. This haunts and cripples me for most of my life. I become very passive. Other people usually approach me first. If people don’t talk to me, I will automatically think they dislike me, find me boring or don’t want to be around me. Eventually, my social skills remain stagnant into my adult life. If you don’t practice, you don’t improve. And when I don’t improve, I attribute my lack of social skill to you know what “people don’t want to be around me”. So it’s a vicious cycle!

I do have quite bad experiences in school, others include:
- I was in the class committee as class secretary, and I wasn’t call upon for the class committee meeting.
- A classmate greets me and I greeted him back. It was too soft, he didn’t hear me and call me arrogant in my face.
- When I refused to let my classmate copied my homework, he touched me in appropriately.
- When I’m close to one of my guy friend, a classmate called us gays. And the friend distant me.
- My form teacher called me a nerd even though I’m first in class.
- When I was playing with my friends during recess, my classmates call us childish.
- When I tell my dad I want to change school, he brush me away saying that the school is good instead of hearing me out.

As I listing these down, it now seems almost laughable that I’ve been taking to heart these things for years now! There are just some nasty people I met in my school and I’ve been letting them affect my life for so so long.

I’ve been trying to get rid of all these bad incidents for the longest time because every time I’m in a group, I feel alone. I feel people doesn’t want to talk to me and didn’t like me. I always reaffirmed with the incidents above.

But after doing your program, Morty, I realize all the above incidents are meaningless. It’s the meaning and belief I have formed from this incidents which I should eliminate. The incidents are part of my life, everyone does get some bad days sometimes, but we shouldn’t just let these meaningless incidents dictates our thoughts and feelings.

Thank you very much! =) I want to get rid of at least one limiting belief each day.

Thanks for the suggestion. We will look into it and see what can be done.

That belief is one of the 19 on our Natural Confidence course.

Love,Morty

According to Blake, it feels like flying. It’s a real adrenaline rush.

I guess it’s like mountain climbing or any other sport. Why do it? Because it’s fun for you. From my point of view why would anyone want to hit a little white ball over and over until it drops into a tiny hole hundreds of yards away?

Love, Morty

I’d like to offer another perspective. Not everyone who does the ‘boring’ 8-5 does so because of fear. Also, not everyone wants or needs life to be a daring adventure. For me, just getting out of bed is a pretty daring adventure. I have a genetic condition that makes my connective tissue not work normally. My ligaments don’t hold my joints together properly. So I never (literally, never) know when or if a joint will fail, mid-step, mid-sleep, mid-speech. My motto is ‘It’s not just a body, it’s an adventure.’

I work among an army of 8-5 people. I agree, most of them would be deathly afraid to do something daring or fun for pay. but not all. And more than a few have taken such jobs so that they can find (and fund) their daring elsewhere.

I’m a bit rambling. My point is that there isn’t one way that’s good for all. Some people don’t want daring adventure, and it’s not because of fear. I know you know that though.
love you tons,
Gracie

Glad you found this post useful.

I’ve never done the brain research, but I suspect there is a real change in the brain when beliefs are permanently eliminated. ANd a change in the brain when we stop giving meaning to moment by moment events.

Love,Morty

Life begins where your comfort zone ends.

I live through the window of fear….I yell at my son after the third time of asking him to do his homework….he has been watching tv or having a great time playing with his toys (using his imagination) or playing with his neighborhood friends (social interaction)…..I have been told by the mothers that the kids either are at the top or at the bottom at the school he attends, there is no in between….when he graduates from elementary school (now grade 2) he will either have the choice of going to a good or bad school determined by how hard he works now. The fear in me has been triggered by the thought of him having to attend a bad low level school way in the future, and I spend my afternoons in spats of anger when he doesn’t complete homework, now 3 days in arrears. He says the teacher doesn’t check now but she used to in grade one, so he believes he doesn’t have to do it if it’s not seen….but we know he must develop skills to survive in any given field in this world….but we know a child grows into his own as he goes along and worry and angst should have no place in this as it will only kill the genius in him….mommy doesn’t love me, she’s always angry so I will do it just to please her. I know this is the wrong way.

