Comments on: How Relationships Are Affected By Beliefs http://www.mortylefkoe.com/120109/ Eliminate your beliefs quickly ... Change your life permanently—Guaranteed (R) Sun, 05 Feb 2012 17:52:59 +0000 hourly 1 By: Lax http://www.mortylefkoe.com/120109/comment-page-1/#comment-40813 Lax Tue, 04 Oct 2011 20:25:04 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=174#comment-40813 Thanks for this great post. The big question is when to decide if a belief is a limiting one or one that actually mirrors reality. For example, an older woman may feel that men generally prefer younger, attractive women and this is not a false belief, in fact, it is biological fact. However, that does not mean that an older woman cannot ever find a suitable partner and if she believes that, then it is a limiting belief. The odds against older folks in this area are real though. Another big question is how does a person decide whether to stay or leave a relationship. As for the 'negative' belief that relationships do not last, that is a fact, isn't it? They either end through death or separation. It is important to first distinguish between a belief and statistical facts. Thanks for this great post. The big question is when to decide if a belief is a limiting one or one that actually mirrors reality.
For example, an older woman may feel that men generally prefer younger, attractive women and this is not a false belief, in fact, it is biological fact. However, that does not mean that an older woman cannot ever find a suitable partner and if she believes that, then it is a limiting belief. The odds against older folks in this area are real though.
Another big question is how does a person decide whether to stay or leave a relationship. As for the ‘negative’ belief that relationships do not last, that is a fact, isn’t it? They either end through death or separation.
It is important to first distinguish between a belief and statistical facts.

]]> By: admin http://www.mortylefkoe.com/120109/comment-page-1/#comment-1706 admin Wed, 06 Jan 2010 00:52:18 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=174#comment-1706 Hi Shlomit, Thanks for your response to my blog post. I think your last paragraph is the most important. I've told my daughters that the most important thing to look for when they choose a husband is the commitment to grow, to change, to work on themselves, etc. If a spouse has that, most things can be fixed as you go along. Without that it won't take long before the relationship is in trouble. Regards, Morty Hi Shlomit,

Thanks for your response to my blog post.

I think your last paragraph is the most important. I’ve told my daughters that the most important thing to look for when they choose a husband is the commitment to grow, to change, to work on themselves, etc.

If a spouse has that, most things can be fixed as you go along. Without that it won’t take long before the relationship is in trouble.

Regards, Morty

]]> By: Shlomit http://www.mortylefkoe.com/120109/comment-page-1/#comment-1356 Shlomit Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:37:21 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=174#comment-1356 This is all very important for people to consider. Firstly, I believe that every experience one has in life is there for a reason and something the person must learn from, so even relationships that didn't work out are not necessarily 'failures.' Still, the ideal would be if people worked on being happy with themselves and their lives before they got into romantic relationships, particularly to settle down for marriage. Otherwise, if they have issues they haven't properly dealt with, or worse, are even in denial of, they will most likely bring those into the relationship. Having a partner doesn't magically make things go away, and the couple may actually serve as sort of mirrors for each other and show things more openly. Also, low self-esteem can create abusive relationships. People cannot be counting on others all the time to fulfill voids within them or solve their issues. It's not fair to the other person and is not healthy. This goes for any type of relationship. Healthy relationships are built on trust, openness, and respect for one another. A healthy level of assertiveness is also important. The difficult thing is that it could take a long time to get to a place of true love and joy for oneself and one's life. Should people have to wait so long before they allow themselves to get into romantic relationships then? I guess at least having the self-awareness and making an effort to work on oneself, and knowing your partner has or is doing so, is most important. This is all very important for people to consider. Firstly, I believe that every experience one has in life is there for a reason and something the person must learn from, so even relationships that didn’t work out are not necessarily ‘failures.’ Still, the ideal would be if people worked on being happy with themselves and their lives before they got into romantic relationships, particularly to settle down for marriage. Otherwise, if they have issues they haven’t properly dealt with, or worse, are even in denial of, they will most likely bring those into the relationship. Having a partner doesn’t magically make things go away, and the couple may actually serve as sort of mirrors for each other and show things more openly.

Also, low self-esteem can create abusive relationships. People cannot be counting on others all the time to fulfill voids within them or solve their issues. It’s not fair to the other person and is not healthy. This goes for any type of relationship. Healthy relationships are built on trust, openness, and respect for one another. A healthy level of assertiveness is also important.

The difficult thing is that it could take a long time to get to a place of true love and joy for oneself and one’s life. Should people have to wait so long before they allow themselves to get into romantic relationships then? I guess at least having the self-awareness and making an effort to work on oneself, and knowing your partner has or is doing so, is most important.

]]> By: Lori http://www.mortylefkoe.com/120109/comment-page-1/#comment-1355 Lori Wed, 02 Dec 2009 16:55:28 +0000 http://www.mortylefkoe.com/?p=174#comment-1355 Morty, Everything you write about is what I believe. I wish I could put my thoughts to words as beautifully as you. Lori Morty,
Everything you write about is what I believe. I wish I could put my thoughts to words as beautifully as you.
Lori

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