Comments on: Answers to questions about beliefs, Part 2

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 21:38:41 +0000

ok yes, I understand the difference.

Eliminating these beliefs has been very helpful. I didn’t realize how many i had until going through the program. (and i had a great childhood!) Thanks

By: Morty Lefkoe

Morty Lefkoe — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 17:56:11 +0000

Hi Karen,

The situation you relate is more likely to result in the beliefs I’m not worthy, I’m not loveable, I’m not deserving — than Mistake and failure are bad.

Love, Morty

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 18:37:11 +0000

Thank you for the response. Now i am clear on how a child thinks they are wrong or bad. I could remember as young as 7 and it was mostly with buying things. I had to know for sure what toy, food, or clothing i wanted, or my mom would be so upset for wasting. Even if it was one of my toys at home that was broken, it was like i could see her saying “don’t make a mistake or i’ll have to spend more of my hard earned money”. Even today she has a hard time justifying a fancy meal, or an over the top afternoon doing whatever we loved. It was like there is not enough so don’t waste. I took that to believe that i was not worth her money that she cherished. Do you see how i thought that? Thanks again Karen

By: Morty Lefkoe

Morty Lefkoe — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 23:05:26 +0000

Hi Karen,

As a very young child, the world revolves around us. We are very self-centered. So we view everything as being about us. If mom and dad are upset, it’s because of something I did.

Also, mom and dad are adults and know what they are doing, so if there’s a problem it must be my fault. If mom didn’t want you to try new things, did they all involve having to buy you things?

Love, Morty

Also, I don;’t see how money played a role in your beleif being formed.

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 13:09:16 +0000

Hi Morty,
I am going through the Beliefs again and had a question about the meaning assigned to an event. I am on the topic Mistakes and Failures are Bad. I remember asking to do something new and my mom would either ignore me or change the topic. It was like she didn’t want me to even try. So i had the beliefs Mistakes and Failures are bad and I should only do stuff that i’m good at. However when i look back now, i see that my mom is cheap and doesn’t want to spend the money “trying” different things. So why did I assign the meaning Mistakes and Failures are bad versus the meaning mom just doesn’t want to spend the money? Thanks Karen