From today, I will break this window of fear….fearful thoughts of getting less in the future….but I will live with love in my heart and with love in my eyes for my children who are always looking out from eyes of pure joy and love. I will try to do the same. Compassion and empathy are my helpers. My intention is to help them grow, to love themselves, to believe in themselves and thus I will love myself more and believe in myself more. I hope to break the window of fear that I have been looking through this whole time. I usually call in God when at a loss but in actual fact he has been here there whole time surrounding us, supporting us with what ever we have chosen to do. The universe says always YES. Goodbye to fear…YES….Hello Love…Yes. Today’s epiphany will change my choices for tomorrow thus leading me down a new road of more conscious choice.

In love and gratitude for lessons,
Theresa

Just wanted to say your experience reflects mine.

I felt that anger and resentment too and after a bit of searching I realised that it came from the belief that I had left it “too late” and that my time had passed.

I truly don’t believe that now and am very happily pursuing what I had wanted all those years ago. Let the past go, let the anger and resentment go, you will waste time!

Follow your passion and give it your all…..starting Now!

Wishing you all the best
Rachel

Doing what I love for a living is something that I always wanted to experience. Blogging has provided that experience for me.

When I think of love, do I need the absence of love to feel love? Perhaps I simply enjoy it and do not know it’s absence.

I agree with you on most scientists. A few who skew towards the new age often use quantum mechanics to assert ability of human consciousness to determine reality macroscopically. In truth, I find this compelling, though not provable yet. Possibly improbable.

I will spend more time with your writing. What I am most interested in is trying it out and seeing what possibilities for joy it could hold. Would such perspectives take me towards or away from truth, joy, love, peace, power? Does it come from a desire to accept or to control?

Will think and feel about this more.

Hope all is well with you and Shelly!

Stefan

I am a Nanny for 3 girls for the past 8 years since the oldest one was born. All three girl love to draw from very early on. You can see it is their passion. They get lost in time when I give them piece of paper and some pencils. They even express how much joy drawing brings to them. Their Mom is in medical business. Few times when they had project for a school where they had to describe what they want to be when they grow up they wanted to write artist. Very quickly they were corrected by the siblings with: “Remember, Mom doesn’t want you to be an artist. She wants you to be something where you can make lots of money.” With disappointing voice the 5 year old replied: “Oh, yeah! Than I think I will be a doctor.” I found this really sad.

Thank you for your post. Your words ring so clearly that it is deafening. I really appreciate your heartfelt view of reality.

Dave

thank you for the post – it was really great and very up to the point with my own situation. I understand that parents are protective, they care about their children but when it goes too far, it’s not letting their children live the life they want and the way they want. I wish my parents could read this article and understand the message in it. Anyway, thanks for sharing.

Have a great day, Irene

THANKS SIR AND GOD BLESS YOU.

Great sentence! I’m in a huge change process and sometimes it is challenging for me to adapt to ‘this now’, however I took one decission: I will go for it and live the life I desire to live, I do not know how things will develop, but what I do know is that I live according to my values and vision.

Thanks Morty for posting this!
Eva

I really loved this article. You wrote it from the heart and the truth of it shines through the content and connected with me. This one is getting printed out and stuck on the wall!

I would love to read other articles like this – please keep them coming!

I think this is great advice and I will always keep it with me when I get fearful for my child’s safety. Yes we have to be responsible and provide a safety net, but a safety net should not become a wall that stops our children from taking risks and living their life to the full.

I too teach my child never ever to get a “job”. I tell him to make his Passion his Profession and his goal is to WANT to get up everyday and go to work.

I am 37 and only now strong enough to ignore the feeling that I really “should” be normal and go back to office work. I am doing what I love – writing and creating. I feel at peace with where I am professionally and I know I will make a good living from it, if I keep working hard and believing in it.

Too many years were spent in dread absolutely hating my jobs, but feeling like I wasn’t normal if I didn’t do the 9-5. Those days are well and truly over.

Thanks Morty for posting this.

Rachel

Don’t worry about infinity, just imagine your hand expanding until it fills the universe. When it fills the universe there is no longer a not hand, at whihc point the hand disappears.

Tell me one thing that exists with a not that, describe it.To say something exists that cant be described is to change the meaning of “exists.”

I’m not sure that the ruls of quantum mechanics apply to objects we can sense with our sense organs. I don’t think most scientists would claim otherwise (although some LOA people might).

We certainly do create our experience of life. And on some level we create our reality with the distinctions we make.

Love, Morty

Here are some random comments:
I can’t really do the hand visualization. As the hand grows, for me it stays a hand. For it to jump to infinity there is a conceptual hiccup for me. I don’t userstand infinity so it feels like an incomplete or un-useful thought experiment.

Regarding “things”. Im a little unclear in me on the difference between naming, vs. Objects. It may seem brutish, but I would argue undistinguished objects, or ones with no opposite are still there, they are simply undistinguishable by name or concept to us.

All in all, sometimes I wonder if manifestation is simply the human desire to create something out of nothing.. And we simply cannot. And it is our desire to fight mortality that we try in many ways.

That’s not to say we can’t play a huge role in creating our experience of reality through your methods.

However, I am open to a radically different view of reality, yet I have yet to be convinced that for instance, what happens microscopically in quantum mechanics, occurs macroscopically. And I’m a scientist at heart. I’m open to anything yet aware that my desires will lead the evidence…even now
-jon

What I know about self limiting beliefs is that the process to change these can be very layered and take time. This is not because it takes a long time to eliminate these as with using your method but because one may not even be aware that the belief is there at first.

I did try your method and chose probably one of the most common beliefs, “I am not good enough”. I definitely felt a shift in my energy and a lightness surface when I tested it. I have not yet tried to imagine a situation in the future to test it as I reckoned I would soon discover in reality whether it was gone forever or not or whether there was some morphed aspect of it still lurking around.

Thank you for the opportunity to try your method. When I can I will invest in your whole program and I am also interested in your new on-line training program to teach people how to help people eliminate beliefs so could you please add me to that list too.

~Marcus

Thank you for this helpful reply.

I can now understand that if you are offering a specific service to clients which focuses on solving a problem (comprised of several beliefs), then it would make complete sense to have an accurate means of measuring the effectiveness of this approach, ie the client says that the presenting problem, a relationship issue for eg, has been resolved.

That said, I still think it would be infinitely useful, to a client who wishes to do so, to be able to eradicate individual life limiting beliefs such as ‘I am not loveable’ or ‘men/women are dangerous’, simply to remove their undermining influence from one’s life, which in and of itself could improve one’s overall life experience immeasurably, whether or not it has resolved a bigger problem.
In a way one could say that the life blocking influence of a single negative belief is in and of itself a problem which can be easily solved by applying the LBP.

I guess that is another way of saying – any incremental progress would be good news for me and is my personal goal, for the moment!

Thanks again,

Jackie

Can I change from being a person that doesnt like to socialize much into a person who likes to ? From not being talkative with people I dont know well, into being talkative and open? Some people say that’s a matter of inborn personality to bigger degree. If you’re an introvert – meaning you recharge by being alone, instead of extrovert – they recharge with spending time with people, that’s inborn and you cant change this. So they say. I’d like to be extraverted because most interesting things and jobs and fun things in world are with people, out there, and not in my room, so I’d like to gain energy by being active?
Is that possible?

Thank you!

The sources could be different for different people, which is why it would be difficult to create a on-line generic product for everyone.

In one-on-one sessions we are able to help each client figure out the source of his/her beleifs.

Love,Morty

I’m curious what events can cause me to think the beliefs and conditionings on the “Men having a hard time approaching women” sheet….. Will I form them only from interactions with women? Or I might form a belief like “I’m annoying/not interesting” from interactions with my parents or even guys?

I would love it if you could give me exactly what events cause each belief and conditioning on that sheet

To address the comments of Thomas (and others) above, I think eliminating beliefs doesn’t guarantee that the right person will show up, but it does mean that all resistance to our efforts in the right direction will be eliminated. That way, when a person does visualization and affirmations for what they want, they aren’t silently sabotaging their own efforts. ( i.e. visualizing a great relationship while having a core belief that we don’t deserve one cancels out our efforts)

As I said in an earlier post, L.O.A. is scientifically proven to work, so we just have to get out of our own way to see results.

Thanks so much for telling me how our work has helped your relationship with your husband.

Congratulations.

Love, Morty

You can increase your control over your life by creating new possibilities for action that didn’t exist before, which you can do by eliminating limiting beliefs. That doesn’t insure that something will happen, but it will give you a better chance of making something happen.

Love, Morty

Thank you for taking the time to reply. From my understanding, eliminating a lot of negative beliefs will not result in the right person showing up. It will only result in the wrong person not showing up. In my pursuit of personal development, I am interested in discovering how much control we have in creating our reality; none, some, a lot. And if the answer is something other than none, then I wish to discover how to do it.

To increasing our knowledge through thoughtful discussion, I am respectfully yours.

Thomas

Here is the answer I sent Jackie who made the same suggestion you did. I wanted to make sure you saw my answer.

Thanks for the suggestion.

Here’s my problem. You aren’t interested in eliminating beliefs. You want to solve a problem. And if I tell you a few beliefs that might contribute to a problem, and you buy them and the problem is still there, you will write me back and say it didn’t work.

In fact, the program I sell you will work, in other words, the beliefs will have disappeared, but because you didn’t find and eliminate all the beliefs causing the problem, the problem didn’t disappear.

I listed above some of the beliefs that cause some problems, but there are a lot of other variations of relationship problems and I haven’t done enough research on each problem to identify all the beliefs that most people have, like I did for a fear of public speaking or procrastination or worrying about what others think of you.

So although I am very interested in helping people with relationship problems, at the moment the only way I can be sure of helping them is in private phone or Skype sessions. Hopefully that will change at some point.

Love, Morty

I’m sending you the same answer I gave Jackie as you both made the same point.

Thanks for the suggestion.

Here’s my problem. You aren’t interested in eliminating beliefs. You want to solve a problem. And if I tell you a few beliefs that might contribute to a problem, and you buy them and the problem is still there, you will write me back and say it didn’t work.

In fact, the program I sell you will work, in other words, the beliefs will have disappeared, but because you didn’t find and eliminate all the beliefs causing the problem, the problem didn’t disappear.

I listed above some of the beliefs that cause some problems, but there are a lot of other variations of relationship problems and I haven’t done enough research on each problem to identify all the beliefs that most people have, like I did for a fear of public speaking or procrastination or worrying about what others think of you.

So although I am very interested in helping people with relationship problems, at the moment the only way I can be sure of helping them is in private phone or Skype sessions. Hopefully that will change at some point.

Love, Morty

Thanks for the suggestion.

Here’s my problem. You aren’t interested in eliminating beliefs. You want to solve a problem. And if I tell you a few beliefs that might contribute to a problem, and you buy them and the problem is still there, you will write me back and say it didn’t work.

In fact, the program I sell you will work, in other words, the beliefs will have disappeared, but because you didn’t find and eliminate all the beliefs causing the problem, the problem didn’t disappear.

I listed above some of the beliefs that cause some problems, but there are a lot of other variations of relationship problems and I haven’t done enough research on each problem to identify all the beliefs that most people have, like I did for a fear of public speaking or procrastination or worrying about what others think of you.

So although I am very interested in helping people with relationship problems, at the moment the only way I can be sure of helping them is in private phone or Skype sessions. Hopefully that will change at some point.

Love, Morty

Certain beliefs will lead you to seek out a certain type of person. Eliminating the beleifs will stop that behavior. Getting involved with abusive men is an example of this.

But I’m not sure that eliminating a lot of beleifs will necessarily result in the right person showing up. In other words, I’m not sure that beliefs determine what shows up in reality, as distinct from changing behavior and emotions.

Thanks for your interest. Let me know how you feel when you complete the NC program.

Love,Morty

But where do expectations came from? Our thoughts and feelings. And where do they came from? Our beliefs. And how do we eliminate our negative expectations? By eliminating our negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors. And how do we do that? With the process that Morty and Shelly have kindly shared with the world. The LOA does not give you what you want. It gives you what you most deeply believe. And if what you most deeply believe about yourself and life conflicts with your hope of being loved, the deep beliefs will win. Do we really think a person who has all the negative beliefs listed under abusive relationships to become involved with a loving and caring individual? Or do we think they will attract and become involved with an abusive individual? Both the LOA and the LM are about changing yourself. Not others.

With all respect.
Thomas

Great suggestion. I will ask my web master to add that starting next week.

Love, Morty

As for the Law of Attraction, new science has proven that it works. I think people attract what they believe at their core, so until they do the Lefkoe method, they’ll just attract what they don’t consciously want! The L.O.A. is about synchronicities, being at the the right place at the right time and being open to the right people, not about changing others.

The Lefkoe Method helps you with what you can change. The rest, you got to learn to live with it.

Another very welcome and informative post – thank you.

Yes, any/all of the above beliefs priced and made available to purchase as individual video downloads might be one possible solution – then customers could choose/mix/match the applicable ones for their own situation.

I can see at least 15 that I would pay for, from several of the above groups you have listed.

There we are. Customer satisfaction guaranteed. Easy huh?!

Thanks again!

Jackie (UK)

Congratulations! Yes, life does change when you eliminate a belief. And when you eliminate all the beleifs that cause a specific problem, the problem disappears.

Love,Morty

Please add me to your mailing list.

I think you and your wife are amazing.

Samantha

Can I become outgoing person who enjoys socializing? I am quite a recluse, and been said that is “nature”, thus, given. I feel like I got bad cards in life because of that, because it is clear that social networking is very important, for jobs, but as well for being accepted. I am not asking about social phobia and like, I am specifically asking about needing people, wanting to socialize.. because even if you’re not phobic being too withdrawn is worse than being a social butterfly. Again, feel like I got bad cards being like this.

Please answer, I am really desperate, been searching for fix of this for 10 years without (much/any) help. Whole my life suffers, I am avoiding new social situations so most jobs are out of the question because I cant talk to people in office, I lost a few years of college due social dysfunction, I cant have a boyfriend because they leave me when they get tired of my dysfunction, i also think that I am unattractive because they get bored with me because I dont want to do anything or go anywhere.. I am imersed in my thoughts 99% of time. Just like everybody else, they are more attracted to energetic, bubbly, enthusiastic girls.

So my life’s pretty much nonexistent and huge struggle because of socializing. I know huge part of this is self-esteem beliefs and social fear, but what about “nature” ? Will getting rid of limiting beliefs make me how I want to be – bubbly, energetic and having fun a lot.

Thanks Morty.

We can definitely do the former, totally determine how you experience the events in your life. If you complete the Lefkoe Occurring Process you will be able to do that easily.

You also can take actions to get what you want, and if there are no beliefs in the way serving as barriers, and you have clear goals and a good strategy, you have a good chance of getting it. But I don’t know any way to guarantee that you will be able to produce specific results in reality all the time.

Love, Morty

Thank you for your response. I will certainly review your extensive blog postings. To help clarify my definition of manifestation, I have concluded that people generally view life in one of two ways; Life is determined for you/it is fate/karma/God’s will and the best you can do is decide how you are going to react to life and make the best with what you were given. Or, you are the creator of your life. The later philosophy assumes there is a how. How does one create their own life? So my definition of manifestation is how does one consciously create one’s life?

Thank you.
Thomas

Thanks for your interest in our work.

You can handle social anxiety with the Natural Confidence program. Check it out at http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

I’ll write a blog post about relationships.

Love,Morty

Maybe you have the belief “Being responsible is a burden”.

Lack of self-acceptance is a function of negative self-esteem beliefs. The Natural Confidence program should help a lot of self-acceptance. For more information, check out http://receateyourlife.com/naturalconfidenc.e

Love, Morty

Other than a few articles I’ve written on the topic (such as http://www.mortylefkoe.com/table-of-contents/#) there is nothing else I can tell you. We intend to create a course designed to help people find the relevant beliefs for specific problems early next year.

Love, Morty

We will be creating a new course, probably early next year, on how to identify the beliefs that cause specific problems. In the meantime, here is a link to a blog post with a tip on how to do it. http://www.mortylefkoe.com/find-beliefs-underlying/#

I’m not sure how to manifest things in the world. I’ve written a bunch of blog posts that cover this issue. Take a look at the table of contents of my blog: http://www.mortylefkoe.com/table-of-contents/#

Love, Morty

We will be creating a new course, probably early next year, on how to identify the beliefs that cause specific problems. In the meantime, here is a link to a blog post with a tip on how to do it. http://www.mortylefkoe.com/find-beliefs-underlying/#

If the problem is an emotion, and if it persists after all the relevant beliefs are eliminated, there is probably a conditioning involved.

Love, Morty

The Natural Confidence program is designed to get rid of social anxiety. You can get more information about it at http://receateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

Love, Morty

Ultimately anxiety is the result of a perceived threat to your survival. That can result from negative self-esteem beliefs and other types of beleifs. The Natural Confidence program should go a long way in reducing anxiety. And then we would have to figure out what specific beliefs you have that cause your anxiety.
http://recreateyourlife.com/naturalconfidence.

But apart from the Natural Confidence beliefs, everyone is different.

Love, Morty

At the moment I have no idea how I could help people find the relevant beliefs and conditionings and eliminate them in an exchange of emails. If I figure out how to do it, we will offer it.

But if it took as much time as the phone sessions, we would have to charge the same amount anyway.

Love, Morty

We already have a WAIR? program. What more do you want on that topic?

Love Morty

Seems you are on track. Now how to eliminate this. It is not a belief, more of fear.

Thanks for taking the time to present your point of view. However, based on working with over 13,000 clients in one-on-one sessions, we have found that almost ALL self-esteem beliefs are formed as a result of interactions with parents in the first 5-56 years of life. People who don’t think that is the case realize it is after working with us.

There are other beliefs formed later in life, but not self-esteem type beliefs.

I wrote a blog post that explains why this is the case. http://www.mortylefkoe.com/wonderful-parents/#

It is not about blaming parents or bashing parents, it is about identifying the true source of beliefs. It is not about allowing clients to come up with whatever source they want, or whatever source they are comfortable with; it is abut finding the real source. And this is our experience. Take a look at my blog post and let me know what you think.

Love, Morty

It could well be that our beliefs are responsible for our “shadow” side.

Love,Morty

You get get our interview here. http://www.theawareshow.com/attract/silver/?detail=1

Love, Morty

First of All — Thank You for EVERYTHING you do!!!

My recommendations for new course ideas are as follows:

– Overcoming Addictive and Self-Defeating Patterns/Behaviors (i.e. Smoking, Drugs, Alcohol, Sex, Pornography, Gambling, Obsessive-Compulsive Shopping/Spending/Stealing, Swearing, etc… [you've already addressed Over-Eating])

– Achieving Healthy Life Balance (i.e. Nutrition, Sleep-Wake routine, Exercise, Prayer/Meditation, Creativity, Education, Work, Play, Intimacy, etc…)

– Principles for a Happy & Healthy MARRIAGE/INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS (since you and Shelley can speak with EXPERT AUTHORITY from years of personal EXPERIENCE).

– And please seriously consider re-scripting ALL of your courses to include/embrace the fact that beliefs can be imprinted (and come from) ALL SORTS of people at ANY point in a person’s life — NOT just from one’s parents… and NOT just from one’s childhood. I’ve personally suffered many damaging physical, mental and emotional scars at the hands of siblings, extended family, teachers, neighbors, strangers, house-fires, natural catastrophies, etc… during EARLY childhood… right up to the present day with jealous/abusive ex-lovers, back stabbing “friends,” business colleagues, etc… and ALL of these traumas can be equally as intense, painful, mis-interpreted, subconsciously embedded, and otherwise “HARD TO GET OVER”… as those generated by parents during childhood.

The reason I mention this… is I’ve tried telling other people in my life about your courses and shared with them some of the free belief elimination tools/modules that you offer online… and many of them interpret your method as “parent bashing” and simply reject your approach and refuse to learn more out of innocently/ignorantly mis-interpreting your message (because they feel like they have wonderful parents and/or had a wonderful upbringing and don’t want to dis-honor them in any way, shape, or form)!

However, many of these people have had other EQUALLY AS VALID childhood traumas, at the hands of people/events/circumstances (other than their parents), that were just as real and significant for them, which they could then use to more easily relate to your particular method/approach with… if you allowed for it in your language in your trainings.

I hope you understand what I’m trying to say…

Ultimately it’s about finding the VOICE OF THE CUSTOMER and speaking to them through THEIR OWN VOICE (which would require you leave certain elements as VARIABLES for each client to FILL IN THE BLANKS with their OWN particular life situations, etc…)

Hope this Helps,
B~

Benjamin B. Bado

p.s. I REALLY respect you and your wife… and all of the work that you’ve done… and I’ve learned a TREMENDOUS amount from your teachings… Please know that the above recommendations were written with LOVE, RESPECT, & COMPASSION.

Cheers!

(^;b

I believe you can diffuse these types of complaints by taking on a more HOLISTIC viewpoint that offers the client a “straw-man” approach with more variation as to the original source of the “wounding”… by allowing the client to name/substitute ANY VARIABLE as their “offender”

I’m not really sure. I haven’t read much about the “shadow side.” I guess it is one way to look at human nature, another is to see behavior as a function of beliefs.

Thanks for your interest in our work. Don’t forget to try the free belief program. If you see the difference, let me know. http://recreateyourlife.com.

Love, Morty

I thoroughly enjoyed hearing you speak on The Aware Show teleconference.
Are you able to reconcile for me the following 2 questions:
1) How do “beliefs” fit in with other authors’ concepts of “archetypes”?
2) How do “beliefs” fit in with others’ concepts of the shadow-side or the shadow self?

Thanks kindly,
Susan

The beliefs on NC should get rid of most stress. Research has shown they reduce stress by over 50%.

If they don’t then you have some specific issues that we could only discover in a private phone or Skype session.

Love, Morty

Thanks you for the fast reply.

So there aren’t beliefs that cause the gas. Then the best way to stop this is to eliminate the beliefs that cause the stress. Usually I get stressed when I’m just sitting in class thinking that I may let gas and make my classmates uncomfortable. I don’t know maybe the problem is that I care what others think about me, but I really wanna get rid of this problem.

If you have any suggestions to what beliefs may make me stressed I’m willing to work on getting rid of them. I tried working with the natural confidence beliefs but I cannot pinpoint which beliefs make me stressed.

Cheers,
Marius

The cause is physiological, not mental.

You have beliefs that cause the stress, but then there is something physiological that has the stress cause gas.

Love, Morty

Sorry to hear you are having a problem.

I just tried it using Firefox and it worked fine. There might be something wrong with your browser. Try using a different browser and see if that works.

Have a great weekend.

Love, Morty

This is related to Rod’s question, above –
How does one identify (accurately) beliefs and other internal limiters that began to be formed before one “had words”: pre-literal, when you were an infant?

Thanks, this is fascinating!

This might be too much to ask Morty but could you please write in detail about finding what beliefs cause specific problems? I know you have already written about it in the past, but I’m dying to read advanced techniques or useful tips or common pitfalls and rookie mistakes when trying to find beliefs, because I’m an amateur Lefkoe Method practitioner based off of what I read on your blog but I’m still obviously nowhere near as good as a trained facilitator, and I would really appreciate it if you could give us some advice that would help me get better with the technique. Although I suspect I’d be better off just waiting for the LBP training course.

Thanks

One, a limiting belief discovery program. One cannot eliminate a belief if one does not know what it is. Like many, I often confuse behavior with belief.

Two, you have my vote for the Lefkoe Belief Process Training Course.

Third, a Where do I go from here? program. After eliminating my limiting beliefs, how do I go about manifesting the things I wish to experience?

In appreciation for your and Shelly’s work.
Thomas

p.s. It would be nice if your video’s were iPad compliant.

As far as suggestions for new programs, perhaps you can create a program to address limiting beliefs that prevent a person from finding a romantic relationship. I’m sure some of those limiting beliefs are addressed in your other programs, but having a specific program might be helpful.

I will be writing more about eating disorders but reading about it won’t help. You need to eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that cause it.

We have helped a number of people with bulimia. Although it is a complex issue with a lot of beliefs, you can eliminate it in private sessions.

If you have any specific questions or want to set up an appointment, please call us at 415-884-0552.

Love,Morty

We already have a program that is designed to get rid of the fear of public speaking. That will help many people with stuttering.

If the problem is still there after completing that program and if the problem is not physiological, there might be a few additional beliefs after completing the fear of public speaking program.

You can call us for more information if you’d like. 415-884-0552

Love, Morty

This type of attachment is usually the result of a belief like: WHat makes me good enough or improtant is having a woman in my life (love me, be there for me, etc).

You have based your self-esteem on having a woman, so you get attached. I know as I had this type of belief when I was married the first time.

Get rid of all the negative self-esteem beleifs first and then identify the “survival strategy” beliefs about needing a woman. That should make a major difference.

Love,Morty

mayuk

All your posts are super-informative and helpful. I’d love for you to tackle anxiety. What the heck is it? Where does it come from and why does it appear out of the blue, then disappear and the reappear? This disorder plagues many people and it does not even make logical sense at all, yet it is still there. Reading about it on blogs sometimes brings on an attack, but the way you would handle it would be different and beneficial and would help eliminate this “beast” from my life once and for all. Cheers!

The program that I am desperate for would be to help me with my eating disorder–bulimia with over-exercise as the purge mechanism. This disorder grips me like a vise. I’ve tried EVERYTHING to no avail.

As well, I would really like to hear more Podcasts on anything relating to eating disorders. I have read your free eating report and have listened to the old Podcasts related to the subject.

Thanks for your great work. I wish you peace and happiness!